I am LIVID! How do I handle this tomorrow?

Today, at work, my co-worker got into my purse, took my keys and the boss moved my car. Not once did either of them ask me for my keys, if they could get them, or if I cared if they moved my car.
I was in with a patient and saw them doing it through the window! Granted, we park in a narrow driveway and I was behind the assistant's car. However, I could have moved the car if she would have waited 10 minutes (that morning I had to wait a half an hour for her!).
But what really chaps my butt is that she got into my purse.
I couldn't address the issue today because the boss left early and I was tied up with my last patient.
I've worked there for 6 months, I like the office immensely and like the people but I would NEVER dig through somebody's purse and move their car without asking them! Heck, I still wouldn't get in their purse even if they said "get them out of my purse".

I thought I would just talk to the dentist(boss) privately tomorrow. Basically, "My purse is private, I do not tolerate co-workers going through it. In the future I expect to be asked if my car needs moved." Do I need to have co-worker in there too? Or should I let the boss handle that part? I'm not entirely sure that he knew she took my keys out of my purse without asking me, but he certainly knows they moved my car without the courtesy of asking me.

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Oh yeah WRONG and I would address it as soon as you get in. I would tell the boss that that is a NO GO and going further you would appreciate it if someone would tell you to get your keys or wait for you. Purse OFF LIMITS!! I would be pisssed too.

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I like your gut.

Talk to the boss by himself first. Be honest and open. I saw XYZ through the window. Altho I understand, I'd appreciate that no one go through my private belongings. In the future, please contact me, etc.

I would advise against having her there. If she did it on her own, you'll know by his reaction, if he instructed her, its less messy this way.

GL

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Thanks ladies!
I definitely won't be leaving my purse in the employee lounge anymore.

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How BAllsy!!!!! I would talk to the boss first.

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what??? my DH doesnt even go into my purse even when i ask him too..he'll hand it to me.

i'd be fuming mad and i would totally make it known tomorrow to BOTH OF THEM.

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I'm horrified!!!

I agree with the PP who suggested that you discuss it with the boss. And, you could suggest a solution for the future for everyone, maybe something like whoever blocks someone in leaves their keys in a secure place at the desk, etc.

ETA: check to make sure that everything else in your purse is intact and keep an eye on your credit card and bank activity.

Message edited 8/25/2009 8:11:01 PM.

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Boss, co-worker,etc.. there is NO way ANYONE could ever think of going through my purse (even touching it!!!) and move my car without me FLIPPING OUT!

This is beyong anything that is tolerable. This is about touching someone's personal effect. What if she has an accident. Kills someone. Who knows and who cares!!!

I NEVER leave my purse in the employee lounge. I got my purse stolen once. I learned my lesson on "we don't have any theft here". They should provide lockers if not, my purse does not leave my sight.

Not just the car but you would be surprised about the amount of people I have worked with or know that had their ATM or CC card stolen from another employee, took their money during a lunch break. Placed the card back in the purse and nobody notices until later on.

Message edited 8/25/2009 8:38:19 PM.

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That was wrong of them to do. Wow, what nerve! I would speak to the big man in charge there at your office definitely.

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I'd be furious.

I agree that you should speak to your boss. He should also know that instructing an employee to move someone else's car means a liability to his business if your car was scratched or bumped another car.

When you speak to him - it's best to keep your emotions out of it. I know it's easier said than done.

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Posted by nrthshgrl


When you speak to him - it's best to keep your emotions out of it. I know it's easier said than done.

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Sounds like you still want to keep the peace bc you generally want a pleasant work environment. I know I dont have the popular vote but it already happened and you cant change what happened so to complain tommorrow about it doesnt solve what happened today. I personally might leave it alone and NEVER leave any of your belongings anywhere they have access to it. AND this is not to say that I dont think thay have some nerve going into your pocketbook bc they really have some set...How dare them. I feel your pain but I do think you will be opening up a can of worms when you tell them something that they TOTALLY thought was fine. I mean are they kidding??? you are going to have to change the situation by never putting yourself back in it.

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Posted by PrincessP

Sounds like you still want to keep the peace bc you generally want a pleasant work environment. I know I dont have the popular vote but it already happened and you cant change what happened so to complain tommorrow about it doesnt solve what happened today. I personally might leave it alone and NEVER leave any of your belongings anywhere they have access to it. AND this is not to say that I dont think thay have some nerve going into your pocketbook bc they really have some set...How dare them. I feel your pain but I do think you will be opening up a can of worms when you tell them something that they TOTALLY thought was fine. I mean are they kidding??? you are going to have to change the situation by never putting yourself back in it.

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Posted by PrincessP

Sounds like you still want to keep the peace bc you generally want a pleasant work environment. I know I dont have the popular vote but it already happened and you cant change what happened so to complain tommorrow about it doesnt solve what happened today. I personally might leave it alone and NEVER leave any of your belongings anywhere they have access to it. AND this is not to say that I dont think thay have some nerve going into your pocketbook bc they really have some set...How dare them. I feel your pain but I do think you will be opening up a can of worms when you tell them something that they TOTALLY thought was fine. I mean are they kidding??? you are going to have to change the situation by never putting yourself back in it.

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Posted by PrincessP

Sounds like you still want to keep the peace bc you generally want a pleasant work environment. I know I dont have the popular vote but it already happened and you cant change what happened so to complain tommorrow about it doesnt solve what happened today. I personally might leave it alone and NEVER leave any of your belongings anywhere they have access to it. AND this is not to say that I dont think thay have some nerve going into your pocketbook bc they really have some set...How dare them. I feel your pain but I do think you will be opening up a can of worms when you tell them something that they TOTALLY thought was fine. I mean are they kidding??? you are going to have to change the situation by never putting yourself back in it.

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If ANYONE TOUCHED my car without my permission I would have went ape sh!t bonkers.
NOBODY drives my car. NOBODY. Only my husband because it's both of ours.

I don't care with the circumstances were.

I don't think I would have been able to restrain myself.

The purse part doesn't even bother me as much as the car part.

I give you credit for being so calm about it because I would have torn them all a new a-hole on the spot!

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This was definitely wrong If for nothing else, I would address it for insurance reasons. What happens if they would have damaged your car and or someone elses while moving it?

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Posted by PrincessP

Sounds like you still want to keep the peace bc you generally want a pleasant work environment. I know I dont have the popular vote but it already happened and you cant change what happened so to complain tommorrow about it doesnt solve what happened today. I personally might leave it alone and NEVER leave any of your belongings anywhere they have access to it. AND this is not to say that I dont think thay have some nerve going into your pocketbook bc they really have some set...How dare them. I feel your pain but I do think you will be opening up a can of worms when you tell them something that they TOTALLY thought was fine. I mean are they kidding??? you are going to have to change the situation by never putting yourself back in it.

Message edited 8/26/2009 10:49:19 AM.

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ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? Of course you're livid! I would be too!

This absolutely needs to be addressed! I can't believe that your boss thought this was acceptable! Going through someone's purse, moving someone's car - all without permission??? I would have had a stroke!

WHERE ARE THE BOUNDARIES!!

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I don't get it. Doesn't a normal person feel funny about going into someone's purse?

I think the boss made that person do it.

I would talk to the boss directly and don't mention names.

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Wow, I would be FUMING!

I agree to an extent about what 2 others above said about 'keeping the peace' HOWEVER... I think there are ways to do this while still addressing the situation... and I think it MUST be addressed!! Even though it already happened and what's done is done!

They must know that you are aware of what they did and that it was wrong and made you feel uncomfortable. Honestly if someone went through my purse without asking, no matter what the reason, I would feel extremely violated!!

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So ballsy and completely unacceptable behavior....I would def say something. Any update this morning??

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Posted by Lisa982006

This was definitely wrong If for nothing else, I would address it for insurance reasons. What happens if they would have damaged your car and or someone elses while moving it?

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any update?