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jams92
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grandparent relationship or lack of....
DH has a rocky relationship with his mom and i have no relationship with her. Dd is 3 months old and right now DH is not speaking to his mom therefore she is not seeing DD (she has seen her maybe 3 times since she was born for various reasons - sometimes we would invite her and she would say she had plans, and other times she and DH were not on speaking terms so she wasnt invited over)
She keeps telling DH that he doesnt know it but he is hurting DD but not letting her see her grandma.
I stay quiet and let him make the decisions regarding her. I honestly prefer when they arent speaking bc she is dramatic, selfish, and a liar (to name a few). but do you think i should try to encourage him to have a relationship with her for DD sake?
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Posted 6/6/13 4:20 PM  |
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alli3131
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grandparent relationship or lack of....
Honestly I had very little contact with my fathers parents. I don't feel like I missed out. My parents loved us and gave us a great childhood and I was very close with my moms mom.
Do what you feel is best your DD will be fine. MIL sounds like she might be using DD as a pawn to just be careful.
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| Posted 6/6/13 4:42 PM |
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Re: grandparent relationship or lack of....
Posted by alli3131
Honestly I had very little contact with my fathers parents. I don't feel like I missed out. My parents loved us and gave us a great childhood and I was very close with my moms mom.
Same here. We have always been close with my mother's parents but never had a real relationship with my father's mother. I never felt like I missed out, I understood from a young age, based on our few interactions, that it had nothing to do with me and everything to do with her crappy attitude.
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| Posted 6/6/13 5:05 PM |
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Xelindrya
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nope I wouldnt encourage it
It doesnt hurt DD at ALL
Its the grandparents' issue to make that connection and if I deem a grandparent unworthy then so be it. Its not like I bad talk the grandparent to my daughter, they just aren't part of her life.
He doesnt speak to his father
I dont speak to my mother
I hate my step mother
He is neutral about his step father
She knows his mother is her grandma
My daddy is her grandpa
She has seen both only a handful of times in her whole life. They were happy times and thats good enough.
My father is moving down to TX next weekend so she'll see more of him but his mother rarely made an effort before even when we lived in Long Island. Now all of a sudden she has shown interest and thats fine too. But you push me and I take my kid with me.
NO ONE will EVER use my child as a guilt trip against me. EVER. I dont *NEED* grandparents in her life.
My house
My kid
My life
My rules
Our happiness
I dont invite drama
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| Posted 6/6/13 5:28 PM |
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