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jellybean78
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How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
I am the MOH at my girlfriends wedding. I'm deciding what is an appropriate amount to give her for a gift. I paid for her entire bridal shower myself and I also paid for her bachlorette trip to Miami. The cost pp for a plate is $130. How much would you give? Enough to cover your plate and DH or a little something extra.
ETA: I am expecting a baby in 2 months and we're not exactly rolling in the dough. TIA!
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evnme
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
i think $200-250 would be fine
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| Posted 8/23/07 5:11 PM |
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MrsKelly
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
if it is 130 a plate and 2 of you are going... IMO, i would give at least $300. i give $250-$300 as a standard wedding gift; more if it is a close friend or if i am in the BP. being that you really paid for a lot with her shower and bachelorette party though, i'd say $300 would be nice... it pays for both of your plates and a little extra.
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| Posted 8/23/07 6:40 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
See, I don't think the cost per plate really factors in. If someone wants to have their wedding in an expensive place or a cheaper place, why should that factor into their gift.
I think with the cost of being a bridesmaid these days, you shouldn't have to give gift at alll  But seriously...
Personally, I give $200 as a standard for DH and me. You can give more since your are close to that person, if you can afford it.
Message edited 8/23/2007 6:44:44 PM.
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
maybe I am cheap, but if you paid for her entire shower AND her batch party in MIAMI, I would give her a lovely card and that is about it.
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| Posted 8/23/07 7:30 PM |
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Nicole728
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
$250-300
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| Posted 8/23/07 7:56 PM |
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bklyngirl
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
Posted by Shelly
See, I don't think the cost per plate really factors in. If someone wants to have their wedding in an expensive place or a cheaper place, why should that factor into their gift.
i agree
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| Posted 8/23/07 7:57 PM |
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alnem
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
$200 is our standard gift for a wedding. however, if we know the place that they went to is a little pricier than the norm then we tend to throw in a bit more.
being that you paid for her shower and bach party, i think $200-$250 should suffice.
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| Posted 8/23/07 8:01 PM |
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alnem
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
Posted by Shelly
I think with the cost of being a bridesmaid these days, you shouldn't have to give gift at alll But seriously...
word!
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sunnygirl
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
i think $200 is more than enough condsidering everything else you have already laid out for her wedding, if she is a true friend she will see that also,
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| Posted 8/23/07 8:03 PM |
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jenheartsrob
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
Well, let's see, I didn't even get a card from my MOH, so I'm thinking anything you give is lovely and generous
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| Posted 8/23/07 8:05 PM |
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rojerono
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
I never give based on how much the food is per plate. You should give the most that you are comfortable with giving and not a penny more. Your friend will appreciate whatever you give and will understand if it isn't exactly the high dollar amount.
Me - personally.. I am comfortable with giving $300 when my husband and I attend a wedding. If it is a very close friend I will ante up $500. At my wedding the average gift was about 200 per couple with some giving more and some giving less.
My MOH gave me a fire pit for my wedding gift - but she also threw a huge after party for me in lieu of a gift.
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
I dont think $200 is enough for weddings nowadays. I think guests should try and give what the couple payed per plate. Average weddings these days run $125+ per plate. I give at least $250 or more depending on the hall. Even though you payed for the bridal shower and bachelorette party, I would still give $250.
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| Posted 8/23/07 8:12 PM |
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pjay
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
I think $200 is definately enough since u paid for so much other stuff. Does she know u paid for the entire shower?
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| Posted 8/23/07 8:14 PM |
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jellybean78
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
Posted by pjay
I think $200 is definately enough since u paid for so much other stuff. Does she know u paid for the entire shower?
Yes she knows I paid for the entire shower. Thanks!
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| Posted 8/23/07 8:17 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
Posted by jellybean1420
I dont think $200 is enough for weddings nowadays. I think guests should try and give what the couple payed per plate. Average weddings these days run $125+ per plate. I give at least $250 or more depending on the hall. Even though you payed for the bridal shower and bachelorette party, I would still give $250.
so what you're saying is that the bride and groom should spread the word on how much they're paying per plate?  most wedding guests do not have that info.
people should give what they can afford.
I assume that the OP probably spent $1500 - $2K (or more) on this wedding so far. when is it enough??!
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| Posted 8/23/07 8:22 PM |
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pjay
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
If my MOH paid for my shower alone, i would totally not expect anything more that a card! so if u are gonna give her anything $200 is more than enough
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| Posted 8/23/07 8:29 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
Honestly, I do not think it is your job to pay for your plate at any wedding. A bride and groom choose to spend what they want and it is not the guests responsibility. That being said, our standard gift is between $200-250> If I were in the bridal party or a sibling I would try to go higher, whatever I could afford. I did give my brother $500 , but I was unmarried and making plenty$$$> If he had gotten married now it would have been much less since I have a mortgage and two children to support. I think you should give what you can afford. A close friend should understand your circumstances.
I think paying for the shower, etc was plenty. Can your friend fault you when you've already done so much for her? I would just give what you can afford.
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GioiaMia
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
i have 12 weddings coming up so this is a little scale i devised so i wouldnt have to think about it every time LOL
coworker/casual friend $300
close friend/family $400
if i am a member of the bridal party $500
for us personally we dont give less than $300 as a couple or $150 if i have to go alone
HTH!
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lvdolphins
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
I think since you paid for the shower and the Bachelorette party, $200 is more than enough!
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| Posted 8/23/07 8:51 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
Posted by jellybean1420
I dont think $200 is enough for weddings nowadays. I think guests should try and give what the couple payed per plate. Average weddings these days run $125+ per plate. I give at least $250 or more depending on the hall. Even though you payed for the bridal shower and bachelorette party, I would still give $250.
so what you're saying is that the bride and groom should spread the word on how much they're paying per plate? most wedding guests do not have that info.
people should give what they can afford.
I assume that the OP probably spent $1500 - $2K (or more) on this wedding so far. when is it enough??!
ITA with this.
Whatever happened to "it's the thought that counts"? The OP has put a lot of thought into some very special things for this bride. I feel like if she can afford to give a gift, that is fantastic, if not, a card is great too.
If someone is your true friend, they aren't going to gauge your friendship on if you "covered your plate" at their wedding.
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Karen
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
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Posted by pjay
I think $200 is definately enough since u paid for so much other stuff. Does she know u paid for the entire shower?
Yes she knows I paid for the entire shower. Thanks!
I would definitely say anywhere from $200-300 is perfect!
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| Posted 8/23/07 8:54 PM |
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tourist
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
I would just buy a gift. It will mean more to her to have something special from her MOH, and you could probably spend about $100 & get her something nice.
That way it is the thought that counts & not the money.
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
so what you're saying is that the bride and groom should spread the word on how much they're paying per plate? most wedding guests do not have that info.
I did not say that a bride and groom should spread the word. I said an average wedding these days is $125 a plate. Generally you can tell from the hall how $$$ is it going to be. If it is a hall I have never been to, I might ask a friend of mine or family member who has been to that hall what an appropriate gift is.
I understand there are two ways of thinking when it comes to wedding gifts, giving what you can afford and paying per plate. I personally like to give per plate. That is what I feel comfortable doing.
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| Posted 8/23/07 9:38 PM |
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CAMCaps
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Re: How Much is appropriate? Wedding related
I do not think you should feel obliged to "cover your plate" Friends understand that very few people are independently wealthy. I had a few of my closest friends not give as much as people we barely talk to. It depends on your means, not your level of friendship. With that being said, if I had to pick an average, I would say most couples gave us 200-250.
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