I must be getting OLD, I almost hope I don't have a girl.

I was just editing photos from a sweet sixteen my company was at this past weekend, and some of the photos were pretty raunchy...
Girls half naked with pimply faced little peons grinding behind them, lifting their skirts......
I even heard that a few weekends ago, a guy and girl were having sex in the bathroom while all the kids stood by the door to listen.....

What the hell is going on!!!!!!

This is freaking me out.
If my daighter were to even attempt to walk out the door dressed the way these girls are dressed, she would honestly be locked in her room till she's 40...

I am by no means a prude, but this is way beyond reason for a 16 year old girl.....

Please tell me I'm not alone here......

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Personally, I do feel that kids are a lot more active than I remember...and I feel old just typing that.

DH says that he worries about have a daughter for the same reason but....

I also think that as a mom of a boy it's my responsibility to teach him to behave better than what I am seeing lately. I think that regardless of gender...all parents have to play a more active role in expections, behaviors and so forth.


I still very much want a girl...they are a special joy.

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I have 2 GIRLS, that's all i have to say.

And NO, things have changed, i almost wanted to wrap a blanket around my baby cousin at her sweet sixteen 2 years ago when i saw how low cut her dress and hers was conservative comparitively to what her friends wore.

I don't care what the style is, my girls will never ever walk around like they are street walkers and they will be taught to have more respect for themselves than that. There's no reason to have a 16 year old boy rubbing up against you at a sweet sixteen party, totally classless IMO.

Plus, my hubby fav new quote from clueless "I have a .45 and shovel, anything happens to my daughter i doubt anyone will miss you"

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You are not alone at all. I am mortified when I hear stories of these teenages - even as early as 13. I'm not prude or anything but I can tell you that when I was 13 I was excited about kissing a boy. These girls are doing so much worse.

I don't when they started doing these things at such a young age - but it's truly scary. At this rate by the time our kids grow up they'll be experimenting at 10 yrs old.

This is why I will keep all of my children locked in their bedrooms until they are 30.

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Posted by LuvMy2Girls

I have 2 GIRLS, that's all i have to say.

And NO, things have changed, i almost wanted to wrap a blanket around my baby cousin at her sweet sixteen 2 years ago when i saw how low cut her dress and hers was conservative comparitively to what her friends wore.

I don't care what the style is, my girls will never ever walk around like they are street walkers and they will be taught to have more respect for themselves than that. There's no reason to have a 16 year old boy rubbing up against you at a sweet sixteen party, totally classless IMO.

Plus, my hubby fav new quote from clueless "I have a .45 and shovel, anything happens to my daughter i doubt anyone will miss you"

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Well then I am getting old too because I have seen some of this behavior too and it freaks me out!!!
My next door neighbor who has two teenage daughters, told me I was sooo lucky to have a boy when I had DS..

I cannot believe what these "kids" wear and do these days...I agree with PP who said that we need to raise our sons to have respect for women...

Is this how our parents felt about OUR generation?

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Oh and DH will be accompanying both girls on all their dates until they are 25, maybe 30 i'm told

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I remember changing my outfit at my friend's house before we went out to a sweet 16... but all my parts were still covered.

I can't handle it. I need to have a boy soon so he can beat up DD's boyfriends. OMG I can't even think about it.

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It's not just the clothes though. It's the attitude with it. That's even worse. They have no self-respect for themselves. You can see young girls wearing mini skirts and thongs. And when the wind blows they make no attempts whatsoever to cover up.

I think TV and society has a lot to do with it. Being promiscuous has become "cool".

Like PP said, DS will be taught on respecting the other gender. I will not tolerate for my son to go around and use girls like meat. Even if it's throwed at his face for free.

If we have a DD, she is granted until she is 35. DH agreed!!!

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As a mom of 2 girls AND a high school teacher, I have to say I'm not that worried...well, right now that is

As a parent, I sure do worry about what kids are exposed to these days--on TV, music, etc. but I guess we were exposed to some similar things. Remember "Boom boom boom, let's go back to my room where we can do it all night..." or "I want your sex..." Trust me, I wasn't "doing it all night" and there were 2 girls in my 8th grade class that were. You know why I didn't? My parents and the other girls I hung around with. Hopefully, I can instill my girls with the same values I grew up with. We still joke around that my dad used to blurt out "Sex kills" randomly during dinner when we were teenagers!

As a HS teacher, I have to assure you all that the majority of teenagers are NOT what we're all petrified of. In fact, I would be proud if my girls turned out just like most of the girls I've taught through the years--girls that had a lot less advantages and parental support than most of us have had.

Nevertheless...I think I'll still lock them up in their rooms for several years between 10-18...why take any chances?!

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I have ZERO issues with homosexuality.

But, I can't for the life of me understand how these teen girls go girl on girl to impress the boys. No one did that when I was in HS.

We had gay students...but surely the cheerleader and the prom queen were not grinding on each other kissing at parties.

I hear this from my little sisters and cousins all the time. The girls in their schools "hate labels"

okay that is fine...but why do it in front of these guys?

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with our hubbies if we have girls we are in TROUBLE

no joke..I will not be sane if i have a girl--the outside influences are too overwhelming for even a Catholic nun to handle

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I have an almost 4 year old girl and I fear for her growing up too. My boys as well but of course it always feels like girls are so much more vulnerable. I know it can't be all the 16 year old girls doing this so I want to know i am raising her with enough self respect to not have to feel like she needs to have sex in a bathroom or give a b*ow j*b on the school bus to feel important or cool or whatever is running through their heads. It turns my stomach thinking about it.

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we have a DD...shes only 5 months...but I already know there is now way in H E L L that she will be dressed like some of the pre-teen/teen girls I see out there today...my DH will lock her up if she does.
We have friends that think of her as their own and I know for a fact that she would have another VERY unhappy man in her life other then her daddy.

DH has already said that he will have all his friends over shooting clay pigeons in the backyard on her first date (we live in the country) and they will all be having a talk with this boy ...i feel bad already for all her future bf's!

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My dh and i were pretty strict with out oldest dd. We told her from the beginning she wasn't going to be able to do the things that her friends did. She had a cell phone only when she had a track meet. No makeup and she wasn't allowed to drive till she was 18. My friend just did a sweet 16 for her daughter i couldn't believe some of the stuff she told me. kids showing up drunk, grinding on the dance floor. and 15 year old girls on car dates with a 17 year old boy who just got a license. MY kids are precious and i will protect them for as long as i can.

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Honestly guys- this is nothing new. Just go to the relationship board and see how old/young some girls on here were when they lost their virginity.

Granted- at my bat mitzva I wore a white dress with puffy sleeves and fancy flats. Now girls are wearign spaghetti straps and sleevless and look about 17 when they are 13!!!!

And while I was a teen, I definitely dressed sexy. I remember my mom yelling at me for the shortness of my skirt. But I didn't even start having sex until middle of college.

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Posted by LuvMy2Girls

Oh and DH will be accompanying both girls on all their dates until they are 25, maybe 30 i'm told

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DH and I have talked about how important a role he will have in teaching our DS how to respect and treat girls and women like a gentleman.

So happy we had DS first so if our second child is girl, DS can put and potential boyfriends in their place!

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Posted by FeliciaDP

Posted by Ang-Rich

Personally, I do feel that kids are a lot more active than I remember...and I feel old just typing that.

DH says that he worries about have a daughter for the same reason but....

I also think that as a mom of a boy it's my responsibility to teach him to behave better than what I am seeing lately. I think that regardless of gender...all parents have to play a more active role in expections, behaviors and so forth.


I still very much want a girl...they are a special joy.

I agree with everything Ang said (and as usual she said it better )

I won't lie, I would love a daughter someday.. but yes I am fearful of everything posted on this thread (and I can distinctly remember what a rebellious teenager I waas and that makes the worries even worse.. even though that was a LONG time ago) .

HOWEVER having a boy isn't a walk in the park either. The males dominate both mine and DH's families and I have seen firsthand that they come with their own set of issues and behaviours to be mindful of

I think it's common nature to worry about having a DAUGHTER behave promiscuously and dressing inappropriately, but it takes two to tango and boys are just as accountable for what is going on out there today

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DH plans on using his size as a deterrent to future suitors for our daughter. He knows how guys are and that hasn't changed since the beginning of time. For G-d's sake all it took was a beer or two and he was almost in MY pants and that was 20 years ago. (I made him wait another 16 years )

He cringes when he sees scantily clad teenagers as do I. I have said this before and I will say it again. Nothing more than a ruffle will ever go across her bottom as far as clothing. I do NOT want to see the word "Juicy" across her rear. Call me old fashioned, but I dont think children should be sexual and clothes like that objectify them. You don't see the word "Stud" across boys' clothing.

Should our second child be a son, it will be drilled into his head to treat a girl in the way he would treat his mother. With respect and class. Any other way is simply unacceptable.

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That is one of the biggest reasons we are HAPPILY having another

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OMG, I went to a Sweet 16 recently - the way they dressed and the way they acted