How truly sad is this ?

So, for those of you who have read my posts in the past, you will know that we have only seen my SD scattered times over the past 3 years due to BM's brainwashing and severe Parental Alienation ( she's 12, we saw her regularly for the first 8+ years)

That dreaded day came again ( Fathers Day)....She called in the afternoon which was nice...DH asked her what she was doing and she said she was going to a park ( not sure if she really was or was saying that so that he wouldn't offer to come get her)...neither here nor there...

Today he gets a nice fathers day card in the mail from her (mother filled out the envelope which always puts our radar up that she opened the card and put it in another envelope- been done before in an obvious manner and SD is 12- very capable of filling out envelopes and has done so in the past)


Inside the card, SD put a sticker of the earth and all around it, handwrote #1 Dad in the World with hearts

It just makes me so sad and mad , that I know this is how she really feels and that her mother has such a hold on her with guilt and her fear of betrayal that she is missing out on so much time with her father and her siblings...

Why, why, why ???????

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These stupid women don't care about the harm they are doing to their children! I bet when she becomes a teen and gives her mother a hard time BM will be begging you guys to take her.

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that is heartbreaking...and Father's Day should be spent with her father - no excuses. That is so unfair for SD, your DH and you

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What BM does is sad, incredibly.

But this

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Posted by imthecindyofcindyandkevin

What BM does is sad, incredibly.

But this

Posted by Bops

Inside the card, SD put a sticker of the earth and all around it, handwrote #1 Dad in the World with hearts

is the part that you and DH need to focus on and remember. It shows that you and he are doing the right thing and it's getting through to her. BM's efforts aren't working, SD thinks so highly of her dad; that's what's most important.

Message edited 6/23/2010 7:59:07 PM.

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Maybe I would feel different if I was on the other side, but what do these BM's think they are doing when brainwashing, trying to turn their children against their fathers? Seriously, what pleasure do they get out of it? Yea you are hurting the father, but you are also hurting you child, that you love. It is just so wrong. I have thought about this in the past, not that I ever plan on leaving my husband, but I would never, ever thold my DD back from him if we were to part. I would never deny her seeing her father, I would never talk anything about her father. And I seriously mean this, came from a divorced home where, 25 years post divorce, my parents STILL play games and talk cr@p about each other. Who are they hurting, me.

I am so sorry for you guys and your SD....it is so wrong what her BM is doing. I am sure you guys have tried talking to her. Perhaps next time you do see her, tell her to write a note to her mother, telling her what she wants and how she feels.