Help preschool drama-long

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Message edited 11/20/2008 10:00:31 PM.

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I feel so bad for your DS.

I don't know what I'd do...Has the neighbor said anything about the situation, how does she feel about it? Could you contact the principal? Is it possible to find out if the teachers are phyiscally (like with words) encouraging the other kids to ignore your son?

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What I'm not getting is why you/the neighbor is letting the preschool teachers play God/be in the drivers seat? Granted, they should have control over behavioral issues in school but undermining relationships SHOULD NOT be their business. I would be all over the teacher if I felt she was trying to manipulate the relationship of my child and their friend.

Message edited 11/20/2008 2:45:03 PM.

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I'm sorry this is happening to your little peanut! But I will say that kids change allegiances rapidly. Today he's the outsider - tomorrow he's king of the class.

I'd probably start by creating more playdates with other kids - in school or not. And honestly - I would probably look for another Pre-K.

for DS and for you.

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Posted by rojerono

I'm sorry this is happening to your little peanut! But I will say that kids change allegiances rapidly. Today he's the outsider - tomorrow he's king of the class.

I'd probably start by creating more playdates with other kids - in school or not. And honestly - I would probably look for another Pre-K.

for DS and for you.

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that's terrible.

josh has a little bff...if he saw her in school or playing with other kids, at 23 months, he would totally get that he is being left out and feel shattered.

so much is expected out of these little kids...who cares if they have best friends as long as they are being respectable???????????????????

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I am tearing up over here. That is so sad :( I really don't know what I would do. I think I would start by trying to do something special with your little guy to put a smile on his face. Then maybe I would talk to your neighbor about it and then maybe have a play date and invite some of the pre K kids??

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This breaks my heart.. I dont understand why the school would do that. Its only pre-k.. these boys have plenty of time to branch out when they get to kindergarten or 1st grade. This is the time when they need a buddy to help them with the seperation anxiety from parents.

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Reading this just breaks my heart! I dont know why the teacher suggested what she did in the first place. No one should ever be excluded. They should be taught the more the merrier, KWIM?

How does your neighbor feel about what is going on?

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Thanks so much for the responses. I was beginning to think I was the making too much of it. I know this is not life threatening and that this to shall pass. But right now it sucks!

I would consider moving schools, except my son truly loved his school until now and I do not want to traumatize him. Shouldn't he face his problems? Won't this all blow over, eventually? I don't know.

I do not think the teachers intentionally meant to exclude him in school, but mistakenly created this situation.

HOw will I ever survive elementary school. ANyone know where I can get a prescription for prozac?????



How do you tell a four yr old to handle being excluded? Thanks again, I feel better just knowing that other moms understand.

What's sad. I figured my son would learn a lesson. I said now you see how terrible it is to be left out, so now you know not to do it again to someone else. He said, "yea, OR maybe next time I will exclude ______for four days since he excluded me for three." Uggh and the cycle continues.

Message edited 11/20/2008 9:48:14 PM.

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I think there is more to the story. I don't think the school is telling what to do unless SHE (the neighboor!!) asked them to. Why would a school tell you to stop having playdate outside the school? This is out of line. Why isn't the neighboor questioning this?

I think the neighboor does not know how to deal with the situation. SHE wants her son to see other kids but does not tell you. But now your son is paying the consequences of her lack of honesty.

I would talk to the school immediately and tell them that you understand what is going on. That you expected more honesty and openess on the whole situation vs your son and yourself having to figure out for yourself. It was rather unfair to your son and there is no reason at his age to be rejected in a mean way by everybody.

I would ask them how THEY plan on helping YOUR son now.

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Thanks everyone.

Message edited 11/20/2008 10:04:37 PM.

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I am still shocked that the school got involved the way they did and suggested having playdates with other children and to exclude the other. I have never heard of that! Is this something I have to look forward to when my son is in preschool? I couldn't imagine being told that my child should stop having playdates with his BF and to start spending time with othe kids, without BF. What are they going to say in the meeting....sorry we hurt your sons feelings? Nothing they say would make me feel better AND if the neighbor did ask them to suggest this to you, then SHAME on the teachers for listening, KWIM?

Message edited 11/20/2008 10:08:27 PM.

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OMG!!! I would be beyond pizzed!!!


Truthfully I think you and your neighbor should tell said preschool to mind their own freaking business!!

We all played with our neighbor's everyday and no one got hurt. They will be in each others lives for a very long time since they live across the street. They will only be in preschool for a year or two. Truthfully I would find a new one. I am so angry for you!!!!