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conigs25
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HUGE fight w/ my sister
Not to get into all the details...i had DHs surprise party Fri night and asked my sis to drive us home bc Dh and i were both drinking.
She was rude, mean, bitchy, and selfish and an argument broke out. Yes she drove me home, but after a mean display of selfishness on her part.
So...i basically havent spoke to her since Fri night and just sent her an email saying how hurt i am. She wrote back and although her email wasnt rude, she did NOT apologize. That infuriated me even more and i wrote a long and mean email . Now we are obviously in a fight and i dont want to be but i m hurt and MAD!!
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JodiBabe
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Did you tell her how hurt you were?
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| Posted 2/11/07 4:15 PM |
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Nicole728
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
did she know prior to the party that she would be driving you both home?
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| Posted 2/11/07 4:17 PM |
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JodiBabe
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Posted by Nicole728
did she know prior to the party that she would be driving you both home?
Good question!!!!!
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| Posted 2/11/07 4:19 PM |
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conigs25
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Posted by Nicole728
did she know prior to the party that she would be driving you both home?
No and thats her beef. BUT...she was supposed to be staying at my house AND doesnt drink. She is always the driver,
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| Posted 2/11/07 5:01 PM |
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islandersgirl74
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Is there a chance she wanted to drink also? Maybe if she felt like driving now she couldnt.
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| Posted 2/11/07 5:12 PM |
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suvenR
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
I'm going to play devil's advocate: Maybe she's upset that you asked her to drive and she was a guest? Or, maybe she would have been okay with it if you asked in advance?
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| Posted 2/11/07 5:38 PM |
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julz33
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Posted by suvenR
I'm going to play devil's advocate: Maybe she's upset that you asked her to drive and she was a guest? Or, maybe she would have been okay with it if you asked in advance?
Coming from somebody that rarely drinks it is very frustrating when people just ASSUME you will always be the designated driver. Ask in advance next time.
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| Posted 2/11/07 5:44 PM |
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Kristin616
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Posted by julz33
Posted by suvenR
I'm going to play devil's advocate: Maybe she's upset that you asked her to drive and she was a guest? Or, maybe she would have been okay with it if you asked in advance?
Coming from somebody that rarely drinks it is very frustrating when people just ASSUME you will always be the designated driver. Ask in advance next time.
I have to agree. I'm usually the driver and it gets extremely frustrating when people just assume that because I didn't drink I can be everyones taxi home. I'm not saying that happened in this case, maybe she's upset because she wasn't asked in advance??
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| Posted 2/11/07 9:17 PM |
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Kate07
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Posted by Klomo906
Posted by julz33
Posted by suvenR
I'm going to play devil's advocate: Maybe she's upset that you asked her to drive and she was a guest? Or, maybe she would have been okay with it if you asked in advance?
Coming from somebody that rarely drinks it is very frustrating when people just ASSUME you will always be the designated driver. Ask in advance next time.
I have to agree. I'm usually the driver and it gets extremely frustrating when people just assume that because I didn't drink I can be everyones taxi home. I'm not saying that happened in this case, maybe she's upset because she wasn't asked in advance??
I have to agree as well. I'm usually the driver and I get tired of people just assuming I'm the driver. If someone asks, I wouldn't turn them down but just assuming is another story
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| Posted 2/11/07 9:21 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Posted by conigs25
Posted by Nicole728
did she know prior to the party that she would be driving you both home?
No and thats her beef. BUT...she was supposed to be staying at my house AND doesnt drink. She is always the driver,
I have to say, I would be annoyed too. When I was pregnant, everyone just assumed that I would drive and I began feeling used and unappreciated. I have to say, I think it was wrong of you to assume that she would drive the two of you.
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| Posted 2/12/07 8:07 AM |
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KGools
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Having 2 sisters myself, I know how viscious fights can get. I agree with everyone in saying that you probably should've checked with her before you started to drink if it was OK if she drove you guys home... BUT to come to your defense a little (because I've been there), there was NO NEED for her to get nasty and mean and rude. She could've pulled you aside and said her peace, but to make a scene was uncalled for.
You'll patch things up sooner or later... sometimes with sister, these things just need room to breath. Good luck!
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| Posted 2/12/07 9:03 AM |
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| Posted 2/12/07 9:10 AM |
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nov06
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
I can see some peoples point of view that people just assume that because you haven't been drinking you will drive them home BUT...this is her sister. If I was the sister I would have assumed I was already driving her and DH home. It's just what sisters do. NO questions asked.
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| Posted 2/12/07 9:32 AM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Posted by julz33
Coming from somebody that rarely drinks it is very frustrating when people just ASSUME you will always be the designated driver. Ask in advance next time.
I agree as well. DH and my brother always turn and say "Dawn can drive us home"..I don't drink, but ask, don't tell me Im driving you home.
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| Posted 2/12/07 11:13 AM |
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june262004
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
I am VERY MUCH against Drunk Driving... IMO no one should be 'mad' that they were asked by responsible people who had a little to much to drink.
IN FACT if she saw you were a little tipsy she should have OFFERED to drive you home guest or not.
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| Posted 2/12/07 11:16 AM |
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natasa
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Posted by CoopersMom01
Having 2 sisters myself, I know how viscious fights can get. I agree with everyone in saying that you probably should've checked with her before you started to drink if it was OK if she drove you guys home... BUT to come to your defense a little (because I've been there), there was NO NEED for her to get nasty and mean and rude. She could've pulled you aside and said her peace, but to make a scene was uncalled for.
You'll patch things up sooner or later... sometimes with sister, these things just need room to breath. Good luck!
I have two sisters myself...I totally agree
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| Posted 2/12/07 11:26 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
I think the assumption pushed her over the edge. You may have to reach out to her to end this argument.
I'm sure she doesn't want to be in an arguement either.
Try to swallow your pride a little and make the first move and ask her if that's the problem.
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| Posted 2/12/07 11:47 AM |
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june262004
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Would you guys rather her get into the car and drive herself home drunk 
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| Posted 2/12/07 11:51 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
I think there is another issue here, that this particular incident may have triggered.
Granted, my sister and I are VERY close, but I can't imagine being mad at my sister for this. Sisters help each other out when they need it- and for far lesser things. You wanted her to drive you to place where she was supposed to be staying anyway I don't get it. Even if it was out of the way. I still don't get it. First off, its a SAFETY issue. I know my sister and I have done a he l l of a lot more inconvenient things for one another.
not to mention, it may have been a little rude for you to assume she could drive her home and to drink too much, but some things you just have to let go- especially when drinking is involved.
To me, this just seems like an issue about something else.
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| Posted 2/12/07 12:08 PM |
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suvenR
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Posted by june262004
Would you guys rather her get into the car and drive herself home drunk
no, sounds like everyone thinks she should have planned in advance
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| Posted 2/12/07 12:25 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Posted by june262004
Would you guys rather her get into the car and drive herself home drunk
I don't think that is the issue. I think it's the assumption that is the issue.
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nrthshgrl
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Posted by Shelly
I think there is another issue here, that this particular incident may have triggered.
Granted, my sister and I are VERY close, but I can't imagine being mad at my sister for this. Sisters help each other out when they need it- and for far lesser things. You wanted her to drive you to place where she was supposed to be staying anyway I don't get it. Even if it was out of the way. I still don't get it. First off, its a SAFETY issue. I know my sister and I have done a he l l of a lot more inconvenient things for one another.
not to mention, it may have been a little rude for you to assume she could drive her home and to drink too much, but some things you just have to let go- especially when drinking is involved.
To me, this just seems like an issue about something else.
I agree.
Also I wouldn't take her responding with a short email to your long email as a slight. It could be that she's tabling it for a time when she has more time to draft a better email. (speaking as someone who is swamped at work today).
Either way...
eta. to take one hug out because he was just dangling by himself.
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leighla
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Posted by june262004
Would you guys rather her get into the car and drive herself home drunk
I don't think anyone here is saying they are FOR drunk driving.
They are just saying that if she already KNEW she was going to need a ride home, she should have made an arrangement with her sister to do so prior to the party.
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| Posted 2/12/07 12:36 PM |
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MsG
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Re: HUGE fight w/ my sister
Posted by june262004
Would you guys rather her get into the car and drive herself home drunk
She could call a car service.
I know when my plans change and someone knows in advance that I am not driving them home, yes, I would do it if they had been drinking, but I would be annoyed that they were not responsible enough to make other arrangements.
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