Feeling more nervous the 2nd time around

I was soooo excited when I was pg with DD, and this time around I'm soooo much more nervous! Nervous about being able to handle two, nervous about how DD will react, nervous about not giving DD enough of mommy and me time that we both love, just sooooo sad and nervous about things...anyone else felt/feel like this??

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Awww I think these are normal feelings. This is my first so I am not feeling like this but you will do great.

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I am PG with #2 and DS#1 only will be 13.5 months old when DS#2 is born

I keep worrying about the "logistics", i.e. how am I going to get both bathed, what am I going to do when they both cry, etc.

I figure that I am going to forced to learn quickly!

ETA: I am not worried as much about not giving DS#1 enough attention because I am hoping he is still too young to really get it and DS#2 will never have that alone time with DH and I so I am sure they both will be fine.

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I just posted something like this the other day. I felt so incredibly guilty when I found out. How will ds feel? will he know I still love him just as much as before? As time goes on I am feeling a little better and I know in the end he will have a lifelong friend which is such a great gift to give him.

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I def know what your saying. I have been feeling the same way throughout this whole 2nd pregnancy. I am so nervous as to how my DD will be when this baby comes and how she is going to adjust to it.

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you know i ve read a lot on here about moms pregnant with #2 worried about "dividing" their attention and feeling bad for #1 and a lot of the responses from the btdt moms said that wasn't the case at all once they had dc#2.. there was plenty of love to go around..
someone said something very profound that has stuck with me .. a mom said that you don't divide your love/attention, you add more love.
def going to miss the one on one attention but i know bringing another child into the family will only bring more joy.


as for the changes. def a little panicked.
like when i am strapping dd into the car seat i always wonder the logistics of putting 2 kids in and out of the car and how annoying that will be if i am by myself!not fun! or how the heck am i am going to cook, clean, work full time, and take care of 2 kids.
it makes me but i am just going to go with the flow b.c i am not the first person to have to go through this..

and what helps me get through is that i remind myself that yes it will be a task and rather difficult to manage in the beginning but it will get easier over time.
just look at your dd now, she is a lot more independent.. hasn't it gotten a little more easier now that she is bigger?
the fact that she can walk to the car or feed herself makes your life easier...
so dc#2 will eventually catch up..

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Posted by hunnybunnyxoxo

you know i ve read a lot on here about moms pregnant with #2 worried about "dividing" their attention and feeling bad for #1 and a lot of the responses from the btdt moms said that wasn't the case at all once they had dc#2.. there was plenty of love to go around..
someone said something very profound that has stuck with me .. a mom said that you don't divide your love/attention, you add more love.
def going to miss the one on one attention but i know bringing another child into the family will only bring more joy.


as for the changes. def a little panicked.
like when i am strapping dd into the car seat i always wonder the logistics of putting 2 kids in and out of the car and how annoying that will be if i am by myself!not fun! or how the heck am i am going to cook, clean, work full time, and take care of 2 kids.
it makes me but i am just going to go with the flow b.c i am not the first person to have to go through this..

and what helps me get through is that i remind myself that yes it will be a task and rather difficult to manage in the beginning but it will get easier over time.
just look at your dd now, she is a lot more independent.. hasn't it gotten a little more easier now that she is bigger?
the fact that she can walk to the car or feed herself makes your life easier...
so dc#2 will eventually catch up..

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Definitely! I was excited when I saw the positive test, but more than excited I was NERVOUS about everything you mentioned. I don't remember feeling anything but excitement when I was pg with DS.

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I'm actually less nervous this time because I just don't have time to think about it. I forget I'm pregnant most of the time until my back is killing me or I feel a kick.
Maybe I'm not as worried about DC adjusting because they have never separately had my undivided attention. They have had to "share" me since they were in the womb, and I know they'll have each other to play with when the baby comes.
That being said I am definitely anxious about the logistics of everything. How am I going to breastfeed with two toddlers running around and trying to climb on me? How am I going to go out with the three of them? How am I going to have energy to care for them when I am sleep deprived and also working? When am I going to have time to work?
But I figure everything will work out.

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You aren't alone, I have those same fears. I worry most about DD more than anything else. I don't want her to feel as though she is going to be put aside. I told DH that we MUST make alone time with her!

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i think Chelsea will adjust...
and i also read here that you still want to focus more of your attention on the first born.. like if the baby is crying or just hanging out in the crib or pack in play, to always respond to the dc#1 first...
i guess this will help with the transition in the beginning..

there are times when i look at Mady and get a little sad that i wont be 100% absorbed in her..
and i know she gets envious when i hold other babies ( my new niece) but i will do my darn best to cater to needs.

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I'm more nervous about EVERYTHING!

even labor and delivery. I went quick last time, 4 hours total.
I'm concerned how fast I will go this time & being able to make it home from the ctiy, DH get to the hospital and get a babysitter for Julia.


First time, I was pleasantly niave. This time I know what is coming and it is freaking me out.

But I know we will adjust & everything (and everyone) will be fine.

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Posted by sleepie76

I'm more nervous about EVERYTHING!

even labor and delivery. I went quick last time, 4 hours total.
I'm concerned how fast I will go this time & being able to make it home from the ctiy, DH get to the hospital and get a babysitter for Julia.


First time, I was pleasantly niave. This time I know what is coming and it is freaking me out.

But I know we will adjust & everything (and everyone) will be fine.