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Coley
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How to tell kids/step kids your expecting?
DH and I decided we are going to tell our families Christmas morning that we are expecting - we have our sono that we photoshopped a santa hat onto and a little thinking bubble that shows our EDD. We have a poem to put in our card. We figure that we will have DH's Daughter hand out the cards and frames to all of the parents/our siblings.
We want to tell her before we see her Christmas morning. The last time we will see her is Tues 12/22 and I wanted to make it special (She's 6).
Any ideas?
Also, I am slightly afraid of her telling BM who may possibly put it out to MIL and FIL before we can tell them on Christmas morning. DH thinks 6 is old enough to keep a secret - I just don't want them to hear the news from anyone but us. KWIM? Any help would be great. TIA
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Posted 12/16/09 2:05 PM  |
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Re: How to tell kids/step kids your expecting?
I think 6 is still on the edge of spilling the beans. Depends on how mature she is. I can just see her getting SO excited and not being able to contain her smile and tipping people off somehow.
Will she be with you x-mas morning before you see family? I would tell her x-mas morning then (if not, how about xmas eve) and then tell her you want her to be the important person that day to make the announcement and tell her what you have planned.
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| Posted 12/16/09 2:09 PM |
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JoJo2010
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Re: How to tell kids/step kids your expecting?
Posted by neener1211
I think 6 is still on the edge of spilling the beans. Depends on how mature she is. I can just see her getting SO excited and not being able to contain her smile and tipping people off somehow.
Will she be with you x-mas morning before you see family? I would tell her x-mas morning then (if not, how about xmas eve) and then tell her you want her to be the important person that day to make the announcement and tell her what you have planned.
ITA!
I think 6 might be very close to spilling the beans! I mean I am 24 and i have a hard time not spilling the beans when its something so exciting!
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| Posted 12/16/09 2:11 PM |
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Re: How to tell kids/step kids your expecting?
Crashing....
But I have a 6 year old niece, and trust me, it is NOT easy for them to keep a secret. You might be putting it at a 50/50 risk, cause if she is VERY excited about it, its hard for them to not want to say anything.....and if she is unsure or conflicted about it, she might become very sad and end up telling her mom. Either way, its a big thing for a child that age to hold in.
Could you maybe pull her aside on Christmas morning and tell her before she hands the cards out and let her know that she is the first to know and now she gets to be the ones to pass out the cards to everyone?
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| Posted 12/16/09 2:39 PM |
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Coley
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Re: How to tell kids/step kids your expecting?
Posted by MrsPJB2007
Crashing....
But I have a 6 year old niece, and trust me, it is NOT easy for them to keep a secret. You might be putting it at a 50/50 risk, cause if she is VERY excited about it, its hard for them to not want to say anything.....and if she is unsure or conflicted about it, she might become very sad and end up telling her mom. Either way, its a big thing for a child that age to hold in.
Could you maybe pull her aside on Christmas morning and tell her before she hands the cards out and let her know that she is the first to know and now she gets to be the ones to pass out the cards to everyone?
This is my stance that I want our family to know before BM knows and she tells anyone. It's our place to spread the news. DH is afraid that SD will come over an hour before all of our family comes over and will be wrapped up in gifts and by the time she's done and has a minute to calm down - family will be there already. He also has on his side- that she knew for over a month that BM was preggers (a year ago) before she said anything at our home....
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| Posted 12/16/09 2:45 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: How to tell kids/step kids your expecting?
Posted by Coley
This is my stance that I want our family to know before BM knows and she tells anyone. It's our place to spread the news. DH is afraid that SD will come over an hour before all of our family comes over and will be wrapped up in gifts and by the time she's done and has a minute to calm down - family will be there already. He also has on his side- that she knew for over a month that BM was preggers (a year ago) before she said anything at our home....
Make the announcement HER first christmas present at your house. Wrap something up for her so you don't get entangled in opening gifts and don't get to tell her.
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| Posted 12/16/09 2:49 PM |
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Coley
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Re: How to tell kids/step kids your expecting?
Posted by neener1211
Posted by Coley
This is my stance that I want our family to know before BM knows and she tells anyone. It's our place to spread the news. DH is afraid that SD will come over an hour before all of our family comes over and will be wrapped up in gifts and by the time she's done and has a minute to calm down - family will be there already. He also has on his side- that she knew for over a month that BM was preggers (a year ago) before she said anything at our home....
Make the announcement HER first christmas present at your house. Wrap something up for her so you don't get entangled in opening gifts and don't get to tell her.
That's a great idea! Any ideas on what to wrap up? 
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| Posted 12/16/09 2:54 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: How to tell kids/step kids your expecting?
Posted by Coley
That's a great idea! Any ideas on what to wrap up?
Um....how about a big sister t-shirt for her to wear the day of the birth....and a big sister picture frame with the sono pic in it. She can put the picture of them together in it once the baby is born.
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| Posted 12/16/09 3:05 PM |
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