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DreamComeTrue
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Family Members & Gender Preference
Have any of you had family members make comments about how they hope you are having a particular gender baby?
My grandma told my mom how she hopes I have a _____. And when I saw my aunt she said "I hope it's a _____ too." My mom told my DH she thinks it's a _____ but hopes it's a _____. My mom also asked me if it's going to be a <insert name we will be using for particular gender here> but when she asked she was dragging out the question in a baby-tone of voice (hard to explain but it was obvious that's what she is hoping for).
DH and I know what the gender is and we are the only ones who know. And no, it's not the same gender as what everyone is hoping for. 
DH and I are thrilled. Everything is looking great and the baby is healthy. That is our only concern. I just hope that once the baby is here, everyone will be in love with our LO as much as we are, no matter if it's a boy or girl.
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MichLiz213
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Re: Family Members & Gender Preference
Only my brother. He said,"God, please have a girl." My SIL has been saying she wants a girl and I think he thought if she had a niece, it would get it out of her system for a couple more years! (They have a 4-year-old son) Needless to say this is their first time being aunt and uncle so they are thrilled either way!
That was it though. People took guesses, but they weren't saying, "You need to have a ____!" Who knows for next time!
Sometimes people don't have a filter. They are absolutely going to LOVE your LO no matter what! 
Message edited 6/25/2011 12:42:00 PM.
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| Posted 6/25/11 12:41 PM |
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Champ
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Your family will love what ever your baby is!!! Everyone keeps telling me that they hope im having a boy and a girl bc then i'm done. and it makes me furious. As if having 2 boys or 2 girls would not complete a family.
People are stupid and more women should try to remember harder what it was like being pregnant.
question though... How have you and DH kept it a secret? We might find out what  are, but we really do not want anyone else knowing. I'm so afraid that down the line one of us will slip. Any advice?
thanks.
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| Posted 6/25/11 12:44 PM |
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DreamComeTrue
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Re: Family Members & Gender Preference
Posted by Champ
Your family will love what ever your baby is!!! Everyone keeps telling me that they hope im having a boy and a girl bc then i'm done. and it makes me furious. As if having 2 boys or 2 girls would not complete a family.
People are stupid and more women should try to remember harder what it was like being pregnant.
question though... How have you and DH kept it a secret? We might find out what are, but we really do not want anyone else knowing. I'm so afraid that down the line one of us will slip. Any advice?
thanks.
It really hasn't been too difficult. We had waited until 32 weeks to find out (I'm almost 37 now). So really it hasn't been too long - even had a team green baby shower before finding out. DH and I live OOS so we don't have to communicate in person much and on the phone no one can tell if you have a straight face or not. My parents were just here for a visit and I had the bedding and accent wall paint in our bedroom closet. (Other 3 walls we did green). It's just one of those things that they know they can ask until they are blue in the face and we still won't say.
DH slipped with his dad but for some reason slipped the wrong gender lol. And MIL is 100% certain she knows what we are having based on how I am carrying. We still never confirmed with her if she is right or wrong (she's right).
But then again, I went nearly 17 weeks without saying a word about being pregnant to my jobs. Just one of those things that if we're set on not telling, it's not a big deal to not tell.
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| Posted 6/25/11 12:57 PM |
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Kassie
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All my mom ever wanted was for me to have a girl. I got PG with a boy when she was alive. I was so upset at the gender request we kept it a secret until the baby shower. By then I think she was so excited about a baby she didn't care. She loved him so much. When she was sick right before she passed away all shewanted was him
Now I am PG with boy #2!
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| Posted 6/25/11 1:02 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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I got the general impression that people wanted a  . My mom really thought it was a  so when it turned out to be a she was  but happy nonetheless. DH said he didnt care either way but his facial expression when they said leads me to believe he secretly wanted our first to be a now he keeps saying "the next better be a " I told him you get what you get!
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| Posted 6/25/11 1:30 PM |
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jamiemarie12
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My sister and my grandma were not shy about saying they hoped I was having a girl. In fact when we announced it was boy when I was 16 weeks my sister went online to see what the odds of the the sonogram being wrong were. It was confirmed at 20 weeks and she is excited as she could be. She has bought so many things for the baby and she talks about how much she is going to spoil him. I think sometimes families wish for a certain gender but in the end they will love the baby the same no what the gender is.
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| Posted 6/25/11 1:37 PM |
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MrsKR88
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Everyone is telling me I am having a or how much they hope it will be a . One of my teenage sisters even went so far as saying she wants to be the godmother but only if it is a  (she acts like she is joking but I know she is serious). The thing is, is that I am convinced we are having a . I guess we will know for sure in 2 weeks when we have our level II. Either way we will be thrilled but it is annoying that people are so adamant about their preferences!
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| Posted 6/25/11 1:42 PM |
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Everrrrrrryone kept wishing a on me... my sister even bought a bag full of girls clothes before my gender reveal!  I reallllly wanted another boy. I win! Hahaha
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| Posted 6/25/11 2:38 PM |
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My family didn't admit to a preference before we found out but once we did and they were so thrilled that it's a it was quite obvious that it's what they were hoping for. I was really surprised because it's all girls on my side and I thought they would want a boy, but they seem to have soft spot for
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| Posted 6/25/11 9:19 PM |
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BigSmooch
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Re: Family Members & Gender Preference
My in-laws did that to us when we first told them we were pregnant the last time around. I was so furious. I was only a few weeks along and I thought they should be wishing for a healthy baby and pregnancy and not a particular sex! I was so angry and upset over it. I couldn't believe how someone could say such a thing. A few weeks later I miscarried. I'm sure they felt like idiots after that, at least I hope they did. It still bothers me to this day.
What I learned from my last experience is you shouldn't let anyone bother you or upset you while you are pregnant. Enjoy it. I'm sure once your baby is born everyone will fall in love regardless of the sex.
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| Posted 6/26/11 10:26 AM |
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DreamComeTrue
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Re: Family Members & Gender Preference
Thank you for sharing your stories everyone. I know our LO will be loved and spoiled anyway but it's just a little hurtful since gender is something we don't have control over. (Well, we didn't TRY for a specific gender like those charts or anything).
But I can see it now already if we are blessed with number 2. "Let's hope it's the opposite sex so you have 1 of each."
Ugh... some people! 
But thank you. Only a few weeks to go til we can hold our LO. So excited!! 
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