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GOOD FOR YOU!!!!

I would of done the same thing!!! I HATE hearing adults talk to thee kids that way, its horrible and can u imagine how they treat them at home if this is the way they are talking to them in public.....I'm so happy you said something!!

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OMG, good for you for sticking up for those poor little girls!

I have called a stranger out before. I was walking the mall when I was at the end of my rope with my 3rd pregnancy. We saw a Grandma pushing a little boy in a stroller. He dropped his french fries all over his lap. She walked over to him, slapped him in the face, and called him a f-ing idiot. He was MAYBE 2.

As we passed her, I told her she should be ashamed of herself, and that if she couldn't handle watching this little boy, she should tell his parents. I felt so bad for him-imagine what she behaved like behind closed doors.

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I don't blame you but she sounds like a nut and I hate to say that i doubt one thing you said could change a nut like that. I agree with you sayhing something, but I would worry that she would further mistreat those kids if even more enraged.

Those poor children.

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yes to be honest I would have asked to tt her in another aisle on a opinion and beat her arse.
Then some cannot have children...where is the justice!!!!!!!

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I can understand where you are coming from. I would have done the same thing. Trust me when I say the girls appreciated it. But that mother didn't change, and it may have made things worse for them, unfortunately.

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Its a sad world that even after you confronted her she still went on with her anger.. You would have thought or at least you hope after confronting her that would have made her stop, think and realize how out of line she was acting towards her children. If thats how she acts out in public.. imagine what shes probable like at home towards them. Its a scarey thought.

Im glad you spoke up and wish their were more people out there like you!!

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I don't fault you for speaking up. I don't know if I would though..ONLY b/c I'd be afraid that if I did the mom would take it out on the kids when they got home. Who's to say she isn't lying when she said she's never hit them? Sounds hard to believe based on your stoy. The mother is out of control and she needs to be taken out back and roughed up a little bit.

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

I can understand where you are coming from. I would have done the same thing. Trust me when I say the girls appreciated it. But that mother didn't change, and it may have made things worse for them, unfortunately.

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O.K. not to start drama or fight but to bring a different view into this. JMHO.
Look at all the poor children that die each year at the hands of their parents and someone saw it or suspected and did not step in? ex: Lisa Steinburg and others, what if they did?
they could have been the next president, CEO or great mom or dad.
I feel by not stepping in..it shows these little girls its o.k. to abuse their children.

What is the difference between this post and the posts where daycare workers are not nice and parents confront them and examples like that?
When my mom died..a teacher gave me dd a zero because she was not there for a quiz-its the policy, well guess what? my mom was buried that day. I called the teacher and tt her, because she was in the wrong and she was not even nice on the phone.
I believe its not what you say but how you say it.
This woman spoke very nicely and did not curse and it was the right way I feel.
Ignorance is not bliss.
It takes a village to raise a child and I am sorry but if i see someone de-grading their child I am saying something.
This was not a woman that simply lost it for a second, we all do. This was a raging lunatic.
Imagine how scary to have someone that big scream and degrade you?
thats just how I feel.
Of course something could have come out of it at home-we will never know..
but maybe just maybe..this time it hit home with this woman..again we will never know.

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Jaime... I say that because I was that kid. In the Middle of city streets, my mother would say such horrible things people would stop dead in their tracks and say something out of instinct. She beat the crap out of me publicly and privately. To the point where her hands would get bruised and then she would tell, scream and beat me for injuring her. Ah memories. I was so so so grateful... So grateful for strangers who said things to my mom. Not only because it made me realize this wasn't normal, but also because my mom would briefly yell At someone else and I would get a few moments of peace. But I paid for that and my mom threatened me If I just stood there when strangers spoke up for me I would be in trouble. So after a while I would say "shut up" to people speaking up for me. Out of survival. I will never forget when I was little, maybe 10, an old woman came up, took my arm and whispered to me "don't you dare believe your mother. You are a wonderful little girl. You are beautiful and you will grow up to be a wonderful young lady. " I still believe she literally was an angel from god. But I shot her a dirty look because I was afraid my mom would see and I would get in trouble. And I knew she understood. But it got me through the day. I do NOT have a relationship with my mother. I called her recently and she didn't even want to know my childs name. Eff that woman. These children that you see go through this can take many paths. But there are some who grow up to become the parents they never had. Keep speaking up for them and make sure they can hear. Its not to benefit parents who are mentally ill. Its to benefit the kids who need to know there are people who care. Even strangers!!!

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liza i fmed you

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I would have done the same exact same thing, Good For You!!! I cant believe the other women just stood there :(

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I agree with Barb's theory. I once saw a mom at the library so frustrated with her children. Her son went to the bathroom- and then her daughter had to. She was so annoyed and was yelling at her kids. I didn't like the way she spoke to them.

I figured I could tell this woman off and embarass her or I could treat her with kindness. So I tried to engage her children to play with DD, even though DD was much younger than hers. At one point i asked if she coudl use a hand. I found out she had 3 under 3 and her husband worked all the time. She was overwhelmed and just needed a break- which she never got.

We all have those moments when we snap and yell at our kids. Some yell more than others. Some lose it more than others. Some cross lines I would never cross. But as mothers, so many people judge us. I mean, how many posts on here are about a commen someone made to a mom about a crying baby, or what we fed. If a mom seems overwhelmed- even if its just a mean mom- I'd rather give them the benefit of the doubt and ask if they need a hand than embarass them.

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

I can understand where you are coming from. I would have done the same thing. Trust me when I say the girls appreciated it. But that mother didn't change, and it may have made things worse for them, unfortunately.

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Message edited 4/3/2009 10:59:00 AM.