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nrthshgrl
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Holiday wishes...
Wishing you all a happy holiday (right in the nick of time for the end of Hannukah...whew)!
While I’d love to say “May the next year bring you peace & happiness”, most of the women on this site are about to embark on the terrible two’s (otherwise known as the terrible 18 months in my household). I know that the peace part isn’t going to happen until those moms are ready to question whether your child’s insanity runs in your family or DH’s (I’m still questioning DH’s). You won’t need the happiness – you have it. We all know that feeling of having your child fall asleep on your chest, the feeling of staring at your child & thinking ‘I made him or her’, the feeling that we had the honor of participating in a miracle.
So this year, I’ll wish you all something different.
I wish you patience. The patience to deal with whatever stage of development your child has reached, the patience to deal with the unexpected and the enduring patience to deal with new trials & tribulations that are coming your way. In our house, we give out patience to our kids. We literally reach into our pocket & pretend to hand out patience. Our kids “eat” it to gives them more patience to wait in line, etc. I still remember sitting down on the coach after some catastrophe at work & yelling “I can’t believe I have to deal with this tonight!” There was my 2.5 year old holding out his cupped hand & said “Here Mommy! I have some patience for you.” I wish you all bucketloads.
I wish you realism. May that ideal mother that we all have in our minds be banished. The woman that has her act completely together can be completely derailed by her child’s diarrhea on her way to make the train (thanks Joseph!). I know I’m not the first mother to be relieved that daycare doesn’t allow homemade food or that Walbaums opened at 7am so I could pick up the cupcakes. We’ve all learned a split second too late that the baby can roll (off the bed/changing table). We are all human, we all screw up. While MILs run the spectrum on this board, they all have one thing in common. They created the man you love - and they were in your shoes with your DH, worrying whether they were doing it right too –even if some would never admit it.
Be kind to yourself this year. Don’t wait for others to be kind to you. Don’t wait for anyone to say “I’ll take the baby – go get a manicure.” Make your own plans. Don’t feel guilty about it. It’s what will make you a better parent. It’s why some dads can put in a guest caregiver appearance & tell you how easy he thought it was because the baby slept the full hour you were gone. You deserve your own time, developing your own interests too. I think benign neglect is one of the best things you can give your child. Finding out that DH did not feed the kids lunch almost put me over the edge. Realizing if they were hungry they could ask for lunch was a revelation. Hearing that they decided to eat lunch under the table & made themselves yogurt sandwiches was another revelation. They actually could fend for themselves if necessary. I was in college before I made my first haircut appointment. I probably could have used more benign neglect.
Remember there is nothing that we will go through that generations upon generations of women did not. Millions of women before you dealt with everything from potty training to health issues (theirs & their child’s). If anything, this website has proved one thing -- that You are not alone.
Most of all I wish you all a regular year – filled with normalcy - spectacular normalcy.
Message edited 12/23/2006 11:19:16 PM.
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Taylorsmom
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Re: Holiday wishes...
That was beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you so much.
I loved the part about patience. I just might try that.
Have a wonderful holiday!
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| Posted 12/22/06 9:56 AM |
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cloddy
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Kristen
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Re: Holiday wishes...
Awwwwwwwww so well said. Thank you so much for such sage advice and well wishes. Right back at ya  Hope you and your family have a wonderful holiday and new year. And to all of our other online families as well!
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| Posted 12/22/06 9:57 AM |
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Bxgell2
Perfection
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Beth
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Re: Holiday wishes...
BEAUTIFUL.
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| Posted 12/22/06 10:02 AM |
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ckdk
My girls
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Cheryl
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Re: Holiday wishes...
Very well written, great advice, thanks Barb
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| Posted 12/22/06 10:07 AM |
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Re: Holiday wishes...
That was so nice. You always have a way with words Barb 
Happy Holidays to you and your family aswell
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| Posted 12/22/06 10:09 AM |
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05mommy09
Family of 5!
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Re: Holiday wishes...
BArb I cant say it enough- YOU are amazing and you always have the right words!
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| Posted 12/22/06 10:16 AM |
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Little-J-Mommy
I'm a Big Brother
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Re: Holiday wishes...
Thank you Barb for constantly reminding me why I frequent this board. You truly are a sweetheart and your family and friends are blessed to have you in their life. I feel blessed to know you. To know all of you for that matter.
How lucky we all are to have found this site and have the chance to help one another and share this amazing experiece of parenthood.
Happy holidays to each and every one of you!!!
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| Posted 12/22/06 10:49 AM |
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4monkeys
boys will be boys =)
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Re: Holiday wishes...
Thanks Barbara, for once again bringing that positive energy to the boards. (and always with a sense of humor too  )
For reminding us of all the wonderful things in life, how to love our families, be good to ourselves and others and enjoy every minute...
Youre a gem
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| Posted 12/22/06 10:52 AM |
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MrsBumbleb
it's me
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Christine
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Re: Holiday wishes...
A wonderful recipe as usual with a dash of sarcasm 
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| Posted 12/22/06 11:15 AM |
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Moehick
Ready for the sun!
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Re: Holiday wishes...
Hooray for normalcy 
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| Posted 12/22/06 11:20 AM |
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AndreaLMT
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Re: Holiday wishes...
You just really ROCK Barb.
WOW.
Have a wonderful holiday.
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| Posted 12/22/06 11:22 AM |
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CunningOne
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Re: Holiday wishes...
As always, very well said.
Wishing your family a wonderful holiday and a very blessed new year too!
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| Posted 12/22/06 11:28 AM |
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Tracey
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Re: Holiday wishes...
Very eloquently put, you have such a way with words.
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| Posted 12/22/06 11:41 AM |
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pinky
Twin Moms Do Everything Twice
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Re: Holiday wishes...
That was touching & beautiful Barbara. Thank you so much! I wish you and your family a very happy holiday and all the best in 2007.
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| Posted 12/22/06 11:52 AM |
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Charly
LOVE!
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Re: Holiday wishes...
That was beautiful I look forward to the years ahead of me with our new addition.
Happy Holidays to you and your family!!
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Holiday wishes...
After a rough week with DS, this just put it all back in perspective..
Thank you so much for such a beautiful, funny and well written post ... I will definitely bookmark it and refer back to it when all that patience runs out
happy holidays to you and all the Mommies here 
Message edited 12/22/2006 11:59:29 AM.
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LInative
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Cassie
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Re: Holiday wishes...
That was very nice, thank you and I hope you and your family have a wonderful holiday!!
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| Posted 12/22/06 12:00 PM |
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Eireann
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Re: Holiday wishes...
Thank you so much Barbara!! That was absolutely beautiful...except I don't think DD EVER slept on my chest--can't relate! 
Happy Holidays to you and your family!
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| Posted 12/22/06 12:03 PM |
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HillandRon
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Hillary
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Re: Holiday wishes...
Beautifully written...
Happy Holidays everyone!
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| Posted 12/22/06 12:20 PM |
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MelToddJulia
Love my Family!
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Mel
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Re: Holiday wishes...
Thanks Barb! That was beautiful!!
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Ambersmom
Straight up nasty
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Sharon
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Re: Holiday wishes...
Thank you Barb, as usual you are amazing!
Happy Holidays everyone!
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| Posted 12/22/06 12:51 PM |
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yankinmanc
Happy Days!
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Re: Holiday wishes...
You write words goodly.
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| Posted 12/22/06 12:57 PM |
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Disneygirl
Disney cruise bound!
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Re: Holiday wishes...
Beautifully said. Thank you for this! It is posts like this that make me proud to be a member of this board. Peace and happiness to you all.
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LIMOMx2
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Re: Holiday wishes...
That was so nice Barb!! Exactly what I needed today
I hoep you have a wonderful Christmas!!!!!! And New Year
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