OK please tell me if I am making a big deal out of this-- HALF UPDATE DOWN THE PAGE

Please be honest.

My little man is 8 weeks old today. My dh insisted that we make our best man and matron of honor his godparents. I am not Christian so I always follow his lead on this stuff. I felt strongly that it should be family and not friends. But he has felt very hurt by the lack of anything (Congratulations or acknowledgment) from his sisters and brother. I understood and agreed. I have asked our Matron of honor and she was THRILLED. She said she knew she had a special connection from the minute she held him in the hospital (she didn't know at that point). But now here we are the baby is 8 weeks and he has not asked our best man. He has not changed his mind. I wanted him to ask him face to face, I think it's the right thing to do, but he has made no attempts to see him nor ask to see him. He said fine I will just call and ask him, I am disappointed.

Now I am frustrated that this child is 8 weeks old, I would like to figure out when this child is going to be baptized and what not but I don't want to start planning until we know we have a godfather. I feel like it's getting to the point where this child is getting old enough that it will look like our best man was an afterthought when he was actually the first thought in my husband's mind. Would you be getting frustrated too??

Did anyone else ask their godparents very late?

Message edited 7/4/2008 3:30:54 PM.

Re: OK please tell me if I am making a big deal out of this

We asked DH's sister and husband to be our DS's godparents a week after he was born.

We knew we wanted to ask them before he was born. I actually wanted to ask them while I was pregnant but DH wanted to wait until he was born. Or wait was it the other way around...

Message edited 7/4/2008 11:24:33 AM.

Re: OK please tell me if I am making a big deal out of this

We didn't ask the godparents until we had already sent out the invitations.

We knew who we wanted, we knew they would be there, we knew they would say yes, we just waited for a while.

I don't think it's a big deal.

Re: OK please tell me if I am making a big deal out of this

Posted by leighla

We didn't ask the godparents until we had already sent out the invitations.

We knew who we wanted, we knew they would be there, we knew they would say yes, we just waited for a while.

I don't think it's a big deal.

Re: OK please tell me if I am making a big deal out of this

I don't think it is a big deal either. It's nice having everything go the way you want it to, but I think you can start planning the party! Maybe it will light a fire under DH!

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I think they should know ahead of time so that they are available. What if they make plans to be away or something? I just think they need to know ahead of time so that they can make sure they will be there on the day of the christening...

Re: OK please tell me if I am making a big deal out of this

We chose my sister and DH's brother to be Joey's godparents- and we told them about a month before I gave birth to him lol. But I don't think waiting is a big deal, I am sure whenever you ask him, he will be honored. =)

Re: OK please tell me if I am making a big deal out of this

The only thing that would abbot me is that you want to start planning the baptism. So the godfather should be asked soon.

But how he is asked and thinking that people would think he is an afterthought IMO is silly. And who the hell cares what people think.

As you said this is you DH's religion and wishes which you agreed to. I would let him take the lead.

I would give him a deadline as to when the godfather is to be told so you can plan.

My DS was 8 mos when he was baptised and we didn't formally ask the godparents I till maybe 4 mos

Re: OK please tell me if I am making a big deal out of this

Well-- looks like I am half right.

He just happened to call and we were talking. I casually mention that I have to start planning 'squishy's' baptism and that I am thinking about doing it in Sept or October.

Well good thing I brought it up. He is going to Korea for 3 weeks possibly 4 middle of Sept to mid Oct and then it's his birthday and he usually goes to Vegas for that. So unless I do it before Sept 15 or in Nov our "godfather' won't be here for the baptism

Re: OK please tell me if I am making a big deal out of this-- HALF UPDATE DOWN THE PAGE

Posted by Jamie

Well-- looks like I am half right.

He just happened to call and we were talking. I casually mention that I have to start planning 'squishy's' baptism and that I am thinking about doing it in Sept or October.

Well good thing I brought it up. He is going to Korea for 3 weeks possibly 4 middle of Sept to mid Oct and then it's his birthday and he usually goes to Vegas for that. So unless I do it before Sept 15 or in Nov our "godfather' won't be here for the baptism

Re: OK please tell me if I am making a big deal out of this-- HALF UPDATE DOWN THE PAGE

Posted by leighla

We didn't ask the godparents until we had already sent out the invitations.

We knew who we wanted, we knew they would be there, we knew they would say yes, we just waited for a while.

I don't think it's a big deal.

Re: OK please tell me if I am making a big deal out of this-- HALF UPDATE DOWN THE PAGE

We baptised our son at 3mos old. I think DH asked the godfather like 2 or 3 weeks before. I honestly don't think its a big deal.

Re: OK please tell me if I am making a big deal out of this-- HALF UPDATE DOWN THE PAGE

Posted by Summerrluvv

Posted by Jamie

Well-- looks like I am half right.

He just happened to call and we were talking. I casually mention that I have to start planning 'squishy's' baptism and that I am thinking about doing it in Sept or October.

Well good thing I brought it up. He is going to Korea for 3 weeks possibly 4 middle of Sept to mid Oct and then it's his birthday and he usually goes to Vegas for that. So unless I do it before Sept 15 or in Nov our "godfather' won't be here for the baptism

Well you really can't be mad at him (in case you are), since no one has asked him to be a Godfather he can't be expected to plan around something he has no idea about.