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Blondie805
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engagement parties?

I think they're a nice thought, but I'm not really into them. My friend has been living with her BF for the last 3 years or so and they are getting married this summer. Their engagement party is this weekend at a catering hall. My issue is what to give as a gift? Since they've been living together they have everything they really "need". They haven't registered yet and I don't want to give money since we still have a shower , bachelorette party and wedding to go to. What do you think they are expecting? I was just in BB &B and wandered around for way too long and came out empty handed and clueless!

Posted 1/25/07 6:12 PM
 
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MABLE03
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Re: engagement parties?

If they aren't registered they are expecting cash. All the engagement parties I have attended have been this way as well.

Posted 1/25/07 6:14 PM
 

BikerGrl
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Re: engagement parties?

How about a "Romance" type of basket? If they are into wine, maybe a noce basket with wine, truffles, a nice candle ect.? It's not cash & who wouldn't like wine?!!!

Posted 1/25/07 6:16 PM
 

Little-J-Mommy
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Re: engagement parties?

you could go with a novelty item, you know something that would be nice to have but you'd never get for yourself.

like a chocolate fountain, fondue set, fountain punch bowl...you get the idea. HTH

ETA: I just thought of something else, a picnic basket with 2 wine glasses and a bottle of wine!

Message edited 1/25/2007 6:23:13 PM.

Posted 1/25/07 6:21 PM
 

justme1
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Re: engagement parties?

Or how about a movie night basket. ( I got this once and liked it)
Put a dvd, popcorn, and all different types of candy in a basket.. YOu can add candles and stuff too

Posted 1/25/07 6:22 PM
 

Alli06
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Re: engagement parties?

Most likely, they just want cash.

Posted 1/25/07 6:31 PM
 

MrsFlatbread
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Re: engagement parties?

Posted by MABLE03

If they aren't registered they are expecting cash. All the engagement parties I have attended have been this way as well.



Exactly why I would bring a gift.

Posted 1/25/07 6:33 PM
 

sirk1020
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Re: engagement parties?

how about something that will come in handy in the "wedding planning months"

subscription to bridal mags for her
and maybe Travel mag for him (For HM planning)

his and her massage GC

scrapbooks

planner

basket of champaigne and flutes


Posted 1/25/07 7:15 PM
 

Ladybug63
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Re: engagement parties?

Posted by MrsFlatbread

Posted by MABLE03

If they aren't registered they are expecting cash. All the engagement parties I have attended have been this way as well.



Exactly why I would bring a gift.



I agree. I'd give cash.

Posted 1/25/07 7:24 PM
 

Blondie805
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Re: engagement parties?

Posted by Ladybug63

Posted by MrsFlatbread

Posted by MABLE03

If they aren't registered they are expecting cash. All the engagement parties I have attended have been this way as well.



Exactly why I would bring a gift.



I agree. I'd give cash.



so how much cash??? not to be tacky, but we usually give about $200 for a wedding...We definitely can't afford that twice for one couple, especially since after their wedding in july, we have another in august and another in september (probably)

Posted 1/25/07 7:45 PM
 

Blondie805
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Re: engagement parties?

Posted by sirk1020

how about something that will come in handy in the "wedding planning months"

subscription to bridal mags for her
and maybe Travel mag for him (For HM planning)

his and her massage GC

scrapbooks

planner

basket of champaigne and flutes





thanks! those are some really creative ideas :) I think I might go with the champagne and flutes, with some other goodies, like a candle, etc.

Posted 1/25/07 7:46 PM
 

alisonggg
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Re: engagement parties?

i like the idea of a novelty gift like the chocolate fountain, or wine glasses and a picnic basket like someone said above. By no means do I believe you should be expected to give cash, it's an engagement party not a fundraiser.

Posted 1/25/07 7:49 PM
 

Collyflower
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Re: engagement parties?

How about a candle basket with this poem, we received it as a shower gift, and have given it as an engagement gift, you can buy most of the candles at the dollar tree, and get a pair of nice candle holders at Macys or someplace.
A bucket of candles that come in a pair;
Of all different colors, for you two to share;
The WHITE ones burn first, they are wrapped in white lace;
To celebrate the first night in you new chosen place;
The GREEN pair is taller and much; much thinner;
They are to burn with you first company for dinner;
There are candle to burn Christmas Eve before bed;
Your first married Christmas, that is why they are RED;
The NAVY Candles are for after your very first fight;
Use the to burn while making up all night;
PINK candles set the mood and pave the way;
For you very first married Valentines Day;
Now when you first year of marriage is through;
The CREAM anniversary candle will light for you two;
By this time we hope, maybe, just maybe;
You could burn the PURPLE pair on the birth of your baby;
And just when you thought you could put these away;
Take the LIGHT BLUE ones out for your 5th Anniversary Day;
Now just one pair left, for the big ?25?;
The SILVER Anniversary pair that will keep your love alive;
Congratulation to the both of you on the start of your forever;
Mat the two of you always be happy together;
And burn theses candles just like we said;
But please don't forget to blow them out before bed!

Posted 1/25/07 8:06 PM
 

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Message edited 3/2/2010 5:43:32 PM.

Posted 1/25/07 11:21 PM
 

monkeybride
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Re: engagement parties?

Sounds like they're hoping for money since they didn't register.

Posted 1/25/07 11:47 PM
 

LaPetiteSirène
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Re: engagement parties?

I feel like it's overkill. DH and I didn't want one. I feel like it's SOMETIMES a fundraiser for people's weddings... JMHO from e-parties that I've been to!

Posted 1/26/07 7:36 AM
 

MsMBV
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Re: engagement parties?

Posted by MABLE03

If they aren't registered they are expecting cash. All the engagement parties I have attended have been this way as well.

Ditto.

Posted 1/26/07 7:37 AM
 

cjik
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Re: engagement parties?

Cash is probably the most useful thing for them right now. The baskets are a cute idea though as well--esp. if they are running around planning a wedding, they may not have lots of time to buy specialty items.

My coworker just got engaged, and her parents are throwing an engagement party for her and her DF. She really doesn't want gifts at all, she feels people will have to spend enough on their wedding. She just liked the idea of a celebration. So I think it depends on the person and their expectations.

Posted 1/26/07 8:59 AM
 

bri1980
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Re: engagement parties?

Posted by LaPetiteSirène

I feel like it's overkill. DH and I didn't want one. I feel like it's SOMETIMES a fundraiser for people's weddings... JMHO from e-parties that I've been to!



I agree. We are not having one either. With the bridal shower and the wedding, why ask for cash a THIRD time. I just feel like its asking too much of people.

Posted 1/26/07 9:07 AM
 

JenBenMen
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Re: engagement parties?

Posted by Little-J-mommy-to-be

you could go with a novelty item, you know something that would be nice to have but you'd never get for yourself.

like a chocolate fountain, fondue set, fountain punch bowl...you get the idea. HTH

ETA: I just thought of something else, a picnic basket with 2 wine glasses and a bottle of wine!



Your baby is so cute!!

Posted 1/26/07 9:44 AM
 

PotofLuck06
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Re: engagement parties?

Posted by MABLE03

If they aren't registered they are expecting cash. All the engagement parties I have attended have been this way as well.



Same for me.....or give them a gift card to their fav. store. That's what we did cause we know we'll be giving money at their wedding.

Posted 1/26/07 9:46 AM
 

ali120206
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Re: engagement parties?

I'd do something like the champagne and flutes (that's exactly what I gave at the last eparty I went to when they hadn't registered), cake server, or a nice frame or album.

Posted 1/26/07 9:49 AM
 
 

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