If your DH didn't want another baby did his feelings change when DC #1 got a little older?

I know I want another baby, but DH is in the no way camp.
I keep telling him his feelings might change when DC are older and not little babies anymore, that the not sleeping and all the other NB stuff will fade from his memory. Is there any truth to this, or am I grasping at straws?
Although I do want another, I am not going to push the issue (esp not now) I am blessed with a DD and a DS and another would just be icing on a delicous cake!

Message edited 6/14/2009 8:14:55 AM.

Re: If your DH didn't want another baby did his feelings change when DC #1 got a little older?

I definately think you forget! For me, right after I had DS I swore I was never having any other kids Then by the time he was 4 months I was ready to try again (but he was a VERY easy baby). Once they start sleeping through the night and start turning into little people he might change his mind. I would give it some time and not push the issue.

Re: If your DH didn't want another baby did his feelings change when DC #1 got a little older?

We wanted another baby at one point but now we changed our mind.

It can go either way. There is no doubt that we miss our babies as babies once they are older.

For us it was, "Woo hoo, no more daycare!! Do we really want to start that again?" It can also be the "we're out of diapers, things are easier. Do you really want to go back to that?" type of situations. Looking at our life, I didn't know how we could fit a baby & the care that goes along with a baby between homework, afterschool activities, and our own lives.

Having a baby was a huge shock to our life. While it was very planned, I don't think anyone is prepared for the changes that come along with it. Running to the store becomes a tactical mission between feedings & diaper changes until you get it down better.

I would think after having 2 at the same time, 1 will be a cakewalk for you.

Message edited 6/14/2009 8:58:28 AM.

Re: If your DH didn't want another baby did his feelings change when DC #1 got a little older?

Yes, he has completely changed his mind, and I think it's in part because of everyone else's babies that have been around us. He just can't get enough of our nephew, who is 7 months old, and I think because Ava was such a difficult infant, he thought all infants were that way. Since seeing that so many babies aren't colicky, he's changed his mind completely.

Re: If your DH didn't want another baby did his feelings change when DC #1 got a little older?

Yes - he def. changed his mind. In the beginning he would say "I don't know if I want another" - and then as Jack got older, he became more fun and DH knew he wanted another!

Re: If your DH didn't want another baby did his feelings change when DC #1 got a little older?

From another fellow twin Mom I think maybe. My DH feels the same way-he is DONE, but then he says if I really want it he would. However we did have to do IVF and we could not afford another cycle out of pocket. I'd love to have a girl...I think if you wait until they are almost 2 when they start being mostly cute and fun, then yes maybe he will change his mind