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sunflowerdmsrn
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I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
Well, I started back to work yesterday and I thought I was doing ok. My inlaws are here for the next 2 weeks to watch DS while I go through orientation at my new job. Today when I came home they couldn't wait to tell me all the things they did with him all day. My MIL is obsessed with DS. If she could BF him she would. She forgets I am the mom. Anyway, she was showing me how he can walk. He is only 4 months old but she is trying to make him walk. Then tonight I was sitting with him and I saw him sit by himself for the first time. I was soooo excited. I even took a picture. Well, my FIL told me it wasn't the first time and that he did it twice today already. My MIL made a face like "yeah, he did it for me first." I slowly got up went with DS into his bedroom and cried my eyes out. Couldn't they let me think he did it for me first. Its only my second day without him and I feel like a am losing him already. They have no sympathy for me. I wish they would let me think he did it with me first. I am sooo depressed and miserable and DH just doesn't understand why...
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
I just started babysitting and one thing the parents asked me to do, was NOT tell them when she (their DD) does something. ITA with them. I would not want to that to anyone ever and I make our pick up/drop off conversations short and sweet.
I am so sorry you are going through this. Can you nicely tell them, you don't want to know. Explain to them how you feel.
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| Posted 3/4/08 8:53 PM |
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drewsgirl
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
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2BEANS
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
Im sorry Dawn! I know its hard for you, i wish they did let you think it was his first time. Did you talk to your DH about how you feel? Your not loosing him. You will always be his #1.
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| Posted 3/4/08 8:55 PM |
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sunflowerdmsrn
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
DH doesn't want to hurt there feelings because they are helping us out. DH is there favorite. And now my DS is their favorite and they have no problem telling people that. They forget I am the mom and that I am going through all this for the first time. They had there turn x 3. Let me have my turn.
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| Posted 3/4/08 8:57 PM |
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Matteos-mommy
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
I'm so sorry you are so upset. I can only imagine how tough that must be on you. They need to have a little empathy. Maybe DH could talk to them and make them understand that going back to work is hard enough without having to hear anything you missed. You are his Mommy and he knows that-just remember that.
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| Posted 3/4/08 8:59 PM |
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Briannasmommy
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
i'm so sorry
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| Posted 3/4/08 8:59 PM |
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ArmyOfBabies
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
That is so C R A P P Y of ILs!!!
My nephew walked when his parents were away on their honeymoon... they still don't know that. They shouldn't have said anything to you, I'm so sorry.
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| Posted 3/4/08 9:00 PM |
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dpli
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
Posted by sunflowerdmsrn
Anyway, she was showing me how he can walk. He is only 4 months old but she is trying to make him walk.
Your son might grow up thinking your MIL is a little nuts if this is the stuff she is doing already. Can you ask them not to tell you when he does things for the first time? He knows YOU are his mommy and no one else is going to replace you. 
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| Posted 3/4/08 9:03 PM |
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Palebride
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
That's terrible of them! Your husband needs to say something to them now, before it goes any further. Yes they are very generous for helping out...but that doesn't mean they can walk all over YOU in the process!!
You should start breastfeeding right in front of your MIL and see her try to top that!
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| Posted 3/4/08 9:08 PM |
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Selden78
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
It was his 1st time what are you talking about your mother in law just said that dont listen to her.... It was the 1st time he sat byhimslef FOR YOU :)
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| Posted 3/4/08 9:09 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
this is a tough one....I want to say that you need to speak to MIL and tell her how you feel. But I dont know how your relationship is with her. Maybe you could simply tell her that leaving him is so hard for you etc etc. Maybe she'll get the hint??? Was she a SAHM mom??? Or did she work?? Maybe you could speak to her based upon what her experience is. If it we almost like you were asking her for advice she might be less on the defensive with you...KWIM?
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| Posted 3/4/08 10:41 PM |
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
Your MIL might not even be telling the truth. My mom keeps telling me all these things that DS does when she babysits and I finally realize that she helps it along then says he does it. The other day, she told me and DH that DS rolled over but his arm just got a little stuck but other than that, he did it. She later said that she was kinda teaching him to turn over. In other words, she flipped him to show him how it would feel. He has not rolled over on his own yet. Your MIL is probably showing the baby to do some things and maybe the baby catches on and eventually does it--FOR YOU!!!!!!
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| Posted 3/4/08 10:58 PM |
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MyChip-n-Dales
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
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Marcie
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
Posted by hbugal
this is a tough one....I want to say that you need to speak to MIL and tell her how you feel. But I dont know how your relationship is with her. Maybe you could simply tell her that leaving him is so hard for you etc etc. Maybe she'll get the hint??? Was she a SAHM mom??? Or did she work?? Maybe you could speak to her based upon what her experience is. If it we almost like you were asking her for advice she might be less on the defensive with you...KWIM?
I agree with this - I think if it comes from you - it will mean more.
I think you should be the one to tell her that this is VERY hard for you to begin with and that you would like them not to tell you 'new' things that he has done during the day and thate you would like to 'experience the first time'.
As a mother - she should understand this
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| Posted 3/4/08 11:08 PM |
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DancinBarefoot
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
Awww, Dawn I'm so sorry your ILs are behaving badly. Remember this however, today was the first time he sat up all by himself for YOU. It is your moment and nothing they said should take it away from the joy you felt when you saw him do it.
Besides, based on what you've said about your DH being their favorite child and now DS being the favorite grandchild, it sounds to me like MIL will say DS did stuff for her first even if it's not true, so just ignore her.
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| Posted 3/4/08 11:33 PM |
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Janice
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Re: I need hugs(big time)***long vent sorry
I am sorry that happened...MIL and FIL were completely wrong.
But, congrats on your baby sitting!
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| Posted 3/4/08 11:38 PM |
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GenLCSW
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Moehick
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