I have a birthday invite question too

So DS's birthday is coming up in April and I really need to decide what we are gong to do for him. He goes to nursery school 2 days a week. His class started off with 7 kids including him. Then came January and 8 more kids came in. DS does not talk about any of the new kids in the class. He always talks about the same 6 kids. The new moms don't seem friendly either. I introduced myself to one mom and didn't really seem interested in having any other conversations after that. Another child has her grandma pick her up. Another one has an aunt drop off and pick the kids. So I feel like I don't even know which kids belong to who. If this makes a difference to your decision, their are 5 boys and 10 girls total in the class.

So here are some of the things I have thought about having:

1.) Having it at Pump It Up and inviting the whole class plus my friends kids from NY & NJ since I would have it on a Saturday. Included in the price is 25 kids and anything over I would have to pay. I don't think I would be over but I might be by a few kids. It is also about 20 minutes from the house.

2.) Have the whole class at My Gym on a Friday night. Included in the price is 20 kids and I would only invite my NJ friends since it would be 5-7pm. I would be over my limit by a few and I think it is $10 per child.

3.) Have it at My Gym but only the original 6 kids and then I wouldn't go over my limit at all. Plus it is literally 3 minutes from my house. I would mail the invites to the houses and put a little note that I am not inviting the whole class.

4.) Have it at my house on a Friday afternoon with only the original kids. I would order pizza and find an entertainer. It would be more laid back, like a play date.

I will be having a separate party for close friends an family too, the weekend after his birthday. This one is more for kids.

I think I am leaning towards having it at home but DS really loved My Gym the few times we have been.

Re: I have a birthday invite question too

If it were me, and I could afford it, I'd invite the whole class where ever I had it. It's not the child's fault that their mom is anti-social or that they have a caretaker drop them off/pick them up. It gives you an opportunity to meet those parents who want to get to know other parents in the class but for whatever reason haven't been able to.

As far as your DS not talking about the new kids, I know that my DS doesn't talk about any of his classmates until I ask him a question about a specific child. The only thing he ever talks about without me prompting him is what his snack was that day.

My DD only talks about the girls in her class unprompted, but if I ask her about the boys she'll tell me that they are all her best friends.

Good luck, it's not easy planning birthday parties once school starts.