Feeling all nervous

I got into a fight wiht Dh's friends Sat. night. He said something that offended me. Rather than apologizing, he told me he didn't intend to offend and since its not a communist country he can say what he wants.

So he calls DH on Tuesday and apologizes. DH tells him to apologize to me and has not spoke to him since.

So I get an e-mail, not apologizing, telling me he didn't intend to offend and accusing me of maliciously attacking him. So I respond. DH read the e-mail before I sent it. He responds. Again, no apology and no explanation of how I maliciously attacked him. So I respond that if he isn't going to apologize or explain how i maliciously attacked him, to please stop e-mailing. So this mornign I get the nastiest apology. It literally ended," I apologized- are you happy now?"

Well DH FINALLY called him, but he didn't answer to DH left a message. I am so nervous. I hate fighting with people (despite the fact that I do it for a living ) I just want this whole thing to be over. I can't believe I am sitting here still dealing with this almost a week later.

Re: Feeling all nervous

oh no! STILL?

This guy is really something huh?

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this BS during the holidays no less! I hope it alll ends quickly and smoothly!

Re: Feeling all nervous

I had something similar regarding "non-apology, which were claimed to be apology" emails from my BIL.

I gave up trying to get him to understand that he can either knock on my door & apologize or keep sending the bs emails not apologizing.

You should ask yourself this..if he apologizes (which isn't going to be sincere), do you really want to continue to have a relationship with him? It sounds to me like you didn't like him before the dinners.

For me, although I sincerely liked my BIL before this happeend, it wasn't worth the drama in my life. I've kept my distance initially & have since severed ties. I hate fighting too but not ever having to deal with the drama king has been a major relief.

Re: Feeling all nervous

I have already decided I don't want him in my life. I thought my last e-mail the end of it. But I just want this whole thing to be over. I swear, I was so at peace with it.

Butthis new nasty e-mail really irked me- and now since DH left him a message, I feel like I am "waiting" for something- the guy's response. DH never leaves messages, why did he have to this one time?

I am also nervous about what will happen when they speak. DH is very non-confrontational and likes to keep the peace, but I can't imagine having this guy in DH;s life.

Message edited 12/20/2007 2:39:24 PM.

Re: Feeling all nervous

I'm sorry you have to deal with this BS... i hope thing's work out.