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landj
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Having a really tough time with CIO
My DS is 13 months old and I have honestly avoided CIO at all costs until recently. I just didn't think it was for me or for DS for that matter. DH and I just got to a point where DS has not been falling asleep on his own for many months now. The only way we can get him to sleep is if we rock him, and even that is not always effective. DS ultimately ends up in our bed because at that point, we are just too tired and normally have to get up for work. DH and I end up barely sleeping ourselves as a result.
So DH purchased a book - I think it's called "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child." I have skimmed through and understand the author's point, but still had a great deal of hesitation. My peds have also stressed that I try CIO, but I always brushed it off.
So this week I was off from work and we decided to try CIO. It ultimately works, but it is soooo hard for me. I just don't know what else to try at this point. We have tried everything from soothing music cd's to nightlights to a bedtme routine to just about everything you can think of. Please tell me this will get better. I am just not sure what else to do at this point to help DS sleep. It is just not in my nature to be this way, but I also know DS needs to learn how to self-soothe. 
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Posted 2/23/08 8:52 PM  |
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Re: Having a really tough time with CIO
We did CIO about 2 months ago. After three days, it was fabulous. He went to bed without even fussing. Then a couple of days later, he got a really bad cough. We brought him back into bed because I wanted him propped up, and I would also have to sit him up a couple of times in the middle of the night.
The cough lasted awhile. I wanted to start this week with CIO, because I am off as well. We went away, and then I wanted to try on Weds. Well, since the last time, he now pulls himself up, and I really get so nervous when he is crying so hard, and standing up that he is going to get hurt. Hence, he is still in our bed.
I really know that I have to do it again, but I have to tell you, I really love having him in my bed! But I know I have to do it again!
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| Posted 2/23/08 9:03 PM |
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landj
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Re: Having a really tough time with CIO
I know what you mean. I do love having DS in my bed too, but DS literally takes up our entire bed! DH and I end up sleeping on either edge and DS tosses and turns throughout the night. Not to mention it leaves little time for DH and I to be by ourselves.
So it's a tough call. DS has been standing up in his crib and will let out these blood-curdling screams. It is absolutely awful and makes me feel terrible. I feel like I am somehow doing him wrong, despite how everyone tells me how "right" it is.
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| Posted 2/23/08 9:11 PM |
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Samlove
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Re: Having a really tough time with CIO
we are still doing this and Sara is 2 years old. We were told also to just let her cry. We do have a crib tent because she will climb out. Sara screams so loud it is heart breaking , SHe then loses her voice the next day .
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| Posted 2/23/08 9:16 PM |
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Re: Having a really tough time with CIO
Posted by Samlove
we are still doing this and Sara is 2 years old. We were told also to just let her cry. We do have a crib tent because she will climb out. Sara screams so loud it is heart breaking , SHe then loses her voice the next day .
 
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| Posted 2/23/08 9:20 PM |
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Samlove
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Re: Having a really tough time with CIO
Just give it a few days, It does work though I just dont have it in me when Sara wakes at 2 AM . YOu can do it though,
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| Posted 2/23/08 9:27 PM |
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Re: Having a really tough time with CIO
Posted by landj
I feel like I am somehow doing him wrong, despite how everyone tells me how "right" it is.
You are his mother -- you know him like no other "expert." If it feels wrong, don't do it. Don't let anyone talk you into to doing something you think is wrong for your child.
When DS was having trouble going to sleep I started puting him in his crib drowsy, then sat next to his crib, he played a little, then cried -- if he cried I would rub him, as long as he way laying down. It took about 45 minutes the first night and he did cry (but never alone in his room), but he did go to sleep in his crib by himself. It took me a couple of nights of this and now I can put him in his crib drowsy, but awake (and he is a co-sleeping baby who was used to being nursed to sleep).
CIO is often touted as a tough, but quick solution. Other methods are more labor intensive and my not work as quickly, but they will work.
Often these sleep disturbances are just phases. If your child resists CIO I really feel you risk damaging the positive sleep associations he has already built up if you try to force it. Best of luck to you.
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| Posted 2/24/08 7:34 AM |
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