First 6 months of marriage

I've been married 2 months and dating my now-husband for 2 years before marriage. We had maybe 2 BIG fights in those 2 years. But since we've been married, we fight every week. He's been on the couch, I've been on the couch, we've gone an entire day without speaking... we fight about everything. He got mad at me for throwing out a box without him first checking to see if it was really empty. It's really stupid stuff that never mattered before. Is it just the whole getting used to being married thing?

Any other newlyweds have this issue? I'm worried and very unhappy.

Re: First 6 months of marriage

My first year was the worst. even though we lived together before there were expectations I guess that we had for each other.

Keep talking and communicating. It takes time, but it will work out.

Good luck.

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The lack of communication is what gets me. He won't talk. I'll say what I have to say and he'll sit there with a blank face and no response. I'll go to bed. A few hours later I go to the living room and he's sleeping on the couch! He leaves in the morning without a word and then when I get to work, he'll "poke" me on facebook (send me a hug or something on my facebook page). He's so angry at night but then ok when he gets to work... but still no communication!

I get that he needs to time before he can talk, but this whole silent treatment is so childish.

Message edited 11/21/2008 9:35:24 AM.

Re: First 6 months of marriage

My husband and I fought all the time after we got married. And we lived together for 4 years before. We got married in November, house in December, and fought all year long over stupid stuff. It was always over him not helping or me always nagging....But after a really big fight we finally sat down and calmly talked about everything. We still have little fights like every couple does, but things are sooooo much better... We have been together for 12 years, married for 2 years, and a baby on the way.. I think with each important milestone, your going to have some tension because it's new...
Good luck, it does get better....

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DH and I have been married a year and a half and we bicker all the time.. we actually started therapy together a few months ago and that really helps.. I have no shame in admitting we are in therapy this early on.. It helps to talk to someone outside your normal friends/family realm