How do you deal with the fear of disappointment?

I am currently in my first IVF cycle and am stimming. I will probably have my ER around 7/14. I am trying my HARDEST to remain positive that this WILL work, but there are some days that I am so fearful that I wll be devastated if it doesn't. How do you ladies handle these mixed emotions? I feel like I am on an emotional rollercoaster....

Re: How do you deal with the fear of disappointment?

While stimming I try to stay busy and positive. Nothing can come from being negative and it messes with your head. I try to do the best that i can and that is all anyone can do. I also try to stay away from reading negative posts on here (can always go back later and give your support). It's such a roller coaster with everyone at different points in their journey. You have to dig deep down inside yourself and know that this will work. Its so much easier sometimes to be negative than positive. But, there is no reason to think this wont work.

So, try to enjoy your weekend. And don't think too much about the future. Take it one day at a time. A good day is at night when you have done all your stims for the day and you can sleep knowing you did all you can do.

Hang in there. And good luck!!!!!

Re: How do you deal with the fear of disappointment?

I'm trying not to set myself up for major disappointment - keeping it "real" and realizing there is a chance it's not going to work - but that there's also a chance that it will!

Re: How do you deal with the fear of disappointment?

Aww sweetie- I think it comes w/ the territory You're pumping hormones into your body- I know they definitely affected me during my IUI cycles. I am starting tomorrow and stayed as busy as possible today, so I wouldn't think about it. But now it's 11:00 and we're leaving in 8 hours to head to our appointment- and it's all that's on my mind.
For myself, I can say that knowing ahead of time what our next steps are helps a lot... I always have to have a plan. If it's a BFP then.....xyz. If it's a BFN, then ..... abc... back to the drawing board and we try again (for now). I also allow myself to feel however I'm feeling- I don't get angry or upset w/ myself for allowing myself to feel that way (hope that makes sense
) We're only human, right? I have faith that we're in the right place, with the right dr, and doing what we can- and unfortunately, that's all we can do right now. Keep smiling- ITA w/ PP that keeping away from negative things is beneficial as well. Good luck to you!!! Keep me posted!!!

Re: How do you deal with the fear of disappointment?

Posted by CaseyGirl

I'm trying not to set myself up for major disappointment - keeping it "real" and realizing there is a chance it's not going to work - but that there's also a chance that it will!

Re: How do you deal with the fear of disappointment?

You just take it day by day