How do YOU find the patience??? (Major vent inside)

Honestly, I am having the hardest time.

And I'm sorry, I just need to get it out maybe it will make me feel better.

I don't know what to do anymore.

She whines ALL of the time - ok maybe not ALL of the time, but ALOT of the time.

I know it is the age and not being able to communicate, but come on.

She also has molars coming in - so it is making it worse.

For the past month - I have only slept through the entire night - maybe 4 times.
She either wakes up screaming and we put her in our bed or I will sleep on the couch or floor with her.

She hasn't been eating lunch.
She does eat breakfast and dinner - but wants nothing to do with lunch. Right now she is screaming in her highchair cause she doesn't want to it.

She is soooooo clingy lately, I can't even go into the bathroom by myself.

And of course, I took her out of the highchair, cause I can't deal with listening to her crying anymore.


Please tell me how you handle it, cause I feel like I am having a terrible time with this and I don't know what to do.

If you got this far, thank you for listening

Re: How do YOU find the patience??? (Major vent inside)

I am going through the same exact thing but Andrew only eats breakfast and I don't even bother anymore with the other meals.

I tend to just ignore most of it. I don't know how I can but when he throws himself on the floor in a tantrum I just ignore him or try and involve him in something else. It does help too that I work all day

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I'm not at this stage yet, but I wanted to give you hugs. I hope it gets better soon!

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It is the age, and not being able to communicate, and the molars....but none of that makes it any easier when you need a break. I hope you can get one SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh - and you're NOT alone!!

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I know it is very frustrating.

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Oh God Marcie!! I am right there with you!!! Add to it that I havent had a break in the longest time, I am going insane!!!

I fear that the sleepless nights are going to come back again very soon. She has been playing with her fingers in her mouth constantly and has been whiny. She doesnt eat ANYTHING. No breakfast, lunch or dinner. Oh wait..I forgot, the child can live on those banana biters that gerber puts out.

She follows me everywhere...and when she isnt following me, she is being wild. Trying to run now, trying to climb the stairs, wont sit still unless the tv is on SOMETIMES.

The only way I deal with it at all is to GET OUT! Even if its freezing, I put her in the car and just go somewhere, anywhere. Even if we never get out of the car, it just seems to break up the day. The days we are in here ALL DAY LONG, I feel like I am going to lose my mind!!!!!!!! Like today, no car. I think I am going to go nuts. I fall back on tv A LOT..TOO MUCH..and i feel so bad but it helps when I have to get something done or at the very least, come on here for 5 minutes so i dont lose my mind.

I guess its just a phase but its SO HARD!! I have no advice but sometimes knowing your not alone helps a little bit.

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OMG! You have just describe DS to a tee! He is 19 months. I am ashamed to say I am so happy to drop him at daycare in the morning, because I can't take his whining and clinging all day long.

DD is the same age and not as bad. She just refuses to eat anything but brealkfast.

I REALL hope this is a short lived stage!

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DS is a bit younger but I could have wrote that word for word. It is so hard, I dont know how to deal with it either. I have never cried and told myself I cant do this untill Wed at 3am

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My only advice to give is to try and look at the whining as a temper tantrum. It's basically the same thing only in passive aggressive form. I seem to have this ability to tune them out just like men do to us..or I'll simply walk away or out of the room. I taught myself to whisper instead of yell. It's all about the change in tone that lets them know you mean business and whispering can work just as well as yelling or even better for that matter....When eating becomes a struggle I stop caring (or I mean I dont let them know that I care) look at it this way it's one of the few things that they can control in their lives and they know it. Dont let them know you care they'll eat when they are hungry....put the timer on and give them a set time to eat if they dont eat in that amount of time they they are done...end of story...this worked for me in the past.

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I hate to say it, but I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one. I always thought I was a patient person but now I know I have NONE! I try walking away and ignoring but I'm going nuts. I couldn't wait to get to work today and I'm starting to dread the fact that I am quitting my job soon.

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I hear ya girl

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Re: How do YOU find the patience??? (Major vent inside)

I hear ya. And it is the age. It's hard. There are days where Joey is just impossible. I try to put him in an area where it is gated (in the playroom), and go into another room, by myself, for a little while. It helps.

Then there are days where he is an absolute angel. I know we all have our off days. But it's so hard when you are a SAHM, and go through the same thing day in and day out. It's hard for all moms.

Good luck and hope this phase passes soon!

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Hailey is 19 months and definatly has her days. I can totally relate on the sleep thing, she hasn't slept throught the night in 3 MONTHS!!!!! She has gotten 4 molars and 2 more bottom teeth are on their way. She has however been getting better with the clinginess. I think I deserve it, after all, this is the first time in 19 months that she is leaving me alone!!! I agree with getting a break, sometimes it is the only way I keep my sanity, especially when I used to have down time at 8:00 at night when she went to bed and now I don't even have that! Good luck and I hope it gets easier soon.

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I'm not there yet but I can only imagine how frustrated you are.

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I usually ignore him, sometimes it works and other times not so much. Besides it being her teeth do you think she could be bored at home. I think that is part of the problem in my house. I try and go out with the 2 of them but I am limited to where I can go and even when I go he is in the cart or stroller so he is restrained.

I really can't wait until the spring so we can get out of the house and he can just run around!

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Re: How do YOU find the patience??? (Major vent inside)

I have no advice since I'm not there yet - but wanted to offer

also, would you consider putting her into a school - even for two half days a week or so - just so that YOU can get a break and she can let out some of her energy there.

I think I will def. be enrolling Jack for two half days a week - the DAY he turns 18 months.

ETA: Def. try getting out at least once a day with her like the others said - it will be somewhat of an escape!

Message edited 1/25/2008 5:46:18 PM.

Re: How do YOU find the patience??? (Major vent inside)

Right now Kerri is in her highchair complaining about eating dinner...so it is the age.

Why is she waking up at night? Kerri has always slept through the night except the last two weeks....she gets up once because of her teeth....I go in don't talk to her, rock her and put her back. Then she stays asleep....are you stimulating her too much that she wants to go into bed with you?

Does she go to any groups? You may want to try Gymboree or something similar, it helped with Kerri's clinginess so much.

There are rough days for all of us

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It's hard, sooo hard. I just posted about this the other day. I am taking the suggestion of mommy time out before I lose my cool and if I do I am making sure to talk to DD an apologize. I keep reminding myself I don't want to be like my mom was, yelling all the time. I also like Love and Logic so I am taking my book out again to reread what I did read and finish reading the rest.

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