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DKF1016
"I got the Sugar" ..:)
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FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
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bklyngirl
COULD THIS BE MY YEAR??
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Gail
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
i'm sorry he's treating u like that.
hope that u were able to enjoy your b-day
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| Posted 4/14/08 9:15 PM |
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LightUpOurLife
Totally in love
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
I'm so sorry that once again things didn't go smoothly. That really sucks. Family should always be there for each other. 
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| Posted 4/14/08 9:15 PM |
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BaroqueMama
Chase is one!
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
Unfortunately, sometimes family sucks. And I'd take a little blame off his girlfriend. She's probably in a really uncomfortable situation. I'm sure she really does mean it when she says she wants to get together, but he's too damn awkward for her to actually do it. She was probably embarrassed.
Send me a picture of him, if I ever run into him, I'll kick him in the shins
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| Posted 4/14/08 9:21 PM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
You need to do the same to him as hard as it is for you. You are different people.
He should know that he will never know who will give him his last drink of water in this life. He is creating the wall between himself and his family. One day, he will need family and you won't be there. You must make a pact with yourself about this.
He sounds immature and so does his new girlfriend. I would text her back and get her involved since she involved herself. She should know the type of guy your brother is. How, it's unacceptable to blow people off, especially family.
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| Posted 4/14/08 9:22 PM |
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I'm sorry!! It totally sux when family (especially siblings) are like that. If you can't rely on family, who can you rely on?
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| Posted 4/14/08 9:22 PM |
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happytobreathe
The Lazy Days of Summer
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
I am so sorry for not only you but more for your brother. Apparently he does not know the importance of family. I hope he never has to find this out the hard way!
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| Posted 4/14/08 9:24 PM |
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justthe4ofus
I hate hypocrites!!!!!
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
I am so sorry that your brothers did that to you. That is rude and mean.
As for the girlfriend, I know when my husband made decisions about family events I would tell him my opinion when I was his girlfriend but I wouldn't step in, it wasn't my place. She might not have felt comfortable texting or e-mailing back because it was his decision and she knew you would be hurt and thought maybe she should stay out of it. (Just putting it in a different prospective).
I hope your brother comes to his senses and apologizes soon.
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| Posted 4/14/08 9:26 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
HAPPY
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
i'm so sorry he made you feel bad on your birthday
i, too, hope that you were able to enjoy your birthday without them
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| Posted 4/14/08 9:29 PM |
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lvdolphins
My Loves!
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
I am so sorry. Your brother is rude and I am sorry he is treating you so rudely.
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| Posted 4/14/08 9:32 PM |
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juanvi
Get Out!
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
I like some of my friends wayyy better than certain family! I'm sorry!
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| Posted 4/14/08 9:33 PM |
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lbelle821
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
Ughhh, so sorry he did that to you. That stinks.
Sometimes I think we need accept family members for who they are and not expect them to change because they probably never will. So he'll go on being your insensitive brother who will always live up to the low standards that you expect from him in terms of being not so family oriented. This way you're not dissapointed.
Easier said than done I know. I hate when people tell me I'm being too sensitive. As if people have the right to determine how certain things effect me. That bothers me.
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| Posted 4/14/08 9:40 PM |
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DKF1016
"I got the Sugar" ..:)
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Gonnacatchapeacock
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
Posted by Jamie
I am so sorry that your brothers did that to you. That is rude and mean.
As for the girlfriend, I know when my husband made decisions about family events I would tell him my opinion when I was his girlfriend but I wouldn't step in, it wasn't my place. She might not have felt comfortable texting or e-mailing back because it was his decision and she knew you would be hurt and thought maybe she should stay out of it. (Just putting it in a different prospective).
I hope your brother comes to his senses and apologizes soon.
Yes...but as Blu-ize said...she is the one who responded to the evite letting me know they'll be there. She's been his steady girlfriend for over a year. She's now getting use to my family. I think she's been around long enough to have a little blame.
I want her to know (desperately) what a loser my brother is.
I even told him one day that "grandma and mom and dad aren't going to be around forever....one day you'll wish you spent more time with them...and you'll be mad at yourself when they are gone"...he responded "yeah, I know but that' how I am...get over it".
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| Posted 4/14/08 9:40 PM |
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Jackie24
~We Did it~
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
I HATE SELFISH PEOPLE
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| Posted 4/14/08 9:42 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
I'd be hurt and upset too. You don't deserve that and it breaks my heart because knowing you and how sweet you are...you forgive him time and time again only to get hurt time and time again.
Sorry sweetie...he is way too selfish to deserve all the chances you give him.
These people never change...it's a love 'em or leave 'em kind of deal in my opinion. Either way...you have to either figure out how to let his attitude roll off you (easier said than done) and just keep him at an obligatory distance or competely move on.
You know what's best
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| Posted 4/15/08 8:57 AM |
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MsMBV
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
Posted by prncss
Unfortunately, sometimes family sucks. And I'd take a little blame off his girlfriend. She's probably in a really uncomfortable situation. I'm sure she really does mean it when she says she wants to get together, but he's too damn awkward for her to actually do it. She was probably embarrassed.
Send me a picture of him, if I ever run into him, I'll kick him in the shins
ITA. He obviously has different priorities and does not see what he is doing. She is just stuck b/c as much as it seems she wants to GTG, he is the one she is dating & that can be uncomfortable.
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| Posted 4/15/08 9:13 AM |
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LaurenExp
Waiting patiently for baby sis
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
Posted by DKF1016
Just a "I don't know who you think you're talking to...stop being so sensitive and finding excuses to be mad at me...get over it...life is too short"
I gotta say, this is the part that really pisses me off. How are you finding excuses? He blew you off. You should be pizzed.
I'm sorry and I hope this didn't completely ruin your evening out.
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
Unfortunately, I can totally relate.
I have a brother, same age, who is very similar.
Because we share responsibility for my disabled father I put up with his @#$% for far longer than I normally would have. I still have to deal with him given our complicated situation but he is no longer welcomed in my home.
I wouldn't blame you at all for, at the very least, "taking a break" from him and not inviting him to functions etc for the foreseeable future. Why should you be stressed wondering if he'll ever show? What he might say? do? etc. I got so sick of having stressful family events wondering what he would do, what he would say that after the birth of my kids I said "enough is enough". If the event is somewhere else and you are both there, make small talk and nothing more and try to keep your distance.
I agree with the other posters, the GF either doesn't see it (love is blind) or is choosing not to see it. I think my brother's GF is either so dumb she doesn't see his issues or is choosing not to see them.
Good luck.
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
Member since 7/05 32475 total posts
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Susan
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
Posted by LaurenExp
Posted by DKF1016
Just a "I don't know who you think you're talking to...stop being so sensitive and finding excuses to be mad at me...get over it...life is too short"
I gotta say, this is the part that really pisses me off. How are you finding excuses? He blew you off. You should be pizzed.
I'm sorry and I hope this didn't completely ruin your evening out.
Yeah, I have to say, this behavior is troubling. Who does he think he is? Elvis?
One day he will be humbled..trust me.
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| Posted 4/15/08 9:30 AM |
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DKF1016
"I got the Sugar" ..:)
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Gonnacatchapeacock
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
I just wanted to thank everyone who responded the other night.
It was really helpful to read your responses and to see that I am really entitled to be pizzed at him.
I feel better today. I am letting go.
If I see him once a year during the holidays b/c I have to then I'll be mature about it but won't engage him in conversation. Other than that, DH and I will have nothing to do with him and his girlfriend.
Seriously, thanks again for your responses!
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| Posted 4/16/08 12:10 AM |
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MelToddJulia
Love my Family!
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
I know its hard when its family, but if he doesn't mind disrespecting you, then I wouldn't bother with him anymore! I wouldn't invite him or his G/F out anymore either.
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| Posted 4/16/08 12:19 AM |
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smdl
I love Gary too..on a plate!
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
At this point I would totally give up on planning anything with your brother.
Just see him at other planned family events OTHER people plan. If he is there fine otherwise maybe next time you will see him.
As for the GF, honestly I have been in her shoes, the nice GF all the family loves, and it's horrible. I used to date someone for 1.5 years (we never lived together) and we would go to every family functions. That was when he was not drunk or "forgot" or whatever. I was constently embarrassed but honestly never talked to his family about it. They knew it was not me and there was not much to be done or said at that point. I did not think it was my place to justify his actions with his family. We were not married and it was annoying enough for me to have to change plans all the time. Although I did try a few times (not to appologize, it was not really my fault!) and agreed with them when they would complain to me about him.
Needless to say, he is an EX.
Sorry you have to deal with it. I would not!!!!
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| Posted 4/16/08 6:17 AM |
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Jax430
Hi!
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
Kara, that's awful! Unfortunately, you're just going to have to treat him in kind. I'm sorry he put such a damper on your b-day.
BTW, I'm moving to the neighborhood tomorrow!
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| Posted 4/16/08 11:16 AM |
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Chrisnamy
Summer is coming soon
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
ohhh I'm sorry!
I have two brothers also....and they are like yours. 1 caring....and 1 Not caring.
I just decided that I will not get hurt by him any more. I just don't expect anything from him and when he does something Caring....i just except it...and don't get excited about it.
Happy Birthday!!!!!
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| Posted 4/16/08 3:30 PM |
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DKF1016
"I got the Sugar" ..:)
Member since 5/05 1252 total posts
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Gonnacatchapeacock
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Re: FUMING!! @#@$#&%^@ Read on please....
 So glad we are officially neighbors Jackie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We should ride bikes a couple of nights this summer..that'd be fun ;)
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