Grandmother question

Does anyone think a grandmother can be TOO attached to their grandchild? For instance she freaks out if she doesn't see her granchild for 1 week? Is this normal or too attached?

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Well, my parents kind of freak out if they don't see DS for a week. BUT I have the other end of the spectrum too (my MIL never sees him) so I'd take the attachment over the other choice ANY day!!

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I see your point, I just don't think a week is a big deal, and if parents are busy it should be understood.

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Well, yes. I mean, my parents will pout if they don't see him, but they work around our schedules.

I mean, if they really want to see DC, then they could offer to babysit or something like that!

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My parents want to see Jack every weekend - and usually do - but if we have other things going on they never give us a hard time!

Like Kate said - my dad will also come to babysit so I can get some free time - and he can spend some quality time with Jack.

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We ask MIL to babysit and she does so happily though I am sure she would love to see her everyday.

I would give my eye-teeth to have my own mother alive to pout about not seeing Abby. I miss her terribly.

Since I grew up without grandparents, and since both of my parents are no longer with us, I made a vow to make sure that Abby knows the grandparents she has. It is a relationship I find invaluable. BUT it has to be on the terms of the parents - no question about it. If they can't honor that, then it doesn't work.

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Depending on what the freaking out is... is she upset because she knows other people get to see the baby and she doesn't, or are you just too busy to see her every week. I think its unfair to the parents (especially to those of us who work) when grandparents expect to get time with their grandkids every weekend. I work full time and have busy weekends so if I can't make time for someone, they just have to understand! I know I am lucky to have these people in my daughter's life, but I don't always have time for them!

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my mom and step dad try to see DS every week or so, but they always understand if theirs a weekend or day that's not good for us. If it gets to be more then a week, they call us to say they miss him and want to make a plan to see him. They also come to us most of the time which is great and so convenient (they live 45 min away). My dad and stepmom and DH parents tend to like us to go to them, so we see them less compared to my mom.

Message edited 10/4/2008 12:16:07 PM.

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I live in NC and my parents are in NY, they are moving down here in January...however my mom misses her granddaughter terribly, and I don't think its bad at all to have a grandmother that wants to see their grandchild often. Gives you some time to be alone as well...I would take advantage of it, JMO

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Yeah I don't think it's bad, I just think if they don't see him one week, she shouldn't get all depressed over it. I think it's great to have them see him once a week, but if it's not possible she should be ok over it and look forward to the next week.

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YES! That is my MIL! And it upsets me MOSTLY because she got upset at DH one time b/c I did not bring Troy to see her before we left for a rip to visit my dad (we were gone for 5 days). This upset me b/c neither my mom nor my dad lives in NY. My mom lives in Illinois and my dad is in S Carolina. They only get to see Troy 1-2 times a year.