If your 1st child regressed when your 2nd was born..COME IN PLEASE

So as I have mentione, Miki has been regressing ALOT when it comes to sleeping. I have been sitting with her in her room, humming to her until she falls asleep cause if I don't, she screams and cries until she throws up and bangs on the door

she has not napped in 3 days so I think the days of her napping are OVER.

Last night, I told her it was time for bed about 15 minutes in advance and she did not flip out like she has been , she just asked me if I was going to hum for her....which I did

It took about 20 minutes but then she fell asleep...SUCCESS....or so I thought

she woke up at 3am, again screaming, crying , banging on the door.. Since I was feeding DS , Kevin went in with her and layed with her until 6:30 am (when I went in there to get him so he could get ready for bed)

I KNOW this is a phase and that it will pass, but it is really upsetting me to know that she is so upset and scared...Am I doing the "right" thing in dealing with this. I try to be stern but loving with her and I ALWAYS do special things with her, just me and her, no baby

I know it is regression as she is also sucking her thumb, asking me to feed her, asking me to dress and undress her (when she used to do this on her own)

for those who have went through this, how long did this phase last. I have to go back to work on 12/1 and I NEED her to be a good sleeper like she always has been

Thanks all

Re: If your 1st child regressed when your 2nd was born..COME IN PLEASE

Sarah didn't really regress I don't think. She was really angry. It was much worse when DH was around.

This may sound mean, but maybe for a while cut back on the "special" one on one stuff with her. The new reality is that there is someone else in the house who needs your attention too. I know it sounds mean, but my DH wasn't around much so I needed her to stop being so disruptive and angry as quickly as possible.

I'm not saying don't spend one on one time with her, I did whenever Andy slept. But it was in the house and I didn't make a big deal out of it being special.

I guess I mean that I needed her to realize there was still plenty of time for her and I, but that there also needed to be time in the day for me to be with the both of them and that it wasn't a bad thing. You know?

I hope that makes sense. And I really hope she starts sleeping better for you soon.

Re: If your 1st child regressed when your 2nd was born..COME IN PLEASE

I don't have any experience or advise for you at the moment, but our #2 is coming in less than 5 weeks now and I will let you know what we end up dealing with in how DS handles the whole thing.

In the meantime, hang in there!

Re: If your 1st child regressed when your 2nd was born..COME IN PLEASE

I think this is a girl thing. They are too observant. My daughter freaked out when my son was born and I cried with her for the first 2 weeks. I mean she cried and threw tantrums for no reason. I thought for sure I ruined her by having a second. Every time he had a bottle she wanted a bottle. I mean it was crazy. But it passed the only thing she still does is have a bottle in the morning when he gets his. But it's a phase because the baby is still something new in your home, give it some time and she will go back to her normal ways.