Good article on the differences between mommy and daddy

The 'daddy' way: Celebrate parenting differences

Re: Good article on the differences between mommy and daddy

I liked the article- I usually have an automatic negative reaction when I hear someone talking about gender roles, but the article rang true to me. My DH does parent differently than me- he is a little less nervous of her getting hurt- he's been home with her for the summer, and in the last month she's skinned her knee twice with him- but she's no worse for the wear, and I have to remember part of growing up and exploring your world means you will get hurt once in a while. She has a ball with him, and he is very careful in general so I don't worry.

Also, he mentioned the other day that she seems to have more temper tantrums with me in the evening than during the day with him. Now it could be the time of day, but the article said mothers tend to make everything into a battle of wills, and that "Moms are more likely to think 'If you love me, you'll do what I say.' Dads tend to think they're going to lose those battles. So they tease or divert -- they can get their kids to do what they need them to do without making it a life-or-death matter." I have a feeling this is partly the case, so maybe I will try to focus on distraction instead of making everything into a standoff.

Thanks for the link!

Re: Good article on the differences between mommy and daddy

I didn't get to read the entire article, but there recently was a similar article in Parenting or Parents and it really made me think. Just because husbands do it differently doesn't mean they do it wrong.

My DH has figured out so many things about DDs and he's not even around them all day like I am. I think letting your husband parent without you interfering every step of the way gives him a chance to grow as a parent and bond with your child. Go DH!

Re: Good article on the differences between mommy and daddy

Re: Good article on the differences between mommy and daddy

Posted by FireIslandLove

I didn't get to read the entire article, but there recently was a similar article in Parenting or Parents and it really made me think. Just because husbands do it differently doesn't mean they do it wrong.

My DH has figured out so many things about DDs and he's not even around them all day like I am. I think letting your husband parent without you interfering every step of the way gives him a chance to grow as a parent and bond with your child. Go DH!

Re: Good article on the differences between mommy and daddy

This is a great article - and so true for us. DH and I have different styles - at one month it's very clear. But I notice more and more that DH has a way with our DS that really works. I have started to calm down about my way and let him do things his way. Right now he is the one to get DS to sleep at night.