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LuvMy2Girls
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Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
Here's the deal, I am not wanting or expecting anything to do with a sprinkle or a shower since I had my  May of last year and I am having another this July.
My #2's godmother and my best friend is wanting, and yearning to do something in the way of a shower/sprinkle for me next month at her house.
I do not want to feel like a fetching for gifts or money, but at the same time I really don't want to insult her. She's such a sweet person and this is just her personality and she doesn't really buy into etiquette things at all. Her wedding she seriously was the ANti-tradition bride.
Would a brunch with no registry cards, your presence is presents enough do on the invite?
How should i approach this without hurting her feelings?
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05mommy09
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
Have the party- I think the "your presence is present enough" is a great idea! Of course people will still bring a little something- but wont feel obligated!
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| Posted 4/17/07 8:41 PM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
Its just a party then? Why make it a shower at all? Just a nice dinner party and while your there, have her toast you, celebrate you etc?
To be honest, I would feel Weird and probably decline going even if it did say that about no presents, because people still feel that they are the only ones who wont have a gift and I wouldnt want to buy another baby gift for someone who recently had a baby
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| Posted 4/17/07 8:47 PM |
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nmp070106
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
Posted by dm24angel
Its just a party then? Why make it a shower at all? Just a nice dinner party and while your there, have her toast you, celebrate you etc?
i like th is idea!!!
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| Posted 4/17/07 8:48 PM |
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johnsae
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
I just have to ask...what is a sprinkle?
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| Posted 4/17/07 10:07 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
We always do sprinkles out here. I don't even think twice. Gifts are less but it's still a nice thing to celebrate. Another option is to do a welcoming once the baby comes. We've done that too.
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| Posted 4/17/07 10:30 PM |
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
I like the idea of a ladies brunch with your presence is the gift idea. I am sure people are going to bring something and that is something you can't control at all. Maybe limit it to 12-15 if you can.
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| Posted 4/18/07 7:23 AM |
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
Posted by Princessmaris
Have the party- I think the "your presence is present enough" is a great idea! Of course people will still bring a little something- but wont feel obligated!
ITA. I think it is more than enough info for it to not look like you are fishing for more gifts, but like Princessmaris said if people want to bring a gift there is not too much you will be able to do to stop them.
Enjoy!
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
Posted by johnsae
I just have to ask...what is a sprinkle?
A small baby shower..usually when its the 2nd or 3rd baby
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LuvMyBoys
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btrflygrl
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
it sounds nice....maybe just diapers and wipes since that is something you will need?
Or a meal shower? where everyone brings something frozen (or commits to bringsomething after the baby is born)
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| Posted 4/18/07 8:44 AM |
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
Donna I totally agree with you, I myself when I get your presence is presents enough invites i still bring something anyways-A 30th b day party we went too the man of honor got tons of gifts!
I didn't have a huge shower last year at all, i had 12 people there-Lots of drama caused me not to have the shower my mom wanted...
But I DON"T want to be fetching for gifts cause honestly I don't really need much baby stuff. I have all my gear, except another high chair, carseat and double stroller, but i planned on purchasing them later down the line.
I like the brunch idea or bring a frozen meal thing or diapers and wipes, cause i will def need those.
I really don't want another shower or sprinkle, I just don't know what to tell her, she's so sweet and when she gets her mind set on things, it's like crushing her. But honestly she doesn't get these etiquette things.
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| Posted 4/18/07 9:22 AM |
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by Princessmaris
Have the party- I think the "your presence is present enough" is a great idea! Of course people will still bring a little something- but wont feel obligated!
ITA. I think it is more than enough info for it to not look like you are fishing for more gifts, but like Princessmaris said if people want to bring a gift there is not too much you will be able to do to stop them.
Enjoy!
I agree. 
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
Posted by snuggleupagus
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by Princessmaris
Have the party- I think the "your presence is present enough" is a great idea! Of course people will still bring a little something- but wont feel obligated!
ITA. I think it is more than enough info for it to not look like you are fishing for more gifts, but like Princessmaris said if people want to bring a gift there is not too much you will be able to do to stop them.
Enjoy!
I agree.
Me too.
I didn't have a second shower since mine were back-to-back also. I think a brunch is a great idea for friends to get together to celebrate your new baby regardelss of whether gifts are involved.
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| Posted 4/18/07 1:31 PM |
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
I'd keep to invite list VERY short, and make sure those people are cool with the idea.
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| Posted 4/18/07 1:32 PM |
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sometimesmommy
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
Posted by monkeybride
We always do sprinkles out here. I don't even think twice. Gifts are less but it's still a nice thing to celebrate. Another option is to do a welcoming once the baby comes. We've done that too.
The welcoming scares me. Do people touch the baby alot. I am so paranoid with newborns
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
Posted by sometimesmommy
Posted by monkeybride
We always do sprinkles out here. I don't even think twice. Gifts are less but it's still a nice thing to celebrate. Another option is to do a welcoming once the baby comes. We've done that too.
The welcoming scares me. Do people touch the baby alot. I am so paranoid with newborns
If a welcoming scares you, don't do it, no one will force you to have one.
On topic, I think if your friend wants to give you a party, let her, don't call it a shower or a sprinkle. Let them celebrate you and your new DD.
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
it is very nice of her to want to honor you. if you feel uncomfortable though u should tell her. She would probably only be inviting your close family and friends anyway and most of them are probably planning on buying u a gift (even if she wasnt giving u a shower/sprinkle).
She could put something on the invite if it makes u feel more comfortable like you said "your presence is presents ".
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
I say let her do it!! The people that you wiill be inviting will most likely get you a gift anyway.... They will come to share in your happiness!!!!!!
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
Thanks everyone! She is the sweetest person I know and I will def tell her to do what she thinks is best.
It would be nice to have a get together to see my family and friends. 95% of my family live on LI, whereas I live in CT, I don't get to see them very often.
I am just worried people will def be thinking "but she just had a baby last May"
She's like family to me
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
I think that's a great idea! Everyone loves a brunch too!
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| Posted 4/18/07 3:22 PM |
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Re: Etiquette Question Re: Shower/Sprinkle.. NEed HONEST opinions Please!
i like the brunch idea too and its v sweet of your friend. Why not let her know that you're concerned about the "fishing for gifts" thing and leave it up to her to decide since she's hosting. Those who want to come will, those who don't - won't.
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