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How would you/do you handle this question?

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GenLCSW
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How would you/do you handle this question?

Jacob is 20 months old and eveybody has been asking me questions like "when are you going to start trying for #2?" and "what are you waiting for, dont you want them close together?" It really really bothers me because it is none of there business. The truth is, we will be TTC for #2 soon but I just thinks its so rude. What if we didnt want another child or g-d forbid we were having trouble conceiving. I always respond "when the time is right" but its just amazing to me how everybody is trying to plan my life Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 7/27/08 7:53 AM
 
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Re: How would you/do you handle this question?

You can do one of 2 things.....

Option #1: Tell them that you dont ask about their sex life and you would prefer that they didnt ask you about yours.

or

Option #2: Tell them in detail exactly what you are doing to TTC. Complete with position, CM, the whole 9 yards...

Posted 7/27/08 8:01 AM
 

05mommy09
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Re: How would you/do you handle this question?

I get this ALL the time, esp. now with DS approaching 3yrs.

I usually reply "when you buy me a house" or "when you start to pay my bills" I follow the sarcasm up with a chuckle and just say "I'm not ready and I'm not where I want to be financially for another at this time."

Posted 7/27/08 8:05 AM
 

Stefanie

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Re: How would you/do you handle this question?

I hate those questions. I like Marissa's answers...when you pay my bills and buy me a house...Chat Icon

Posted 7/27/08 9:26 AM
 

shellybean
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Re: How would you/do you handle this question?

It may seem rude but I think many people naturally ask that, I have! I mean im ntellling them there kids should be close in age and all that, but I have said " Are yiu gonna have any more... people mean well...

Posted 7/27/08 9:33 AM
 

pmpkn087
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Re: How would you/do you handle this question?

Yes, it is very rude!!! We get it aaaallll the time. I even get it from people at work, which is unacceptable, IMO.

I tell people "not just yet. I want to enjoy my skinny body for a little while"Chat Icon And they ususally back off. Chat Icon

Truth is, I don't know if we are going to have another.Chat Icon

Posted 7/27/08 9:40 AM
 

Sassyz75
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Re: How would you/do you handle this question?

Posted by GenLCSW

Jacob is 20 months old and eveybody has been asking me questions like "when are you going to start trying for #2?" and "what are you waiting for, dont you want them close together?" It really really bothers me because it is none of there business. The truth is, we will be TTC for #2 soon but I just thinks its so rude. What if we didnt want another child or g-d forbid we were having trouble conceiving. I always respond "when the time is right" but its just amazing to me how everybody is trying to plan my life Chat Icon Chat Icon



I get this all the time- and we are, and have been, TTC for the past 7 months- and I just say, "when God decides" and leave it at that.

Posted 7/27/08 9:43 AM
 

patti08
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Re: How would you/do you handle this question?

I've told people that I'll let them know when we are expecting and otherwise that it's a rude question. I even asked a few that didn't see the point, when they were going to lose all of their extra weight or finally get married. It's personal and no one else's business. If they are rude enough to ask me then I don't hold back my response.

Posted 7/27/08 9:47 AM
 

my3boys
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Re: How would you/do you handle this question?

Posted by shellybean

It may seem rude but I think many people naturally ask that, I have! I mean im ntellling them there kids should be close in age and all that, but I have said " Are yiu gonna have any more... people mean well...





I feel the same way. When I ask people if their going to have a baby or another baby I'm not trying to be rude sometimes it's just comes out. I have been asked that question several times and I don't mind saying HECK NO 4 is enough Chat Icon Even when people asked me if I was going to try again after my mc I would just answer with " not ready yet but maybe one day you never know" The only thing I found rude about someone asking about having another baby is if it was about the sex of the baby like "OH 3 boys are you going to try for that girl"? That annoys me because I am grateful for what ever god gives/gave me and I don't think having one or the other makes your life any less complete as two having a girl and boy or all boys or even all girls. JMOChat Icon

Posted 7/27/08 9:55 AM
 

CkGm
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Re: How would you/do you handle this question?

Posted by Sassyz75

Posted by GenLCSW

Jacob is 20 months old and eveybody has been asking me questions like "when are you going to start trying for #2?" and "what are you waiting for, dont you want them close together?" It really really bothers me because it is none of there business. The truth is, we will be TTC for #2 soon but I just thinks its so rude. What if we didnt want another child or g-d forbid we were having trouble conceiving. I always respond "when the time is right" but its just amazing to me how everybody is trying to plan my life Chat Icon Chat Icon



I get this all the time- and we are, and have been, TTC for the past 7 months- and I just say, "when God decides" and leave it at that.



I used this answer too- After 10 months of TTCing I was getting really upset with all the questions. I don't think people realize how hard it is to get pregnant at 38Chat Icon

Posted 7/27/08 10:18 AM
 

CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(

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Christine

Re: How would you/do you handle this question?

Posted by Sassyz75

Posted by GenLCSW

Jacob is 20 months old and eveybody has been asking me questions like "when are you going to start trying for #2?" and "what are you waiting for, dont you want them close together?" It really really bothers me because it is none of there business. The truth is, we will be TTC for #2 soon but I just thinks its so rude. What if we didnt want another child or g-d forbid we were having trouble conceiving. I always respond "when the time is right" but its just amazing to me how everybody is trying to plan my life Chat Icon Chat Icon



I get this all the time- and we are, and have been, TTC for the past 7 months- and I just say, "when God decides" and leave it at that.



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Posted 7/27/08 10:19 AM
 

GenLCSW
Baby # 3 is here!!!

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Genna

Re: How would you/do you handle this question?

Thank you all for the great responses! I personally have never asked someone (other than my close friends of course) if they were planning to have anymore kids. I just feel its a personal question and really nobodys business. You girls are awesome....thank you! Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 7/27/08 10:51 AM
 
 

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