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EckoRed81504
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How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
I think most of you know that I'm involved in an organization called St. Baldricks - shaving heads to find a cure for childrens cancer. A few months back, I posted about a girl named Jen and how she's one of the honored kids with St. Baldricks (Northport) and she's also on the committee-which is how we became friends. Here is my original post asking for a miracle for her
Well that was in October, and here we are-almost to June and she hung on this long-but it hasn't been an easy road. She's been in and out of the hospital numerous times since then but she's losing her battle. She's back in the hospital and the doctors have made her as comfortable as they can. They thought they were losing her on Wednesday night. I was supposed to go see her today but I'm not. Her family needs to spend as much time with her as they can. She's only 20 years old.
With that being said- before I was a parent and even now that I am, I could NEVER imgaine having to say good bye to my child. I don't even want to imagine the stress of having my child go through what Jen has gone through, and she's still such a strong woman. My heart is breaking writing this because I know there is absoutely nothing I can do. Jen wasn't well enough to come to St. Baldricks this year, but we know how much she wanted to be there. We had her on Skype with us at our meetings so it was like she was there. I wish I got to see her one last time, I wish she got to meet my daughter. I know I'm rambling but I just can't believe this is it for her. 20 years old, 70 lbs and this girl is one hell of a fighter. Nothing stopped her and I mean NOTHING. She walked around PROUDLY with her bald head. Losing her hair was just a bump in the road for her.
I don't know what I'm asking for, prayers, thoughts, ANYTHING that you can spare. I hope she goes peacefully and knows how much we all love her. She's not only a big part of our St. Baldricks family, but part of me. I spoke to her dad this morning and he told me that she was comfortable but having a little trouble breathing. I guess comfort is something we can ask for at this point?
My heart aches so much for her parents. I'm at a loss of words right now. God Bless her parents because they are so strong willed. I give them so much credit.
I'm thankful every day that my daughter is healthy. I lost my cousin to cancer 10 years ago and since her death, it literally changed my life, changed me as the person that I am.
I know my cousin will welcome her with open arms when the time comes and I really do find comfort in knowing that she won't be in pain anymore.
Jen, i love you and I'm so glad I got the priviledge of meeting you 3 years ago. You are a legend in my eyes and you will never be forgotten.
xoxoxox
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summerBaby10
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
How sad. Cancer is such a terrible disease. I am so thankful for health. 
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My4GirlsMyLife
My 4 girlies
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
My aunt passed from a rare spinal cancer when she was only 15 ... my grandma has never been the same 
I think what you do is so amazing ...so hard to see ,but so amazing ! I pray for her and her family and friends And here are some hugs for you
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| Posted 5/22/10 12:58 PM |
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Melissa1013
My sweet boy
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
I wish her peace and many hugs to her family and friends.
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| Posted 5/22/10 1:25 PM |
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Dani922
Here's to new beginnings
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Danielle
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
I could cry reading this. Just the title gave me chills.  I could never even imagine. I'm not sure I would be strong enough to survive that as a parent. God bless that girl & her family. I pray that they find the strength to go on & keep fighting 
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pinkandblue
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
nothing can be worse than waching your child die
ugh, my heart is breaking just thinking of what they are going through
many prayers for her, and you
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| Posted 5/22/10 2:38 PM |
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Diana1215
Living on a prayer!!!
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Diana
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
I'm crying reading this. How special she must be to have touched so many people.
My heart aches for the parents and her loved ones. I can only imagine that losing a child must be the worst thing in the world.
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| Posted 5/22/10 2:41 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
I can't read this. My childhood best friend died from cancer when I was 15 and she was 14. I can't even read the title to be honest
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| Posted 5/22/10 2:51 PM |
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ABCiverson
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
saying goodbye to a child is terrible thing to have to live through...not easy at all 5 years later its still on my mind daily. This family will be in my prayers
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| Posted 5/22/10 9:00 PM |
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mamasita27
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
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Tine73
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
My brother died of Leukemia. Now that I am a parent, I really don't know how my parents when through that. I really can't imagine having to go through it. My grandmother says that my mom has never been the same. He was 3.5 years old and I was 5.
One of my brother's doctor's wrote a book and my family is one of the families featured in it. I read it every few years to remind me of what my parents went through and to remember how precious each day really is.
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| Posted 5/22/10 9:26 PM |
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wcs3504
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
This entire thread makes me so sad. 
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| Posted 5/22/10 9:34 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
Posted by Tine73
My brother died of Leukemia. Now that I am a parent, I really don't know how my parents when through that. I really can't imagine having to go through it. My grandmother says that my mom has never been the same. He was 3.5 years old and I was 5.
One of my brother's doctor's wrote a book and my family is one of the families featured in it. I read it every few years to remind me of what my parents went through and to remember how precious each day really is.
I've heard you mention your brother passing but I never knew how and didn't want to ask. Your parents must be incredibly strong
Now that I am a parent I understand the worry of wanting to keep your children safe. To be blindsided by sometihng like cancer that you can't control I dont know how I would handle it. I think that you find an inner strength somehow to stay strong for your cihld and help them fight and if it comes down to them having to say good bye you stay as strong as you can to make their last days as comfortable and happy as possible. I really dont even want to think about it
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| Posted 5/22/10 10:02 PM |
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Palebride
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
These stories give true meaning to heartache......my heart is literally hurting from even thinking that people have to go through that. And it happens far too much. I really don't know how anyone survives something like that. I don't think I could.
There's a 9th grade girl in my school who I taught last year who shaved her head this year for St. Baldricks. She, her father, and her brother all shaved their heads and raised thousands of dollars together.  Such a good cause!
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pinkandblue
Our family is complete, maybe
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
Posted by jellybean1420
I think that you find an inner strength somehow to stay strong for your cihld and help them fight and if it comes down to them having to say good bye you stay as strong as you can to make their last days as comfortable and happy as possible. :
I agree completely.
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| Posted 5/22/10 10:48 PM |
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luckyinlove
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
Such a sad thread I was actually just watching My Sister's Keeper and thinking the same thing. I wanted to run up and grap DD out of her crib and just hold her -- I am so afraid of anything ever happening to her. I feel so sorry for any parent who has ever had to deal with such a loss.
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| Posted 5/22/10 11:06 PM |
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jprimrose
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
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mooshyboo
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
ohh my gosh you have me in tears! Lots of prayers and hugs to her family and her dear freinds! Lots of hugs to you sweetie!
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| Posted 5/23/10 11:10 AM |
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Gertyrae
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
Dear God...this has me in tears. I couldn't agree more and my heart just breaks for the families of women like Jen and Kristy.
We lost my mother six months ago to cancer-related issues and that kills me every day. I couldn't imagine going through it with DS.
Many prayers to Jen and her family
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| Posted 5/23/10 11:17 AM |
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eddiesmommy
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Melissa
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
I dont know how a parent does it. I lost my friend Keith to leukemia when he was 19 ( he had fallen ill with it at 17). It puts it in such a different perspective now that I have my own child....what his parents must have been going through.
Hugs for you too though.
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| Posted 5/23/10 11:35 AM |
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sweetie101
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Peainapod
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Diana
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
I dont ever want to think about having to say goodbye to my son.
What a terrible thing for your friend and their family. May her suffering end soon and she be in peace.
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| Posted 5/23/10 1:20 PM |
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juanvi
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Re: How do you say goodbye to your child? Cancer related
How hard! how sad! Cancer's the worst.
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