I hate the waiting.....

And the NOT knowing.

I am so thankful that I haven't had this baby yet with everything going on with my grandmother (wake today, and funeral tomorrow) but - I hate the unknown. I am such a control freak and need to know when this is going to go down. Will I be early? On time? Late? Will my water break as I am returning something at BBB for the 100th time? Will I be at a family party when it happens?

And - what the hell will labor feel like? Will I be in so much pain? Or be one of the girls that thinks giving birth "Isn't that bad" ---

I want to know all of these answers RIGHT NOW lol.

Please tell me there are others that feel this way!!!!

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First, I'm sorry about your grandmother.

Second, this is my 2nd baby and I'm the same way! With my first I was "prepared" for her to be LATE, a looooooooooooong tedious and painful labor (if not induced) and for lots of misery (which of course, would end with a beautiful baby). Little did I know that she would arrive 1 week early, in 4 hours that, in retrospect, weren't that bad and be this amazing baby who slept through the night by 6 weeks!

I am at risk for the same scenario this time, rapid labor before my due date...however, the first time around, I had no internals and therefore NO clue that I was near labor or anything. This time I know I am at least 3cm dilated and the whole weekend has been driving me NUTS. DH and I are all but stuck in the house. He has played more XBOX than I've ever seen...and I've actually NOT complained b/c it's due to my inability to know A-when this kid is coming and B-how FAST.

There's just no way of knowing, it's totally possible that I end up late ( ) and in a long, agonizing labor this time...though unlikely. That's the worst part. It's going to happen when it happens!

You aren't alone, most of us feel this way.

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so sorry about your grandma....I hope you are doing well

I totally feel ya! I did not go into natural labor with DD and even with Pitocin, the contractions I was having every 4 min (lasting 70 seconds) were not painful, just uncomfortable (until they broke my water!!!)

I was having irregular ones for weeks before-hand and just dismissed them....I'd stop what I was doing (working) and take a breath or sit down for a minute and keep going.

And then add in that sometimes the water breaking is a slow leak instead of a gush....FORGET IT. I feel like I"m always leaking lately!

everyone says "you'll know" and I just don't think so

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glad you posted this b/c your thoughts mirror my feelings exactly! it's nagging at me, that unknown feeling...and i still haven't even had my shower yet!!!! and there's so much to do at work and at home before my due date. i too hate being unable to "control" this! i guess it's a good lesson for me though

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THanks everyone - I'm glad I'm not alone going crazy

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Nope I feel the same way - I have been having contractions on and off for a few days and ended up in L&D on Tuesday they told me I "could" go this weekend but things seem to be calming down so I'm not sure - but I do have excess fluid which they think makes it more likely that she will come early.

I hate the waiting b.c we are in the process of moving - the house is finally painted (as of yesterday) and the baby furniture came on Sat. The movers are coming this Sat and the apt still needs to be packed up to a large degree but on bedrest I can't do much to help. DH won't allow it.

The thing that is scary for me is that I am delivering at Columbia and DH is going to court almost everyday in Brooklyn, queens etc and my mom works out in melville so if I go into labor someone has to get to me just to get me to the hospital.

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Oh trust me I know the feeling. Even with a planned c-section any thing can (and does) happen. I did not feel my contractions/labor at all in the way I thought I would, and was actually in early labor for 3 days & did not know it. The good news....everything is Ok, and it will be for you as well.

It is such an exciting time, really, when you are so close!

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This is the worst part. All day the What if's...UGH

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I just can't wait myself. This is DRAGGING!!!!!

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I feel exactly the same way!!! I am such a control freak and the not knowing is killing me. I have had bad insomnia lately because of all the "wondering".

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Yes, I can agree... the waiting game is getting "old". Being a week away I see that finish line and I just want to cross it. I'm very excited for labor and the delivery of my baby. I can't wait to meet him/her. The excitement is overwhelming me lately.

But I'm SO anxious!!

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Let's put it this way...Im still worried about how the whole thing is going to play out..and I know what to expect. BUT b/c every labor is different there is still that unknown.

Will I make it to the hospital on time?
Will this baby come too early?
Will I get stuck with Dr *****?
Should I get the epidural this time or not?
What will I do with all the other kids?
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