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05mommy09
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Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
A bridal shower in Aug.
A wedding in Sept.
A baby shower in Nov
My friend isnt even engaged yet... but her & her SO are planning on getting engaged since she just found out shes pregnant....
I think its a little much, and suggested skipping the bridal shower....
I dont think she should give up on something because shes having a baby- but then maybe since none of these plans even exsisted before finding out about the baby- she shouldn't plan everything so soon, and on top of eachother....
I dont think she was thrilled when I suggested this to her.... (this coming from someone who didnt give me any gifts for any of those "events" in my life  )
What do you think?
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
I agree that it's a little much...but my cousin did the same thing....(don't remember the exact months, but they were all very close together).
However...because it was family, I just went with the flow and went to all of them. 
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:12 PM |
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baghag
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
Posted by Princessmaris
What do you think?
A bridal shower in Aug.
+A wedding in Sept.
+A baby shower in Nov
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:13 PM |
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Christine
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
I think that's a bit much -- I get that they are all fabulous events to be celebrated but at the same time some consideration for friends and family being invited to all these events should be given.
ETA: there are certain people that will give gifts no matter what, but I think making big parties is not entirely appropriate.
I had something similar a while back:
E-party Feb
Shower August
B-Party September
Wedding - Oct
Housewarming party - Dec
All for one couple all in the same year -- then they got pg right away and the following year was the baby shower, christening, baby home party and baby first christmas party.
I felt like she was garnishing my paycheck.
Message edited 6/26/2006 1:14:24 PM.
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:13 PM |
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MABLE03
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
I agree that is a bit much in such a small window.. why not skip the bridal shower and in a few months when everything calms down have a housewarming party?
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:14 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
I think it's too much for the people that aren't close to her. If I was a close friend, I'd be giving gifts for all of those occassions anyway.
I had someone who threw:
Surprise 30th Birthday for her
Engagement Party - 2 months before the wedding
Bridal Shower
Surprise 30th for him
Wedding
All within 4 months -THAT is overkill. She thought I was nuts to suggest she forgo presents for the 30th Birthdays.
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:15 PM |
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MABLE03
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
Posted by Christine
I felt like she was garnishing my paycheck.
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:15 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
Now I had my e-party then found out I was pg. So I moved everything up- but skipped having a wedding reception, a bridal shower, etc... but did have a baby shower in Aug.
I felt that it wasnt fair to expect everyone to attend and give gifts for all these events.... those that still wanted to give- sent gifts....
Did I mention they've only been together 6 months.... so half friends and family dont know their other half....
I dont know why this bothers me- but it really does...
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:17 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
I think it is def. too much and it bugs me when people do this.
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:19 PM |
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Faithx2
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
Yes its alot to ask of people in such a short amount of time.....
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:19 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
For family or close friends, I would have given gifts for all of these things, it is just accelerated in a shorter amount of time. For someone I am not that close to, I would probably skip at least one of those events.
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:21 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
i think thats way too much.
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:25 PM |
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lululu
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
At least she's not also having an engagement party and a bachelorette! 
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:26 PM |
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BrunetteMom
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
It might seem like a bit too much but I would still partake in all the festivities. Why should she deprive herself of what I or any of her other friends did. (as far as all the different parties; just not all back-to-back)
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:27 PM |
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Heather617
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
It definitely will be alot close together but if she is a good friend who attends all of your functions then I would go to all of them. My sister did this and then insisted that she not have a bridal shower but she is my sister and I threw her one anyway. If you aren't that close then skip something.
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:28 PM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
Posted by BrunetteMom
It might seem like a bit too much but I would still partake in all the festivities. Why should she deprive herself of what I or any of her other friends did. (as far as all the different parties; just not all back-to-back)
I totally agree.
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:28 PM |
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Hi-Fi55
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
Posted by Diana1215
I think it is def. too much and it bugs me when people do this.
I agree. Sometimes people need to give others a little bit of a break.
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:29 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
I just had this last year...Bridal shower in July, Wedding in August and Baby shower for twins in Sept.
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:30 PM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
baby home party and baby first christmas party.
 W T F!!!!!!
Message edited 6/26/2006 1:32:35 PM.
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
Posted by Stacey1403
baby home party and baby first christmas party.
W T F!!!!!!
Goodness, who would even WANT to deal with all the planning? That's nuts! And when you consider those factors it does seem like a fundraiser.
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| Posted 6/26/06 1:39 PM |
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itsbabytime
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
Posted by baghag
Posted by Princessmaris
What do you think?
A bridal shower in Aug.
+A wedding in Sept.
+A baby shower in Nov
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I guess this is the main reason why people would say it is too much but, imo I don't see this argument anymore. I think for the most part a lot of parties nowadays cost wayyyy more than you ever get back in gifts - I know that was the case for my e-party and wedding (can't say for my shower since i didn't pay for it).
I think since these events are events that any of us would have why shouldn't she have it just because it is close in time? I'm all for events - I feel like they are a way to get family members and friends together - to celebrate the good times and create more memories - that's what life should be all about! Yes, its annoying when you are the attendee and I hear ya because I complain to myself as well when I am writing out the checks but, at the same time - I don't for a minute few these things as "fundraisers" anymore.
Tell her to have it - she'll never have the chance to have a bridal shower, wedding or baby shower again right? Why shouldn't she have one!
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| Posted 6/26/06 2:02 PM |
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btrflygrl
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
WAY too much....
she should MAYBE combine the 2 showers into a "New Family" shower.....
that way she'd get home and/or baby gifts in one shot.
Feeding and cleaning up all those guests would be a lot easier!
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| Posted 6/26/06 2:05 PM |
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suvenR
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
No. They're for different "life events".
But, here's what DH's cousin did, that I thought was too much:
Engaged in Feb.
E-party in August
Bridal Shower in October
Wedding in November.
It seemed like an "ooops, I didn't know about engagement parties. Now I want one, too."
Another cousin had a shower, wedding, baby shower, and christening all in the same year, but I didn't think it was too much because they are such different events.
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| Posted 6/26/06 2:26 PM |
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Beth
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
I think it's ok- just because the timeline is tight doesn't mean she shouldn't have the celebrations
she probably needs the stuff more then most people- since she doesn't have much time to get ready for all this change
I would go to everything- and maybe not spend the max- but get her something nice off her registry each time
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| Posted 6/26/06 2:31 PM |
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JRG71
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Re: Dont you think this is a litte.... "much"
Posted by Beth1210
I think it's ok- just because the timeline is tight doesn't mean she shouldn't have the celebrations
she probably needs the stuff more then most people- since she doesn't have much time to get ready for all this change
I would go to everything- and maybe not spend the max- but get her something nice off her registry each time
I agree - If this were a close friend of mine, I would go to all of the functions, and do what I could $$$.
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