I never ask for advice, so it must be serious....

k, so we all know im due in about 2 weeks....

and it cant come at a worse time- hannah is SO CLINGY these last couple weeks, i dont know what it is...she was fine with DH when i was at work from month 15-20- all morning with him and stuff...ive been off from work for about 2 months, and now shes back to the way she was when she was like 13-15 months old- i cant take showers without her crying looking for me...if we are in a room together and DH walks in, shell get whiny bc she thinks im leaving...she gets easily irritated with DH at the games they always used to play, its like she doesnt want him touching and talking to her....

so what do i do??? new baby is going to be here SOON- i have a feeling my good girl is going to take a turn for the worse, and i am just going to lose it...tonite, she didnt want to be with my sitter (who she loves and has been sitting for us since hannah was like 9 months old!!)...i left, but she was off and on, crying and looking for me....

what is up with this? does she sense something is about to change and is just trying to get all the time she can with me? or am i just doomed...i mean, whats going to happen- i EBFed for a year, and plan on doing the same with the baby- will she understand that i just cant do hannah time whenever she wants....things are going to be hard and drastically different- i know shell get used to it eventually (hoepfully) but this child of mine has been a complete GEM the last 22 months of her life- she never cries, has never thrown a tantrum, listens so well, loves to help, always does what she is told- things like that....now, she is still a gem, but is just extra clingy, and i dont know what to make of it....

im at such a loss right now....someone please help me....

Message edited 4/21/2008 10:45:43 PM.

Re: I never ask for advice, so it must be serious....

I don't have any experience with this. Maybe she knows things are up? Maybe she noticed you were doing things at the last minute? And she is reacting to the disruption.

Lots of hugs!! Maybe you can ask her to be your little helper when you are back with the baby.

Re: I never ask for advice, so it must be serious....

Message edited 1/8/2011 12:53:54 PM.

Re: I never ask for advice, so it must be serious....

I know exactly how you feel. Ava was a perfect angel until about the same age. I think they just get a little bit "tough" at that age.

They start to feel their independence, and in a way it freaks them out and they want to be around you even more. Mommy is the center of the universe, and they start to show favoritism. Tell your Dh not to be insulted, just to keep up his usual routine with her.

It will get better.

Re: I never ask for advice, so it must be serious....

She absolutely senses something... Cailen is very attached to one of his teachers - the one he used to call mommy (now she's daddy, just like me!!! ) and she is due any day now...

Cailen is very clingy with her, hates when she touches her belly, and will sometimes throw toys at her when she pays attention to her belly!! He won't let her out of his sight either!!!

I am convinced he knows there is a baby in there, because he acts the same way when I talk to any of the infants in his room at daycare!!! I don't know how they know, but they do!!!

Does she like baby dolls? Maybe if she is involved as much as possible and is your helper, she may warm up a bit - thats what happened to my neice!

Good Luck!!!

Re: I never ask for advice, so it must be serious....

I agree, I definitely think she senses something is about to change. She probably sees the prep work for the new baby around the house too, and knows something is affecting her life already & altering it, even in the slightest way like a new room being decorated, new things for the baby, etc.

I'm sure with your reassurances she will do great with the new baby pretty quickly