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Re: Feeling left out
Posted by mommywantsababy
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by itsagoodlife
We are all adults and not everyone always needs to be invited everywhere
I think part of being an adult is being inclusive and sensitive to other people's feelings. That is the difference between an adult and a high schooler.
But, and this is not directed towards the op, sometimes people just don’t want everyone there. Maybe the person they’re excluding gets too drunk, or is too sensitive. Maybe they obsessively talk about themselves. Maybe they have annoying characteristics.
Maybe these traits are diminished in a larger setting, but people can only tolerate them in small doses.
Or it’s kind of like sometimes I want to hang w my mom alone, sometimes my dad, sometimes my brother and sometimes ALL together. Nothing is wrong w anyone of them!
I would totally just initiate plans and offer to host a night or go out. I have an established group of friends and we individually hang out and no one gets offended. Sometimes it has to do w our children. Sometimes if I call or text one plan organically emerge. I am sure it wasn’t intentional at all!
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Re: Feeling left out
Posted by mommywantsababy
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by itsagoodlife
We are all adults and not everyone always needs to be invited everywhere
I think part of being an adult is being inclusive and sensitive to other people's feelings. That is the difference between an adult and a high schooler.
But, and this is not directed towards the op, sometimes people just don’t want everyone there. Maybe the person they’re excluding gets too drunk, or is too sensitive. Maybe they obsessively talk about themselves. Maybe they have annoying characteristics.
Maybe these traits are diminished in a larger setting, but people can only tolerate them in small doses.
I agree. Although there can be many other circumstances. For me, years ago with a close group of friends, we started going out to lunch and left out a 'friend' that had twins at home at the time (and an older one in elementary school), while we all had our kids at school. But later, she was too much drama and all was around school talking at gossiping and we didn't want that, we wanted to relax. So we left her out later on purpose. It didn't end well.
It has happened to me on the other side, and I know it hurts, but I try to go on with my life. When I feel that way, I plan a lunch out with a couple of new people (I feel weird in one on one situation with new people), it works, and I feel better. Good luck! Btw, how have you found out about these get togethers?
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