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I know he was trying to help...DH vent
So, DH has been slacking in the helping department, so I know he was trying to be helpful tonight...but I was getting so upset
He gave DD a bath after dinner...the whole time, she is screaming/crying "mommy, mommy". I had to sit in the living room and let him do things his way. I wished he would of tried to distract her by singing or playing a game...instead I hear "mommy will be back soon, mommy went bye-bye for now", followed by DD screaming, "mommy mommy". He gets her out of the bath, into PJ's and puts her to bed at 6:40  I asked him why he put her to bed and not let her play and say good night. He said she was tired. I was upset I didn't even get to say good night after I had to sit and listen to her scream for 30 minutes mommy, mommy! I couldn't go in her room after he put her down, or she would start screaming all over again
Don't really need any advice, just venting, because I thanked DH for being helpful and giving her a bath and I didn't want to seem like I was picking on him when he was only trying to help.
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Re: I know he was trying to help...DH vent
I *totally* hear you on this one. 
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| Posted 8/19/08 7:33 PM |
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Re: I know he was trying to help...DH vent
Oh I hear you on this.
DH does this. He will do something, like give the kids dinner. While this is great, he will give them the most random things, like DS will get a hot dog and goldfish crackers . Or, he will think he is doing great by dressing them in the morning, meanwhile DS is wearing clothes that are COMPLETELY mismatched, and DD will be wearing a onesie only that is 2 sizes too small. Again . I have to laugh at him to myself, but I do end up correcting him at times because I can be a bit of a control freak with the kids. I just can't see my son walking out of the house wearing plaid shorts with a striped shirt!!! 
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| Posted 8/19/08 7:40 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: I know he was trying to help...DH vent
Aww, I hear ya. JT is awesome in the "entertaining Ava" department, but he does the SAME thing at bathtime. He just goes in, gets the job done however he can and takes her out. Just let it go. It was nice that you didn't have to do it all!
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| Posted 8/19/08 7:52 PM |
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Re: I know he was trying to help...DH vent
Vent away!
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| Posted 8/19/08 7:56 PM |
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luvsun27
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Re: I know he was trying to help...DH vent
Posted by dottiemchugh
Oh I hear you on this.
DH does this. He will do something, like give the kids dinner. While this is great, he will give them the most random things, like DS will get a hot dog and goldfish crackers. Or, he will think he is doing great by dressing them in the morning, meanwhile DS is wearing clothes that are COMPLETELY mismatched, and DD will be wearing a onesie only that is 2 sizes too small. Again . I have to laugh at him to myself, but I do end up correcting him at times because I can be a bit of a control freak with the kids. I just can't see my son walking out of the house wearing plaid shorts with a striped shirt!!!
I have a system for clothes...all outfits are put together in 2 drawers, but he will only look in the first draw...I don't even knows I have 2 for current sizes. There is no way he could mess up her clothes because I match them in the draw, so he just has to pick something. 
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| Posted 8/19/08 9:58 PM |
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Re: I know he was trying to help...DH vent
Posted by InShock
I *totally* hear you on this one.
Me too
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| Posted 8/19/08 10:03 PM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: I know he was trying to help...DH vent
ETS: hit send before I finished.
Been there. Every time I turn around, DH is saying "he's tired, he needs a nap, he's ready for bed." No, hunny, he's almost 2...he's acting how a normal 2 year old acts.
Message edited 8/19/2008 10:17:29 PM.
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| Posted 8/19/08 10:16 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: I know he was trying to help...DH vent
Posted by dottiemchugh
Oh I hear you on this.
DH does this. He will do something, like give the kids dinner. While this is great, he will give them the most random things, like DS will get a hot dog and goldfish crackers. Or, he will think he is doing great by dressing them in the morning, meanwhile DS is wearing clothes that are COMPLETELY mismatched, and DD will be wearing a onesie only that is 2 sizes too small. Again . I have to laugh at him to myself, but I do end up correcting him at times because I can be a bit of a control freak with the kids. I just can't see my son walking out of the house wearing plaid shorts with a striped shirt!!!
In defense of your DH, I would assume (and do, when I dress DC), that the clothes that are in the dresser are clothes that fit. DW is pretty good about putting away clothes that they outgrow, but sometimes they have a growth spurt, and we both get caught off-guard. Yes, he should have seen that they were tight, but if he only dresses them on rare occasions, I think that's a minor infraction... 
MMMMmmmm..... hot dogs and goldfish crackers....  I'm sure my DC would love that, too....
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| Posted 8/20/08 7:19 AM |
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Re: I know he was trying to help...DH vent
Posted by luvsun27
He gets her out of the bath, into PJ's and puts her to bed at 6:40 I asked him why he put her to bed and not let her play and say good night. He said she was tired.
What's her normal bedtime? DC go to bed between 8 and 8:30, so there's no way they would fall asleep almost 2 hours early. Even *I* know that....
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| Posted 8/20/08 7:21 AM |
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2ofakind05
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Re: I know he was trying to help...DH vent
I know he can be frustrating at times, but at least you can give him credit for trying.
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| Posted 8/20/08 7:24 AM |
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luvsun27
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Re: I know he was trying to help...DH vent
Posted by 2ofakind05
I know he can be frustrating at times, but at least you can give him credit for trying.
That's what I was trying to do...so I vented here, instead of to him
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| Posted 8/20/08 10:09 AM |
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2ofakind05
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Re: I know he was trying to help...DH vent
I know. That's a good thing, right.
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| Posted 8/20/08 10:19 AM |
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Re: I know he was trying to help...DH vent
Posted by pmpkn087
ETS: hit send before I finished.
Been there. Every time I turn around, DH is saying "he's tired, he needs a nap, he's ready for bed." No, hunny, he's almost 2...he's acting how a normal 2 year old acts.
DH says the same things and DS is 2 already.
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