How would you react to this email?

Dear Friends, Or at least I thought you folks were my friends.I`m sorry if this offends anyone but I just have to say.I`m saddened by the responce we recieved in this hard time for Sheldon and myself and family.I have about 150 ML and I think 5 people were willing to support us.These people went out of there way to help us out in any way they could.And nothing from you folks.The effort they put into these things to help us and I thought for sure the help would come back to us.

I can`t even count the many contest(benefit or reg.)that I have always help with in one way or another.I`ve made so many photo blankets for so many people that I was thinking atleast some of them would help out.But no, no one.It just goes to show you what people really think of the help you give.

Did I do something wrong or make someone angry with me?I just don`t get it.I guess i`ll be sure not to speak up when someone needs me or my prizes again.

Thanks for your time!!
Michelle


**Her son needs ear surgery and she can't afford it so she had a benefit contest for him** I am so dumbfounded by this email!!

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sorry but i dont feel sorry for her. she has a horrible attitude.


shes lucky she got $5 imho

is tihs a friend of yours?

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And then she sent an email to those who did not contribute?

You know when financial worry hits, people let emotions take over. While I do not condone the email, I think she is just really worried about here son and had her breaking point.

How close to this person are you? Were you planning on donating any money? Could you call her?

edited bc I can't spell

Message edited 3/9/2007 9:56:57 AM.

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I actually feel bad for this woman. It seems like a cry for help in desperation

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I don't know her. I run a contest and so does she.

I just think she went about this the wrong way.

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can I ask something stupid...what does "I have 150 ML" mean?

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I think she took the wrong approach with this. She probably should have sent another email asking for help. Instead she let anger and frustration take over. Now those who couldn't afford to contribute will be angry with her.

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Sounds like in addition to losing financial support, she's also going to lose emotional support from her friends.

I think she's going to offend a lot of people and lose friendships over this email.

This is one of those emails that you write, but do not hit send.

She's obviously distraught over what she feels is a lack of support from her friends. Unfortunately, she didn't wait until some of the emotion died down before hitting the send button.

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I actually donated to her in another contest she ran. And I am so hurt by this email.

I can't possibly give her a donation for every contest she runs

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Who did she send this E-mail to? People she met on the internet? Or "real life" friends? You said you don't know her, right?

Would that E-mail be the equivalent of me making a similar post here on LIF?

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Posted by 5ofClubs

Posted by LFitzy79

can I ask something stupid...what does "I have 150 ML" mean?

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I would never have the b@lls to send an e-mail like that if I didn't think I raised enough money as I should have. Especially if it were for myself(or my child). I don't know the stress she is going through but I do know that If I received an e-mail like that I'd be upset and PO'd.The fact that you have helped out before shows how caring you are and I think it is a slap in the face to be called out for not being able to help out this one time. JMO

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It's rude period. Doesn't matter if you've donated in the past or not. The point of a donation is giving what you can at that time. Everyone has stuff going on, and I feel badly that her son needs an operation that she can't afford. But she has no idea what is going on in your life and what you can or can't afford, so trying to strong arm a contribution out of people is just going to backfire. At least it would for me.

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Posted by 5ofClubs

I actually donated to her in another contest she ran. And I am so hurt by this email.

I can't possibly give her a donation for every contest she runs

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"you get more bees with honey than vinegar"

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I'd respond with:

Dear Michelle,

tacky!
tacky!
tacky!



Signed,
Disgusted


oh and p.s. I think you need to get Hooked on Phonics

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The email is def out of line and likely will not get her the type of resposne or support she is looking for. However, I agree with the previous posters that she seems to have hit a breaking point with the situation she is in with her son.

If you're asking how I would respond to it, I would do one of two things. If you are not "real life friends" with her - I would either a) blow it off and do nothing; or b) send an email something to the effect of: "I am sorry you and your family are going through what you are and that you feel you are not getting the support you deserve. I may not be able to donate to every contest you hold, but I remain on your ML because I do feel for you and want to be able to help in any way I can (and be aware of these opportunities). While I was unable to contribute to this recent contest, I have contributed to your cause in the past through XXX contest and you and your family remain in my thoughts/prayers."

IMO - while the email is out of line (and rude), the last thing someone in this type of emotional state needs is a nasty email. I think you can make the point to her that she was out of line, but still offer support and be nice about it... JMO though! Good luck!

edited to fix typo

Message edited 3/9/2007 11:20:59 AM.

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i have to agree - i think her emotions totally ruled this email. i bet she is truly hurting - she expected an outpouring of help and didnt get it - so she got angry.

i personally would probably call her up - she feels alone - let her know shes not and that the money will somehow show up but you personally have done all you can @ this time.

so sorry

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Message edited 6/8/2009 3:50:02 PM.

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i guess i'm the minority but i actually feel bad for her. i agree that its definitely one of those emails that you type out but dont hit send, just to get some kind of closure. if it were my child and i were desperate i would probably be distraught and upset too. its definitely a cry for help, i would email her back explaining your own personal situation, that you have donated before, etc, and let her know that should she need a shoulder to cry on or someone to talk to that you are there. maybe shes not just upset about not getting financial support...perhaps she hasnt seen any signs of moral support either?