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johnsae
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Posted by nov04libride
I think in order for your mom to give fewer opinions you need to prove that you are not so reliant on her. Didn't she pack for you and your DH when you went on your last trip? That really stood out in my mind that you brought all of your clothes to her house for her to fold and put in suitcases. Stuff like that makes you seem like you are unable to care for yourself, let alone a baby.I'm not saying being reliant on your parents is a bad thing, but in order for them to recognize that you are capable of becoming a parent yourself you need to prove how capable you are. Have everyone over to dinner, take your niece and nephew overnight.... It is your decision, but definitely check with a doctor first, and maybe check with a financial advisor to make sure you can either afford not to work or afford daycare.
sorry, but what is this about your mom packing for you? what is the reasoning behind it?
my mom and i disagree a lot actually....doesn't seem to be getting any easier.
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Re: Does your Mom support You
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Posted by nov04libride
I think in order for your mom to give fewer opinions you need to prove that you are not so reliant on her. Didn't she pack for you and your DH when you went on your last trip? That really stood out in my mind that you brought all of your clothes to her house for her to fold and put in suitcases. Stuff like that makes you seem like you are unable to care for yourself, let alone a baby.I'm not saying being reliant on your parents is a bad thing, but in order for them to recognize that you are capable of becoming a parent yourself you need to prove how capable you are. Have everyone over to dinner, take your niece and nephew overnight.... It is your decision, but definitely check with a doctor first, and maybe check with a financial advisor to make sure you can either afford not to work or afford daycare.
sorry, but what is this about your mom packing for you? what is the reasoning behind it?
my mom and i disagree a lot actually....doesn't seem to be getting any easier.
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That just seemed so...foreign to me having your mom fold you and your DH's clothes and underwear to put in your suitcase.
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Re: Does your Mom support You
I have always been very independent, resourceful and responsible so she has never had any reason NOT to support me.
Anyone considering TTC should speak with their Dr. first, especially if she is on meds. I think your mom is concerned and it sounds like she may have reasons to be.
Good luck!
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johnsae
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Posted by nov04libride
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Posted by nov04libride
I think in order for your mom to give fewer opinions you need to prove that you are not so reliant on her. Didn't she pack for you and your DH when you went on your last trip? That really stood out in my mind that you brought all of your clothes to her house for her to fold and put in suitcases. Stuff like that makes you seem like you are unable to care for yourself, let alone a baby.I'm not saying being reliant on your parents is a bad thing, but in order for them to recognize that you are capable of becoming a parent yourself you need to prove how capable you are. Have everyone over to dinner, take your niece and nephew overnight.... It is your decision, but definitely check with a doctor first, and maybe check with a financial advisor to make sure you can either afford not to work or afford daycare.
sorry, but what is this about your mom packing for you? what is the reasoning behind it?
my mom and i disagree a lot actually....doesn't seem to be getting any easier.
link
That just seemed so...foreign to me having your mom fold you and your DH's clothes and underwear to put in your suitcase.
hmmmm 
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by johnsae
Posted by nov04libride
I think in order for your mom to give fewer opinions you need to prove that you are not so reliant on her. Didn't she pack for you and your DH when you went on your last trip? That really stood out in my mind that you brought all of your clothes to her house for her to fold and put in suitcases. Stuff like that makes you seem like you are unable to care for yourself, let alone a baby.I'm not saying being reliant on your parents is a bad thing, but in order for them to recognize that you are capable of becoming a parent yourself you need to prove how capable you are. Have everyone over to dinner, take your niece and nephew overnight.... It is your decision, but definitely check with a doctor first, and maybe check with a financial advisor to make sure you can either afford not to work or afford daycare.
sorry, but what is this about your mom packing for you? what is the reasoning behind it?
my mom and i disagree a lot actually....doesn't seem to be getting any easier.
link
That just seemed so...foreign to me having your mom fold you and your DH's clothes and underwear to put in your suitcase.
i agree....
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Does your Mom support You
The only reason why she packed the clothes is Because she wanted too and she does not work we worked all week that week before the cruise and could not get to packing ! I told her she did not have to but she insisted. I have proven my mom I can take of a baby! I have watched my niece and nephew and my sister does want them to stay overnight at our home But we need to get 2 more beds in the other rooms before they do.Just because my mom did that for me does not make me not responsible to have a child. But i do appreciate your advice thank you! 
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by johnsae
Posted by nov04libride
I think in order for your mom to give fewer opinions you need to prove that you are not so reliant on her. Didn't she pack for you and your DH when you went on your last trip? That really stood out in my mind that you brought all of your clothes to her house for her to fold and put in suitcases. Stuff like that makes you seem like you are unable to care for yourself, let alone a baby.I'm not saying being reliant on your parents is a bad thing, but in order for them to recognize that you are capable of becoming a parent yourself you need to prove how capable you are. Have everyone over to dinner, take your niece and nephew overnight.... It is your decision, but definitely check with a doctor first, and maybe check with a financial advisor to make sure you can either afford not to work or afford daycare.
sorry, but what is this about your mom packing for you? what is the reasoning behind it?
my mom and i disagree a lot actually....doesn't seem to be getting any easier.
link
That just seemed so...foreign to me having your mom fold you and your DH's clothes and underwear to put in your suitcase.
I don't even pack for my husband.
I can't imagine my mom folding his boxers with the cute little frogs on them.
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Posted by peabody
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by johnsae
Posted by nov04libride
I think in order for your mom to give fewer opinions you need to prove that you are not so reliant on her. Didn't she pack for you and your DH when you went on your last trip? That really stood out in my mind that you brought all of your clothes to her house for her to fold and put in suitcases. Stuff like that makes you seem like you are unable to care for yourself, let alone a baby.I'm not saying being reliant on your parents is a bad thing, but in order for them to recognize that you are capable of becoming a parent yourself you need to prove how capable you are. Have everyone over to dinner, take your niece and nephew overnight.... It is your decision, but definitely check with a doctor first, and maybe check with a financial advisor to make sure you can either afford not to work or afford daycare.
sorry, but what is this about your mom packing for you? what is the reasoning behind it?
my mom and i disagree a lot actually....doesn't seem to be getting any easier.
link
That just seemed so...foreign to me having your mom fold you and your DH's clothes and underwear to put in your suitcase.
I don't even pack for my husband.
I can't imagine my mom folding his boxers with the cute little frogs on them.
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Goldi0218
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Re: Does your Mom support You
A parent always worries no matter how old or young you are. As a child, I could always count on my others advice and opinions. Now that Mom is a senior citizen and dependent on her children to manage her home and finances as well as health care, many of the roles have been reversed.
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Thank you all of your opinions I really do appreciate it, I will look in going to a Doctor again this year to double make sure I can TTC! and Also I just want to say that Because 1 time my mom helped me pack for a cruise and I explained why she did Does not make me irresponsible, Heck she still does it for my sister and her kids if they were working alot and she is Older than I! again thank you and god bless you all!
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Posted by luvsbob4603
Thank you all of your opinions I really do appreciate it, I will look in going to a Doctor again this year to double make sure I can TTC! and Also I just want to say that Because 1 time my mom helped me pack for a cruise and I explained why she did Does not make me irresponsible, Heck she still does it for my sister and her kids if they were working alot and she is Older than I! again thank you and god bless you all!
Ro- she also makes your Doctors appointments, as well as many other things that you rely on her for that you really would need to do for yourself AND your child if you decided to TTC- please don't minimize it. Like Beth said- PLEASE talk to your doctors and consider what your mother is saying to you before you jump into TTC.
raising a child is MUCH different than babysitting nieces and nephews for a couple of days at a time.
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Re: Does your Mom support You
Posted by luvsbob4603
Thank you all of your opinions I really do appreciate it, I will look in going to a Doctor again this year to double make sure I can TTC! and Also I just want to say that Because 1 time my mom helped me pack for a cruise and I explained why she did Does not make me irresponsible, Heck she still does it for my sister and her kids if they were working alot and she is Older than I! again thank you and god bless you all!
If this is true, that you allow her to PACK for you....and i do rememeber you saying a BUNCH of times that your mom makes our doctors appts...well then you ALLOW her interference.
So i think that you have to start becomming more of an independent person before you really start complaining about your mom.
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Re: Does your Mom support You
The decision to have children or not and when to is totally between you and DH. Parents can give advice and opinions, most often unsolicited, but ultimately its your life and you will be the parent. My parents aren't the most supportive, sympathetic folks, but I try to remember that they mean well and want you to be happy - it also helps, I find, to vent to siblings - b/c they can often relate, hopefully.
Best of luck in your decision and health!
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Does your Mom support You
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Posted by luvsbob4603
Thank you all of your opinions I really do appreciate it, I will look in going to a Doctor again this year to double make sure I can TTC! and Also I just want to say that Because 1 time my mom helped me pack for a cruise and I explained why she did Does not make me irresponsible, Heck she still does it for my sister and her kids if they were working alot and she is Older than I! again thank you and god bless you all!
Ro- she also makes your Doctors appointments, as well as many other things that you rely on her for that you really would need to do for yourself AND your child if you decided to TTC- please don't minimize it. Like Beth said- PLEASE talk to your doctors and consider what your mother is saying to you before you jump into TTC.
raising a child is MUCH different than babysitting nieces and nephews for a couple of days at a time.
Yes in the past My mom had made my doctor's appointment but lately I have been doing it on my own , I told my mom That I dont need her to be doing those stuff and she understands Now That I can do this on my own, I will neenie Look into going to my neurologist I am actually going to call them tuesday because I want to make a earlier appointment and I told Dh he is going with me.
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Does your Mom support You
I really thank you Ladies and I will seriously take much what you all said to thought and I know you all are saying this because you want whats best for me and Do care So I thank you again.
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MommyofG
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Re: Does your Mom support You
to answer yes my mom does support me in what ever I decide to do- BUT it does come with her advice. she will never tell me not to do something.
good luck.
and as far as having children- this is a decision you and your DH need to make not your mother. Having the house is a plus- having the money is a plus- whats the problem????? sounds like you are more than ready to start a family.
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