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JustBrowsin
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I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
So my FIL likes to hold my baby in the cradle position and let her dangle her head over his arm so that it is almost completely upside down....and we arent talking about for a few seconds or so...he'll do it for a long time. I have repeatedly told him that it makes me nervous and I dont like it, yet he continues to do it...stating that "she likes it" He feels she likes it, but she has never once smiled when he does it and she smiles all the time...and just because she doesnt cry doesnt mean she likes something...she hardly ever cries AND she also doesnt cry when she spits up and lays her head in it, but it doesnt mean its a good idea to leave her like that. Hes also stated that it helps incerase the circulation to her head and improve brain cells....I know that is absolutely ridiculous...her head actually starts to turn slightly red after awhile.
He loves her very much and is definately not trying to hurt her, but ignorance can end up hurting a baby too.
Anyway, I clearly dont like this, and was wondering if anyone could give me a solid concrete reason as to why this is bad or an article or something or something they heard from someone. I really want it to stop.
Thanks!
ETA: She is almost 5 months old...
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
The only thing I could think is look for articles on shaken baby syndrome and the damage that the skull moving around where the spine is?
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
How old is she? It is actually very dangerous to hold a baby upside down or for a baby to be an upside down position before the age of 1 b/c their blood vessels, etc. are not as developed as ours and the blood rushes to their heads. I have looked this up online in the past b/c of people playing with DS and putting him upside down.
Now at 13 mo. he does it on his own when I am holding him b/c he likes to go back and than for me to pick up but I still dont like doing it.
ETA: I can't imagine holding her upside down could increase blood circulation to her brain. The blood is rushing to her head which is why she is turning red. Tell him to hang out upside down for awhile and he probably won't like it.
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shellybean
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
Honestly, i would have your DH just k him nicely not to do it, tell him your worried about his neck, as long as your nice im sure hell be fine with it...
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smdl
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
Do you mean by the head being below the rest of the body?
If so, very bad idea. Due mainly to the blood circulation.
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JustBrowsin
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
Posted by smdl
Do you mean by the head being below the rest of the body?
If so, very bad idea. Due mainly to the blood circulation.
Yes, the head is below her body.
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| Posted 5/12/08 5:25 PM |
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
Posted by jellybean1420
How old is she? It is actually very dangerous to hold a baby upside down or for a baby to be an upside down position before the age of 1 b/c their blood vessels, etc. are not as developed as ours and the blood rushes to their heads. I have looked this up online in the past b/c of people playing with DS and putting him upside down.
Now at 13 mo. he does it on his own when I am holding him b/c he likes to go back and than for me to pick up but I still dont like doing it.
ETA: I can't imagine holding her upside down could increase blood circulation to her brain. The blood is rushing to her head which is why she is turning red. Tell him to hang out upside down for awhile and he probably won't like it.
She is only almost 5 months old...
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smdl
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
Posted by JustBrowsin
Posted by smdl
Do you mean by the head being below the rest of the body?
If so, very bad idea. Due mainly to the blood circulation.
Yes, the head is below her body.
Well it has a direct impact on the blood pressure.
I would ask him to stop that asap.
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NewlyMrs
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
maybe looking up something about overextending the neck (like if you don't support their head when they are young).
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mosh913
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
Or, you could just say that she's your dd and you don't want her to be held that way. You already said it made you nervous. God, why can't people just respect certain requests from parents? My mil kept making dd stand at 2 months and I didn't really like it, so I asked her not to do it.
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Stefanie
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
Um, I don't think you need an informative article to show him at all.
If you told him not to do it, then he should respect you. You're the mother.
If he doesn't listen, have your dh talk to him. When you see him holding her like that, take her out of his arms.
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Diana1215
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
She is your DD - you don't like it... end of story. He does it again - you take her out of his arms.
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
Posted by Diana1215
She is your DD - you don't like it... end of story. He does it again - you take her out of his arms.
I agree!!
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| Posted 5/12/08 6:34 PM |
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
here is what I found
http://www.pampers.com/en_US/learning/page/exp_question_details/topicId/204/contentId/17364/type/104.do
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| Posted 5/12/08 6:51 PM |
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
Can you use a scare tactic - like - you just had a check up at the dr. and he noticed something was wrong with her neck or blood pressure and he asked if someone was holding her upside down?
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
I read an article about something similar recently. I get 3 parenting magazines so I will try to find it tonight.
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
In the may 2008 Baby Talk magazine (they have it a bru or BBB) there is a Q and A about a husband flipping their 4 month old upside down. The answer has ways to "play safe". If you want I can mail it to you.
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JustBrowsin
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
Posted by architectnycity
In the may 2008 Baby Talk magazine (they have it a bru or BBB) there is a Q and A about a husband flipping their 4 month old upside down. The answer has ways to "play safe". If you want I can mail it to you.
Thanks! I have that one. Ill have to go look for it!
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JustBrowsin
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
Posted by Stefanie
Um, I don't think you need an informative article to show him at all.
If you told him not to do it, then he should respect you. You're the mother.
If he doesn't listen, have your dh talk to him. When you see him holding her like that, take her out of his arms.
Problem is, he isnt respecting it unfortunately. He definately doesnt want to hurt her, he just thinks its OK. So I figure if I show him it isnt OK he will stop. Me and DH decided that we will tell him we spoke to the dr. about it and the dr. said it is dangerous. If that doesnt make it stop, then he will not be holding her anymore.
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DUCKS2001
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Re: I dont like something my FIL does with baby....anyone have any articles or reasons why this wouldnt be good?
thats NOT healthy at all! HE needs to stop that she is too young.
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