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Xelindrya
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I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples??? Read update on OP sorry everyone
I have twin brothers (by adoption). I loved being there and helping raise them. They were adopted when I was 16 and they were 3mths (altho they were also 3mth premmies). So I always talk about how I wish my first was twins so I’d be done.
Last night my hubby drops a bomb on me. His family (mother’s side) has twins in the line. When I said I’d kill him if I had twins and all he did was smile that sheepish little smile and said (I swear) “Well I haven’t actually seen my family twins so maybe you’ll be ok”
UHMMMMM!! Cause they all live in China!!! So out of sight out of mind for my hubby. I admit I had a few choice words about his ethnic background that I won’t repeat here, but lets just say bunnies and roaches were mentioned. He just laughed.
Men, Hrmph!
ETA:
Wait
Ya'll misunderstand me.
I'm just venting at my hubby's cutsie face. I love him and I love that we can even have children.
yeah I want twins.. but in a joking way i'd still scream at him (haha?)
Oh well, sorry for the confusion
For me its a terror to be pregnant, i worry all the time, I think I'd worry double if it were twins is all..
AND I JUST NOTICED I CLICKED THE WRONG SMILEY FACE
Really sorry!!! feeling ultra-stupid here.. 
Message edited 1/16/2008 1:23:58 PM.
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mikeswife06
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
First you said you wish your first would be twins, then you said you'd kill him if you did.
I am confused. Maybe it's preggo brain. 
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| Posted 1/16/08 11:56 AM |
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Superkat
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
Actually, you are fairly lucky if you DON'T want twins. Asian people (your husband) are the least likely to be parents to twins. Most likely is black and hispanic. It has been proven genetically. So rest your mind.  Also, twins run in my family. Three generations of twins from my Great Grandfather down. We are only having one. So don't worry so much.
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| Posted 1/16/08 12:07 PM |
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
Posted by mikeswife06
First you said you wish your first would be twins, then you said you'd kill him if you did.
I am confused. Maybe it's preggo brain.
well if you have preggo brain, i have mommy brain because it confused me too
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CaseyGirl
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
Coming from the IF board I think it is terrible to say that.....you should be thankful to be PG with ONE.
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| Posted 1/16/08 12:23 PM |
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JandJ1224
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
I think you should be ok because twins usually mean two eggs dropped (unless they are identical) and that would have to come from your side of the family
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| Posted 1/16/08 12:26 PM |
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Dragonfly75
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
Posted by JandJ1224
I think you should be ok because twins usually mean two eggs dropped (unless they are identical) and that would have to come from your side of the family
That's my understanding -- identical twins can happen to anyone and don't run in families, but fraternal twins happen when 2 eggs are released during 1 ovulation period, so it would run in the mother's side, not the fathers.
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| Posted 1/16/08 12:37 PM |
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usuk2004
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
Posted by CaseyGirl
Coming from the IF board I think it is terrible to say that.....you should be thankful to be PG with ONE.
I dont' think she meant it like that - twins are a huge deal and although a blessing, A LOT of work.
But what others have said is true - identical twins are a freak of nature where the egg just splits for no apparent reason, fraternal twins are due to a tendency to release more than one egg, which is maternally genetic.
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Deedlebugs
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
Posted by usuk2004
Posted by CaseyGirl
Coming from the IF board I think it is terrible to say that.....you should be thankful to be PG with ONE.
I dont' think she meant it like that - twins are a huge deal and although a blessing, A LOT of work.
But what others have said is true - identical twins are a freak of nature where the egg just splits for no apparent reason, fraternal twins are due to a tendency to release more than one egg, which is maternally genetic.
I agree, I really dont think she meant it in a negative way. My father is an identical twin and I was scared to death that I would have twins, mentally and finacially I dont think I could handle it, and it took me a while to get pregnant and I still knew for certain, I would prefer not to have twins.
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
Posted by CaseyGirl
Coming from the IF board I think it is terrible to say that.....you should be thankful to be PG with ONE.
I agree. But I honestly don't think she meant to offend anyone. You actually couldn't be more right........anyone who is able to become pg should be happy and satisfied. Especailly if they never walked on the other side of the fence!!! I wish you lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of  !!!!!!
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babystuff1
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
Posted by Deedlebug126
Posted by usuk2004
Posted by CaseyGirl
Coming from the IF board I think it is terrible to say that.....you should be thankful to be PG with ONE.
I dont' think she meant it like that - twins are a huge deal and although a blessing, A LOT of work.
But what others have said is true - identical twins are a freak of nature where the egg just splits for no apparent reason, fraternal twins are due to a tendency to release more than one egg, which is maternally genetic.
I agree, I really dont think she meant it in a negative way. My father is an identical twin and I was scared to death that I would have twins, mentally and finacially I dont think I could handle it, and it took me a while to get pregnant and I still knew for certain, I would prefer not to have twins.
Trust us.. coming from the other side of the world.. having one child would be a blessing let alone twins.. I just think that when people have it easy they complain about things they shouldn't. There is no other way she could have meant it.. She is scared to have twins, right? or she is going to kill her husband because he didn't tell her twins run in the family.. I don't understand what other way to take it.. Please explain it to me.
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CaseyGirl
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
I'm sorry...I didn't mean to fly off like that...just having a hard time right now 
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Deedlebugs
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
Posted by CaseyGirl
I'm sorry...I didn't mean to fly off like that...just having a hard time right now
so sorry
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usuk2004
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
Posted by CaseyGirl
I'm sorry...I didn't mean to fly off like that...just having a hard time right now
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Xelindrya
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
Wait
Ya'll misunderstand me.
I'm just venting at my hubby's cutsie face. I love him and I love that we can even have children.
yeah I want twins.. but in a joking way i'd still scream at him (haha?)
Oh well, sorry for the confusion
For me its a terror to be pregnant, i worry all the time, I think I'd worry double if it were twins is all..
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
Posted by babystuff1
I just think that when people have it easy they complain about things they shouldn't.
I don't think that's fair to say. Everyone has a right to complain about whatever it is that is upsetting or bothering them. There isn't a scale that judges who has more rights to feel a certain way. Her problems to her shouldn't be diminished just b/c someone else would be glad to have "her problems".
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Dragonfly75
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples???
Posted by babystuff1
Trust us.. coming from the other side of the world.. having one child would be a blessing let alone twins.. I just think that when people have it easy they complain about things they shouldn't. There is no other way she could have meant it.. She is scared to have twins, right? or she is going to kill her husband because he didn't tell her twins run in the family.. I don't understand what other way to take it.. Please explain it to me.
You are absolutely right. It is so easy for us to take pregnancy for granted and to joke about things like this. After hearing other's stories of infertility I will never again complain about the cost of sending my son to daycare, as a friend once said, "you're lucky. You got pregnant for free."
But, the Pregnancy board is the place for posts like this. A place to joke around about the ups and downs of being pregnant and raising children. No one is trying to hurt anyone else.
Best of luck to you!
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CaseyGirl
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples??? Read update on OP sorry everyone
Xelindrya and I spoke over FM....and I apologized, I should have kept my mouth shut..
I actually think I should not even come on the PG board at all anymore...it's too hard. Like Colleen said, X's worries are her worries and I did not say what I said to make light of her worries....it just struck a chord with me...
Congrats to all of you who are PG...enjoy every minute... I truly mean that bc I would give anything to be in your shoes..
Sorry if I offended anyone...
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Posted by CaseyGirl
Xelindrya and I spoke over FM....and I apologized, I should have kept my mouth shut..
I actually think I should not even come on the PG board at all anymore...it's too hard. Like Colleen said, X's worries are her worries and I did not say what I said to make light of her worries....it just struck a chord with me...
Congrats to all of you who are PG...enjoy every minute... I truly mean that bc I would give anything to be in your shoes..
Sorry if I offended anyone...
I'm so emotional right now and I lieterally have tears in my eyes!!! I really do feel for you! You seem like such a sweet girl and I hope it all works out for you and DH!!!
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Re: I want to KILL my hubby – Multiples??? Read update on OP sorry everyone
Posted by CaseyGirl
Xelindrya and I spoke over FM....and I apologized, I should have kept my mouth shut..
I actually think I should not even come on the PG board at all anymore...it's too hard. Like Colleen said, X's worries are her worries and I did not say what I said to make light of her worries....it just struck a chord with me...
Congrats to all of you who are PG...enjoy every minute... I truly mean that bc I would give anything to be in your shoes..
Sorry if I offended anyone...
we all have our moments and you are allowed yours too.
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