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There is no excuse - they have no right to decide whether or not to share that information with you. I would be hurt and outraged as well, I'm sorry

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Thanks ladies....

Seriously, its at the point where I am all talked out. I have gone down every possible avenue, every possible way to communicate my feelings. If my family cared, they would have changed a long time ago, even if it was hard for them. I have to say that I'm not the only one who has received treatment like this, but it still is just so sad.

On the same token though, do I even want Cailen to be exposed to this and go thru the same ups and downs that my family can pull me through?

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horrible, but the therapist in me wants to ask if your family treats everyone this way, or just you? And if just you (becasue it seems that these types of things come up often for you) why do you think they direct this at you?

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Posted by emilain

horrible, but the therapist in me wants to ask if your family treats everyone this way, or just you? And if just you (becasue it seems that these types of things come up often for you) why do you think they direct this at you?

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

Posted by emilain

horrible, but the therapist in me wants to ask if your family treats everyone this way, or just you? And if just you (becasue it seems that these types of things come up often for you) why do you think they direct this at you?

I've had YEARRSSssss and years and years of therapy. I swear, every therapist started shrugging and saying, "look kid, seriously - its time for you to move ON!"

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I'm so sorry. I do not think that your comment to your father was out of line.

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i'm so sorry that you are hurting.

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Liza, I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you.

I think the thing with your cousin is easily repairable...just explain what happened to her. I just feel badly that you weren't able to be there for her in her time of need like you wanted to be. Its terrible.

And its terrible that your father "just didn't think about it" that you weren't at the wake. You are his daughter. When someone dies, I think everyone things about their family. I don't get why he would not think about you not being there.

I know you're all talked out and I know you've become so fed up. It would be very easy for me to say to just cut them off. But that's such a difficult thing to do. I know you don't want to subject Cailen to what you've been through. My friend recently cut off her father's side of the family because she was tired of being treated like a second class citizen and was not going to subject her to kids to that kind of treatment. It was a difficult decision for her, but what she felt was best.

I just want to send you some hugs, let you know that you're absolutely right to be hurt, and hope that you can come to terms with this in whatever way you deem best

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I'm so sorry. What they did was way out of line.

I kind of know how you feel because my dad, uncles, etc didn't find it necessary to tell me that my grandmother died.

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I'm sorry...for everything.

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Oh Liza, You are one of the smartest, sweetest most caring individuals. You have given Cailen and your stepdaughters your love, your respect and your compassion.

Its so sad that the same hasn't been returned to you. You deserve so much more than that. But it seems like there is nothing else you can do. You have to accept that this is the family you were given- and you can't change them.

What you can change (and have) is the family you create. You chose a man who loves you, who thinks about you, is thoughtful, knows you and who shows you his love. (hello gorgeous new ring). You are raising your son with so much love, its amazing. And the way you love and care about your stepdaughters, its a beautiful thing, even if they are too young to appreciate it now. Your family is blessed to have you.

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i do not even know what to say to this. this is unbelievable behavior... i am so sorry you are being treated this way. i can't even imagine how upset you must be.