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VirginiaDeb
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Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
I hate being so much older than my siblings 
So my 15 year old sister has a picture of her on myspace with a can in her hand that is convinently blacked out. Uh, duh.
Do I just let it slide, or should i rat her out? I know she's snuck out of the house before.... and i don't want her to do anything stupid... but it may just be stupid teenage fun?
Why does she have to put these things up
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
Posted by VirginiaDeb
I hate being so much older than my siblings
So my 15 year old sister has a picture of her on myspace with a can in her hand that is convinently blacked out. Uh, duh.
Do I just let it slide, or should i rat her out? I know she's snuck out of the house before.... and i don't want her to do anything stupid... but it may just be stupid teenage fun?
Why does she have to put these things up
This is a tough situation,... I also have a fourteen year old sister, so I can relate!! 
It's frustratiing b/c you walk that fine line... If I were you, I would try to talk to her yourself first, and if that goes nowhere, then I would rat her out. I would only for her safety and b/c she is young to be doing that stuff... I know it;s going on, but just to keep her safe!
Good luck-I know it;s a tough spot!
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| Posted 10/9/06 10:14 AM |
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
Posted by VirginiaDeb
I hate being so much older than my siblings
So my 15 year old sister has a picture of her on myspace with a can in her hand that is convinently blacked out. Uh, duh.
Do I just let it slide, or should i rat her out? I know she's snuck out of the house before.... and i don't want her to do anything stupid... but it may just be stupid teenage fun?
Why does she have to put these things up
Honestly I would say something... Plus I hate my space I feel like there are so many bad things breeding there !
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| Posted 10/9/06 10:14 AM |
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
I have two younger brothers (17, 14) and a younger sister (19).
I've been in a similar situation. Talk to your sister first. If that gets nowhere, talk to your parents.
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
Posted by ssbride05
This is a tough situation,... It's frustratiing b/c you walk that fine line... If I were you, I would try to talk to her yourself first, and if that goes nowhere, then I would rat her out. I would only for her safety and b/c she is young to be doing that stuff... I know it;s going on, but just to keep her safe!
Good luck-I know it;s a tough spot!
I couldn't agree more with this statement....
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| Posted 10/9/06 10:16 AM |
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
I know I am speaking for all but "we all did our fair share of sneaking this or that" when we were teenagers.
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| Posted 10/9/06 10:16 AM |
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LaurenExp
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
Posted by ssbride05
Posted by VirginiaDeb
I hate being so much older than my siblings
So my 15 year old sister has a picture of her on myspace with a can in her hand that is convinently blacked out. Uh, duh.
Do I just let it slide, or should i rat her out? I know she's snuck out of the house before.... and i don't want her to do anything stupid... but it may just be stupid teenage fun?
Why does she have to put these things up
This is a tough situation,... I also have a fourteen year old sister, so I can relate!!
It's frustratiing b/c you walk that fine line... If I were you, I would try to talk to her yourself first, and if that goes nowhere, then I would rat her out. I would only for her safety and b/c she is young to be doing that stuff... I know it;s going on, but just to keep her safe!
Good luck-I know it;s a tough spot!
I agree. I'd tell her if she doesnt listen to you that ou're going to rat her out, too! 
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Lichi
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
Personally, I would let her make her mistakes. We all had our taste having teenage "fun" when we were young. It seems like that's the case with your sister, but if you ever notice it getting out of hand, then it's not fun anymore, and should be taken seriously.
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nferrandi
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
I would probably say something directly to her, but not to your parents. I know that at 15 I would have the occasional beer and I don't think it's such a big deal. But that may just be me. 
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
Speak to your sister first. Tell her that you are trying not to be preachy and/or like a parent but its for her own good.
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| Posted 10/9/06 10:21 AM |
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Jillybean28
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
Don't rat her out. For one remember your high schools years I know mine weren't perfect.
This worked for me: I have a younger brother and sister myself and I made sure that they had my number in the wallets. They knew I wasn't condoning drinking, but it they made a bad decision, I was there if they needed me. I have been called to pick them up and drive them home, and while it's an incovience to me, they are doing what I offered. My worst fear is that they get into a car with a drunk driver.
A whole separate issue is the myspace picture. I would let her know if you could find that anyone could. Kids have to be really careful about how they advertise themselves on the internet, and stress that to her.
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| Posted 10/9/06 10:22 AM |
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Eva Luna
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
I would tell my mom, or speak to her and ask her to take the pic down...explain that it sends the wrong message.
I hate that my 16 yr old sister has a myspace page...and her pic is of my baby nephew unbeknownst to the baby's mom (my older sister).
Why are kids so clueless!!
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| Posted 10/9/06 10:23 AM |
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VirginiaDeb
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
Thanks everyone.
It's hard because we've never been super close, so i don't want to severe ties, but i also don't want to do something stupid.
I also worry about her personality... I never worry about my little brother (almost 18) because jsut knowing him, he's more responsible... where as the sister... not so much.
I don't think my parents know what to do with her since i was a goody-two-shoes, and they never have really had any problems like that with my brother. She's the wild child of the bunch
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| Posted 10/9/06 10:24 AM |
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munchkinbugs
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
Posted by MrsDiamondgrlie
I know I am speaking for all but "we all did our fair share of sneaking this or that" when we were teenagers.
I agree with this. She's stupid for posting it on a website. But when we were young this wasn't an option for us. Let her have her fun. If she's drinking way too much, your parents will know it when she gets home at night.
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| Posted 10/9/06 11:17 AM |
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CaseyGirl
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
My sister (who is 21) does so many dumb things...I always wanna rat her out LOL..only bc I am concerned, but my DH reminds me that I am not her parent!
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| Posted 10/9/06 11:45 AM |
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
This case, I would mention it to her that you know, but don't rat her out.
We are not allowed to see my SIL's myspace (she's 15 as well) she won't let us. My youngest SIL (who is 13) had an VULGAR tag line last week and I broke down and told DH (their father is deceased and he is like a father figure to them) and he called her up and ripped her a new one for it. It was changed the next morning. She also has that she is 17 and from California on there
Let's just say DH is praying we are having a boy!
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MrsPorkChop
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
id be like- whats up with the beer can?
then tell her she better never effing let anyone drive her home drunk or her get in the car after drinknig anything
tell her you wont tell your parents but make sure she understands
and tell her to clal you if she ever needs a ride
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| Posted 10/9/06 11:50 AM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
I think you should at least give her a word to the wise that her teachers and potential employers and colleges will be looking for her myspace, so she should be careful what kind of impresson she gives on those things.
I know people who never employ anyone without googling them and looking them up on myspace, friendster, facebook, etc
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| Posted 10/9/06 2:17 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Hmm, to rat her out, or not to rat her out...
I would try talking to her, but honestly, I wouldn't say anything to your parents. At least if you talk to her she may feel like you're treating her like an adult and not a kid by just rating her out to your parents.
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| Posted 10/9/06 2:25 PM |
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