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wannabemom
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how is your baby at family parties?
now that the holidays are over...
how does your baby handle it? Love it, cries all the time? And how often does DC see the people who often come to Easter/Passover? Often, every couple months, or less frequently?
DS does NOT do well with the family. He is more upset by the in-laws than my family, but he doesn't do great with either....
I think the in-laws are 'upsetting' to him becuase of the noise factor... you know My Big Fat Greek Wedding? well, my family is the quiet family, and DH's it the greek family... DS totally freaks out becuase everyone is talking SO LOUD. They put their heads right in his face and say 'HELLO ERYK! HOW ARE YOU!' Response: sniff sniff WAAAAAAAAAA  When we only see DH's parents (no siblings & cousins), he's much better becuase there's less energy in the air and less noise....
So our easter was rather stressful, and I spent half of it in an upstairs bedroom calming down 'waaaaa'.
How do your babies handle family parties?
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
Thankfully DS handles crowds &family gathering rather well I think!
I have my own"big fat greek wedding" type of family at my Moms where we went frequently for my 3 months of maternity leave and I try to go about1 time a week now. Logan is used to the noise since there are like 7 people or more in the house at all times!!
At famliy gatherings(holidays or birthdays or whatever) he will gladly go family member to family member & laugh & smile or just sit quietly!
But my niece is similar to your DS......every baby is different and some do not like the "in your face" approach some people have with them!
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| Posted 4/13/09 2:00 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
DS doesn't want to miss anything at parties, so if he is tired, he will refuse to nap. Yesterday was trying, he didn't nap from 11:30 am to 5:30 pm. Then took a 1.5 hour nap on my mom, and then was up till 10ish.
Parties with a lot of loudness throws him off. He's better in quiet situations, but will go to anyone. I think it is just the overstimulation factor.
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kerrycec03
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
DS does great. He doesn't mind being passed around and is generally smiling and laughing the whole time.
I should add I think the reason he is super comfortable around tons of people (loud ones too) is that from 2 weeks on his always been around lots of people. In the hospital he was held by everyone who came to visit too. The reason I say this is my cousins are not good in large groups and I do believe its because my Aunt was super controlling.
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
Both kids do great! From day one, they had loud family members in their faces, so to them, it's normal The day they were both born, they have always been around people....
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
Posted by kerrycec03
DS does great. He doesn't mind being passed around and is generally smiling and laughing the whole time.
I should add I think the reason he is super comfortable around tons of people (loud ones too) is that from 2 weeks on his always been around lots of people. In the hospital he was held by everyone who came to visit too.
My DS too, yesterday we were out from 12:30pm-8:30pm (1 restaurant and 2 houses) and he was great!
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MST9106
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
Posted by Sweets13
Both kids do great! From day one, they had loud family members in their faces, so to them, it's normal The day they were both born, they have always been around people....
Same here! DS was around our families and friends from day one. I have a really loud mouth SIL who watches DS so that was a big factor too LOL I love her to death though.
ETA: He goes around doing his thing too and doesn't mind being picked up by different people.
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Kelly9904
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
DS loves big parties...he really loves being aroudn other kids so seeign his cousins just makes his day (or really any kids for that matter!)
We see DHs family at least 1-2x a week so anything at ILs is like being at DS's second home and he thinks nothing of it.
He doesnt see my family as often so it generally takes him about 10 minutes to warm up and then he is fine.
ETA: For DS its normal to have 10-15 people aroudn him almost at all time....he was 5 days old when he went to CHristmas and from then on its been nonstop family activities! It also helps for him that on both sides there are kids around his age so he always has someone he can play with too!
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MrsRbk
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
Posted by kerrycec03
DS does great. He doesn't mind being passed around and is generally smiling and laughing the whole time.
I should add I think the reason he is super comfortable around tons of people (loud ones too) is that from 2 weeks on his always been around lots of people. In the hospital he was held by everyone who came to visit too. The reason I say this is my cousins are not good in large groups and I do believe its because my Aunt was super controlling.
Well, I'm not controlling by any stretch when it comes to DD and she did NOT do well the two nights of passover. The first night at IL's she was "ookay" but the 2nd night at my sister, we had to leave before the dinner portion of the sedar because DD was inconsolable, which I attribute to her disruption of routine (some babies don't do well when their routine is disrupted, has nothing to do with a controlling parent). 7pm is usually bottle/bath and bed for DD. She prefers her crib to the pack and play because her "toys" (mobile) is there and it's familar to her. She does well with other people and noise, but apparently does not do well when her routine is disrupted. This was the first family thing since she's been born though, so maybe it will get better in time.
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
Posted by MrsRbk
Posted by kerrycec03
DS does great. He doesn't mind being passed around and is generally smiling and laughing the whole time.
I should add I think the reason he is super comfortable around tons of people (loud ones too) is that from 2 weeks on his always been around lots of people. In the hospital he was held by everyone who came to visit too. The reason I say this is my cousins are not good in large groups and I do believe its because my Aunt was super controlling.
Well, I'm not controlling by any stretch when it comes to DD and she did NOT do well the two nights of passover. The first night at IL's she was "ookay" but the 2nd night at my sister, we had to leave before the dinner portion of the sedar because DD was inconsolable, which I attribute to her disruption of routine (some babies don't do well when their routine is disrupted, has nothing to do with a controlling parent). 7pm is usually bottle/bath and bed for DD. She prefers her crib to the pack and play because her "toys" (mobile) is there and it's familar to her. She does well with other people and noise, but apparently does not do well when her routine is disrupted. This was the first family thing since she's been born though, so maybe it will get better in time.
i have to agree with michelle. i am pretty laid back, IMO, and i am willing to let anyone hold DS if he will let them. i will even walk away to see how he does. when he was born i let anyone who wanted to hold him - and he was a very easy-going newborn. i think he didn't mind being held because he was sleeping most of the time 
when he got a bit older (2-3 months) he didn't really do too well away from me. he needs a LOT of time to warm up and doesn't like a lot of noise and crowds.
even at my ILs and my parent's house, he was often cranky b/c he had so many people in his face all the time, expecting him to entertain them 
however now that he is older he is much more relaxed and willing to engage with other people, and because of that i can leave him and not worry about him having a meltdown.
so i think it really depends on the child, not always the parent.
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
I think he gets a little overwhelmed. We both work full time and don't see our extended families very often. With the exception of daycare, he isn't really around large groups of people very often and we don't entertain a lot. He has sort of a gentle personality and I think the volume and the number of people can be too much for him. He is also the only baby, so he gets a lot of attention when we are with the family, whether he wants it or not.
I think another problem is he won't usually nap when we have company and then he turns into Mr. crankypants. Coincidentally, he seems to be teething badly whenever we have had a holiday gathering over the last 6 months.
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
He loves it---how could he not, he is the star of the show
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
my son has been pretty good so far. He is 2/12 months old.
Like some of the other posters have said, my baby has been around people since he was born. Our families visit frequently and he is used to seeing them.
He does a get bit fussy every now and then and just wants me, but that is normal I guess.
Truth be told I am more antsy than he is. I am always worried that he will be overwhelmed or will act up.
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NinaLemon
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
We are lucky that my DS seems to do well when we visit family. At first yesterday when everyone rushed him (they hadn't seen him in about a month) he looked really suprised and like he was about to cry, but then he relaxed and was himself the rest of the day. The only problem I do have is that he doesn't nap when we are at the ILs and then I have to listen to my SIL give me all of her condesending crapola 'oh, you can't just put him down to sleep? Mine will sleep anywhere ....." ...OK maybe that is more MY problem than DS's, LOL.
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
Posted by Sweets13
Both kids do great! From day one, they had loud family members in their faces, so to them, it's normal The day they were both born, they have always been around people....
OMG same here!
At one point in the hospital room, DH counted 15 people in the room! Plus sternos and coolers of food
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adeline27
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
How do your babies handle family parties?
My son loves parties. He has been so good since birth when it came to noise, different surroundings whatever. I have to say your story is the same with my nephew. He gets really upset at parties. I feel bad for his parents because they constantly have to hear how much their baby cries and that he's "sensitive". That would piss me off if I kept hearing that over and over.
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mooshyboo
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Re: how is your baby at family parties?
DS is great with family partied and get togethers. (My inlaws are Italian and can be loud) Sometimes my DS gets a little over stimulated with everyone wanting to hold him & he let's me know when he has had enough. 
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