GUILT

Does anyone else feel so guilty for working. I go to work 3 full days a week and one 2 hour evening (will be five shorter days in September).
I drop her off at b-sitters at 830 and Dh picks her up at 5, but on those three days, I don't get home until 6:30-6:45. Lately she has been falling asleep at 7 and I am so sad. I try to keep her up but isn't that selfish of me? Then on my days off I feel so much pressure to be super mom and I try to stimulate, entertain, and bond constantly to compensate for the guilt. I end up getting no housework done and no rest (she wakes up just before 6 am everyday). I also feel like I may be spoiling her because now she cries whenever I walk away.

I HATE THIS GUILT!

BTW: She is almost 5 months old.

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I just wanted to say I'm sorry you're feeling guilty but I think it's totally normal for any working mom. I work 5 days a week and experience all the same feelings.

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I work full time and it's the same thing. Yesterday I felt like I only spent an hour with him all day and I just missed him so much after I put him to bed. It's hard but it is kind of selfish to keep them up...they need their sleep so much. I felt like that last night and I just wanted to keep him up with me. And then you try to "make up" for it on the weekends.

I don't know if the other working moms feel this way but I don't feel like the guilt gets any easier or any better. Actually, I feel like the guilt is more as he gets older and is learning more new things. I feel like he needs me even more.

It's so hard but we have to do what we have to do.

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Posted by BabyAvocado

I work full time and it's the same thing. Yesterday I felt like I only spent an hour with him all day and I just missed him so much after I put him to bed. It's hard but it is kind of selfish to keep them up...they need their sleep so much. I felt like that last night and I just wanted to keep him up with me. And then you try to "make up" for it on the weekends.

I don't know if the other working moms feel this way but I don't feel like the guilt gets any easier or any better. Actually, I feel like the guilt is more as he gets older and is learning more new things. I feel like he needs me even more.

It's so hard but we have to do what we have to do.

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Of course I feel guilty at times, but I also know that my working provides for my daughter so I know that is also very important.
Honestly as Molly gets older I feel a bit less guilty because she is sooo happy at daycare. She is playing, learning and really enjoys her days. She really does so much everyday. I am not sure if she was home with me if I would do all of that stuff everyday.

I feel overwhelmed all the time and very often I feel that I am always missing out on something. I think about what it would be like to go to Mommy and Me classes and be a part of playdates and mommy lunches. But the truth is that is just not possible and just not a part of my life now.

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Posted by Ambersmom

Posted by BabyAvocado

I work full time and it's the same thing. Yesterday I felt like I only spent an hour with him all day and I just missed him so much after I put him to bed. It's hard but it is kind of selfish to keep them up...they need their sleep so much. I felt like that last night and I just wanted to keep him up with me. And then you try to "make up" for it on the weekends.

I don't know if the other working moms feel this way but I don't feel like the guilt gets any easier or any better. Actually, I feel like the guilt is more as he gets older and is learning more new things. I feel like he needs me even more.

It's so hard but we have to do what we have to do.

I agree...

I work a full time job, a part time job and now work p/t weekends. It's very, very hard and I'm burnt, tired and unhappy. I feel so cheated of the new things she does and say everyday and unfortunately since I'm not always with her, I feel like crap when I have to correct her behavior, etc. Like all she sees of me is the "bad mommy". I'm hoping this situation is only temporary and try to remain positive that good things are right around the corner but my optimism is fading

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I feel gulity every day. We drop him at my moms at 7am and I don't get home between 7-8 every night. Thank goodness my husband gets home earlier than I do. I cry when I get off the train on the way home sometimes.