Re: I'm curious to see what you all think...

Posted by nrthshgrl

For the most part, I don't care if a non-parent posts here as long as they're respectful. Frankly some of us parents aren't respectful & hey...I'm not the board police

I've seen the hurt feelings on the Childless Families board & it's a shame. I've been tempted to post there to give my opinion on some of the awful comments that were made to those who were childless & to the awful comments about parents, in general.

Do I want to post "your husband may just find you sexier than ever after you have children" or "yes, I lost my identity for a little while but you find it again & it's stronger than before because you had a child"? ...yes I definitely do. I have to quell my impulse to say "that's awful that someone said that.", etc.

But you know what...I don't really belong there. That is a board that is a safe haven to vent. There's a lot of anger on there because - unfortunately - for those posters on that board, they got the short end of the stick...either because of IF or because of the crappy, crappy people they've come in contact with. That's their place.

Posted by colette

My proposed drama graveyard board would've been so much more fun, and much less divisive.

ITA!

Re: I'm curious to see what you all think...

It doesn't bother me when non parents post on here. As far as commenting on kids and whatnot.

I don't like it, if I see a non parent giving advice about kids. I don't see it much, but when I do it bothers me.

Re: I'm curious to see what you all think...

Posted by CkGm

Don't care- unless you are some psycho child predator

Re: I'm curious to see what you all think...

I will admit that it sometimes bothers me. But not if you are chiming in on how cute a kid is or if you work in a profession where you can offer advice. It's when people give parenting advice and they're not even a parent that can irk me. Granted some people are offering advice through their nieces and nephews or kids they babysat, that's not the issue. It's just the people who think they know it all. But in general, 95% of the time, no it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

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I would have never even given it a second thought had you not posted the poll....I have no problem with it at all!

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I think people should post where they want to post. This is the internet, you don't know if the people posting are who they say they are anyway. I think its silly when people post sorry for coming over to your board, or coming over from the blank-board. Post where you want to post and where the post fits.

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I don't mind for the most part.

But when someone is asking for parenting advice, I honestly don't want advice for someone who is not a parent. Life and perspective are very different when you become a parent and its impossible to understand unless you are in the situation. No matter how many pets, neices and nephews you have, when you get to go home and leave them at the end of the day, its just a different experience. And honestly, I didnt' realize that until I became a parent myself.