Husbands

My husband and I were talking about how his co-worker doesn't really help his wife out much with his kids, so he wants to find out how prevelant that is.

So please answer our anonymous poll, and give us info in replies if you feel comfortable doing so.


ETA that me and Bill are probably about 50/50 -- with some days leaning on him for more since I went back to school for my Master's.
Monday-Friday I leave at 6:15 am for work--so he gets Emily ready in the morning and brings her to the babysitter. I pick her up at around 4:30-5pm, then we go pick him up from work. We're usually home around 6:15 then I make dinner, he cleans up, and we share in the bathtime/bedtime routine stuff. However on Wednesday nights when I have class he does everything!!

Message edited 2/22/2006 9:03:22 AM.

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With the baby I would say its 50/50. I am with her all day but he helps whenever I ask when he is home.
Now cleaning and keeping the house neat that's an entirely different story.

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Its hard to answer, DH does so much, its more than 50/50 at times. I work one day, he's got Andrew plus takes care of everything that needs to get done. And he's not hard on me either when I don't get things done while home. He cooks (and makes a mess! ) and cleans, and will do stuff with Andrew so I can get a break. I can't complain here!

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DH is in charge of dinner, bills, yard work - and hopefully, hopefully fixing the wall he's ripped out.

I have no complaints except for that he thinks he's "handy"

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Haha -- Barbara -- you crack me up!

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With taking care of Julia its 50/50, Im with her more during the day, but when my DH gets home from work he spends a lot of time with her. He also does a lot of the household cleaning and laundry. I do my share of cleaning too, but he doesnt mind doing it so hey, I'm not going to complain!

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I handle most of the stuff with Jacob. He will do laundry once in a while... With the issues Jacob has had with the AR and gas, my DH i have to be honest does not have as much patience with him as i do. He will get frustrated more easily. But since I am really the only one who can soothe him when he is crying, my DH knows that going back to work any more than 2 days a week for me is just not feesible so he is picking up the slack on the money side of things...and i cant complain there!!!!

Message edited 2/21/2006 10:58:46 PM.

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He helps out sometimes but for the most part I do the daily stuff...

When it comes to the baby- I dont mind doing "more"- housework on the other hand.....

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This is what most of our arguments center around - that he does so much and I don't really pull my own weight. Thing is, my husband has a MUCH more flexible schedule than I do. He owns his own business and doesn't really have any employees, so he meanders into work around 10am and usually leaves around 3pm or 4pm.

Hubby usually does all the cooking and grocery shopping. He usually drops Alex off at daycare, or picks her up at the end of the day. Many a night he'll pick her up and take care of her until I come home and then I hog all her time. And when I started back at work he started helping out with the night feedings, though I still end up getting more during the night then he does... I can't complain... he's ideal for a hubby and father.

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I do everything but the yeard work and fix-up things around the house. I food shop, cook, take care of the kids, laundry, clean, do the bills. I always kid around with my hubby that if we ever broke up the only thing that I would need to get someone to help with is the lawn weekly. I am starting to get worn down. I have ot say that his time soent with the kids is really quality, rather than my time is so scattered because I need to get everything done, so when I;m cleaning up after dinner or cooking dinner he is reading to them or playing a game, or dancing with them, and to me that is priceless!

Message edited 2/22/2006 8:55:51 AM.

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When DH is home, its def. 50/50. He works 2 jobs so he isnt home as much these days. As soon as he walks in I hand the baby to him so I can get some stuff done that I couldnt during the day.

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With us it's pretty much 50/50...sometimes he does more. He really does alot and I love him for it.

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so far we are only 1 1/2 weeks into being parents but my DH's been wonderful! He has been doing the night time feedings so I can get some sleep! Hopefully this won't change!

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After several months of arguing about this issue, DH is now a great help. I am the one taking care of the baby most of the time (getting her ready in the morning, bring her to my moms, pick her up, bathe her, put her to sleep ect.) but DH is always willing to help when I need him to. He totally picks up the slack for the household chores and cleans, does garbage, laundry, washes dishes ect.........

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We're working on this in my house... my husband helps out with Michael when I am NOT around... if I am around, it's ALL ME... he is a good daddy and takes care of him, but I work full time and when I am home on Saturdays and Sundays, I'd like a break too, ya know?

As for house stuff - he's good about some things, but others he needs a lot of work. Like I said if I'm not around, he'll do more - like dishes or make the bed... but asking him to put his huge shoes in the closet is like asking him for his soul sometimes, lol...

He is real good about taking out the garbage though! I never have to worry about that!

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with the baby its about 50/50...but with the actual house hold chores its mostly me...he will wash and dry the clothes...but raley puts the clothes away....and since he really doesn't clean the bathrooms or kitchen to my standards its mostly up to me...DH will dust...but he never polishes the furniture. Usually I will sweep and mop the floors...but DH will vacum the carpets. DH will complain about the the baby's finger prints on the windows/mirrors...but its up to me to clean them...apparently he hasn't figured out what the Windox does yet.


Edited to add...I do the cooking, and the cleaning up after dinner. I also do the grocery shopping because DH will spend $90.00 on what costs me $50

Message edited 2/22/2006 11:43:04 AM.

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DH helps out alot he takes care of DD during the day being that he works at nite and I work during the day but I still do the cooking and the cleaning. I give DD baths and leave clothes o ut and things like that

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DH helps out a lot! On days I work and he doesn't, he does everything - take care of Jesse (feed, change diapers, play with him, etc) and he does laundry, cleans dishes, vacuums, makes dinner, etc. When we're both home, he still helps out with all that - even helps me clean the stuff for my pump! He really does help more than I ever expected.

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DH helps a lot on the weekends. During the week he works so much that he can't really help. But I go off duty on Friday and he goes on. It is really helpful because being a SAHM isn't as easy as I thought it would be.

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Message edited 12/20/2011 6:20:25 PM.