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everyone around me is prego..so now im UN-prego after my MC.
All of my friends are either parents are expecting...and I want to remove myself from all of that for a while I feel like everything around me right now is about BABYs...OMG and I have like 3 baby showers soon...

Anyone else go through the same thing..what did you do?

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I have to agree. Three of my neighbors are preggo, my boss's wife is, one of my co-workers just had there son...and so on and so on.

It really gets to me some days.

I try to just brush it off and keep trying. That is all I can do.

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the way I get through it is by focusing on their happiness instead of my unhappiness...It has helped me thus far! Although it makes me sad, I know that when the time comes for me I want everyone around me to be happy for me, so I do my best to be happy for them. Focusing on the good in life has helped me tremendously through this whole process..(although sometimes it is really TRULY hard!! )

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Posted by zoe282

the way I get through it is by focusing on their happiness instead of my unhappiness...It has helped me thus far! Although it makes me sad, I know that when the time comes for me I want everyone around me to be happy for me, so I do my best to be happy for them. Focusing on the good in life has helped me tremendously through this whole process..(although sometimes it is really TRULY hard!! )

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I agree Zoe. Some days it is really hard and others it makes no difference to you. I try not to dwell on it too much.

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Posted by Exarina

Posted by zoe282

the way I get through it is by focusing on their happiness instead of my unhappiness...It has helped me thus far! Although it makes me sad, I know that when the time comes for me I want everyone around me to be happy for me, so I do my best to be happy for them. Focusing on the good in life has helped me tremendously through this whole process..(although sometimes it is really TRULY hard!! )

This is such a wonderful way of putting it and you are right I want everyone to be happy for me next time around.
Its so hard so so so hard. but you are right!

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I understand. Although, none of my friends have kids or were pregnant when I had my mc, I still felt like I needed to be by myself. I wasn't up for partying or going out, I was sad, mourning the loss.

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I'm sorry!!!! I know it can be hard when it feels like everyone around you is Pregnant.



Just realize it will happen for you!!!

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i completely understand how you feel! a month after we lost our son, one of my best friends gave birth. it was hard on me a little bit because i was sad for all that we lost, but i agree that it helps to focus on their happiness. her son has brought so much joy into her world (and ours!) so i just stay focused on that. i know it's hard, but each day will get a little easier. and even when it gets easier, there will be days when you feel sad all over again, but you just have to allow yourself those feelings and move through it. i know it's cliche but time really does help!

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I agree. My friend is due on the same day as I would have been with my 2nd mc. This girl at work announced she was pg and is due a month after I was originally due. What the heck? PG are every where. All my friends and familoy talk about their kids and their pg and I just sit there praying that someone or something will distract the conversation. Really sucks. You are not alone.

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Posted by kristin597

I understand. Although, none of my friends have kids or were pregnant when I had my mc, I still felt like I needed to be by myself. I wasn't up for partying or going out, I was sad, mourning the loss.

I feel the same way. Im really not surrounded by any preggos or even people with kids but I still feel like everyone else in the world is having or has had a problem free pregnancy except me. I know thats not true but I cant help but think that maybe if I was someone else right now, Id be only 8 weeks away from having a baby. (if I didnt lose my first one Id be 32 weeks right now )

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Posted by Maggie22

I agree. My friend is due on the same day as I would have been with my 2nd mc. This girl at work announced she was pg and is due a month after I was originally due. What the heck? PG are every where. All my friends and familoy talk about their kids and their pg and I just sit there praying that someone or something will distract the conversation. Really sucks. You are not alone.

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You are so not alone... I just had my m/cx and one of my friends at school is about 4weeks ahead of me preggo so although I am happy for her every day it's a HUGE reminder of where I am not. MY DH's best friend and his wife who I do like had a baby yesterday. I just had a m/c not even a week ago so I knew this was gonna be tough. When we first got the text I felt like I was stabbed in the heart. I was dredding going to visit the baby.. I really wanted to go and be there for them but I knew emotionally I may not be OK.. I went and cried before I went into the room and after.

The best thing is I have just been honest with myself and everyone. I say what I am feeling and apologize and let everyone know it's not personal.

One day we will all be on the other side!

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i totally undetstand! i had 13 friends prego this past year after my mc, 2 due right around the same time i was and a gazillion showers to attend. it was super hard early on but i guess you have to grin and bare it... totally stinks but your friends are your friends and they know what you are going threw and will understand if you cant bring yourself to going. they know you are happy for them you just need time. trust me i had to apologize to some of my friends for my reaction to their pregnancies, but they understood and it did get easier. hang in there... your time (and all of us here) will come!!!

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