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Hi ladies,

Im new here., a friend recommended these forums to me and I really need it.
I lost my little one about 12 days ago. I was 19 weeks and I have been a wreck emotionally ever since. I've been having such a hard time dealing with moving on, I know its early and I've accepted what has happened but I find it so hard being around other people when I am mourning my baby and everyone is in their own element.

I am consumed in why me thoughts, my body still thinks I'm prego and Im still feeling the soarness and hormones!!
Im emotional., Im oily, my chest is ginormous and kililng me...and Im 10 pounds overweight...I want to move on but I still feel prego, when does it go away???

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I'm so sorry for your loss this is a great site and a great place to share, vent and whatever else you need. Did you have a D&C?

from me!

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I am so sorry for your loss

I think it takes everyone different amounts of time to go back to feeling "normal". Honestly, I never really felt pregnant, so I didn't experience a lot of changes before or after. Did you have a D&C? I would think if you did, some of the hormones and other symptoms would start to dissipate soon after, I didn't have one so I'm not sure.

Like Jen said, the girls on this board are super supportive, and it is a great place to talk

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i'm very sorry for your loss and here if you need anything.

you have FM

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I am so sorry for your loss.


It def is very hard having to go through this and I can only imagine how your feel having it happen later in your pregnancy. I can tell you after having my 2nd miscarriage about 2 weeks ago you will start to feel better. Each day I def get a little stronger and start to heal. It helps to spend sometime to mourn and not just throw yourself back into work and reality. My husband and I spent a week off from work and really just had our time alone to be upset.

In terms of physically feeling better, it will def take you a few weeks since you were further along. I know after both miscarriages I felt tired for a week or two....which i believe is just from the changes in hormones & my boobs were still sore for about a week.

Don't worry about the weight, you will lose it! We are here to help motivate you. I am up 10lbs myself after everything...gained 5 each mc due to the stress.



I am sorry again! I am here if you ever need to chat or please feel free to FM

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Thank you all ladies.

I had a D & E at 19 weeks. I had a choice of that or giving actual birth. I chose D & E so that it wouldnt be traumatic to me for future TTC. It was a horrible experience.

My baby's heart failed.

How crazy I felt very alone before finding this forum to feeling like I have some support.
Its been hard for everyone around me to give both of us support. DH's family are not the most vocal people and do not express themselves. They do not know what to say. I have found myself to become so angry at those people because I need that support.
Glad to find you girls

My body , being that I waited so long to give it a chance still thinks im pregnant and im going through all the emotions its horrible.

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I'm so very sorry for your loss.

There is a woman on here, her screen name is racheeeee, and she also had a loss at 19 weeks. If you have questions I would try and send her FM (forum mail). She's a wonderful person

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I'm so sorry about your loss and wish you a speedy physicaly and emotional recovery. We are all here for you!

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Im so sorry for your loss... I found this site however to be soo helpful and so supportive during this time.. people really do care and can relate to you!!!

im here if you need to talk

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I think it's hard for people who never went through it to truly give the best support. They always try to say the right things but it's never good enough. Or, if you actually do want to talk about it they shy away uncomfortable. I found that alot..I like to talk things through and felt like people just wanted to ignore it. That's why this site is so great...no one ever makes you feel crazy or alone. I hope you find it comforting.

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Im so sorry for your loss

You really came to the right place though. This board offers a tremendous amount of support and friendship. I have become very good friends with just about everyone on here. In fact most of them will probably know who is hiding behind this fake name ...LOL...but Im going incognito on the site for a while since I just had my 2nd loss and Im not ready to let everyone know just yet.

BUT...just goes to show I cant stay away I love these girls!! Im so sorry you are here but you are in good company

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Posted by trying2keepfaith

Im so sorry for your loss

You really came to the right place though. This board offers a tremendous amount of support and friendship. I have become very good friends with just about everyone on here. In fact most of them will probably know who is hiding behind this fake name ...LOL...but Im going incognito on the site for a while since I just had my 2nd loss and Im not ready to let everyone know just yet.

BUT...just goes to show I cant stay away I love these girls!! Im so sorry you are here but you are in good company

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Posted by trying2keepfaith

Im so sorry for your loss

You really came to the right place though. This board offers a tremendous amount of support and friendship. I have become very good friends with just about everyone on here. In fact most of them will probably know who is hiding behind this fake name ...LOL...but Im going incognito on the site for a while since I just had my 2nd loss and Im not ready to let everyone know just yet.

BUT...just goes to show I cant stay away I love these girls!! Im so sorry you are here but you are in good company

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Thank you all for ur suggestions and FM and everything else

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I am so sorry for your loss. Like PP mentioned you will find a tremendous amount of support and friendship on this board.

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I know you already know, but I also had a loss this year in March at 19 weeks, I had to deliver and then I had a D&C, it was pretty traumatic, but to be honest, I knew that if something wasn't right, it was the best thing that the pregnancy ended. I didn't so much mourn the loss of my baby (which may sound callous) but I did mourn the end of my hopes and dreams at that point. My body recovered pretty quickly and I felt pretty good after about a week. I did have about six weeks off of work, which I definitely needed at the time!

My best advice, just think positively!!! I knew that only good things were going to come to me after the worst had happened, and you know what, after two cycles, on the first try, I got pregnant and I am 31 weeks pregnant with the little girl I have always wanted, so come March I will have one of each!

I know this is probably a personality thing, but I didn't dwell on it for too long, I really did just try to move on as quickly as possible, and I say to you my mantra...Only good things to come for you!!!

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I am so sorry to hear about your loss. But as I think you've already discovered, this board is a great source of support for a lot of us.

I hope you find some comfort here.

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Posted by racheeeee

I know you already know, but I also had a loss this year in March at 19 weeks, I had to deliver and then I had a D&C, it was pretty traumatic, but to be honest, I knew that if something wasn't right, it was the best thing that the pregnancy ended. I didn't so much mourn the loss of my baby (which may sound callous) but I did mourn the end of my hopes and dreams at that point. My body recovered pretty quickly and I felt pretty good after about a week. I did have about six weeks off of work, which I definitely needed at the time!

My best advice, just think positively!!! I knew that only good things were going to come to me after the worst had happened, and you know what, after two cycles, on the first try, I got pregnant and I am 31 weeks pregnant with the little girl I have always wanted, so come March I will have one of each!

I know this is probably a personality thing, but I didn't dwell on it for too long, I really did just try to move on as quickly as possible, and I say to you my mantra...Only good things to come for you!!!

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Posted by PhillyGirl

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. But as I think you've already discovered, this board is a great source of support for a lot of us.

I hope you find some comfort here.

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First off, I am so sorry for your loss

If you ever need to talk please feel free to FM me.

I had two m/c.. one at 10 weeks and another at 15... I understand what you are going through.. as well as the rest of the girls on this board.. everyone is great support......

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Thank you so much Same goes for me..if you need to talk im here

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I'm so sorry for your loss . These girls on here are such a great support, so I hope you find the comfort that you need at this very sad time

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I am so sorry for your loss. We are all here for you

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I don't really have any words of advice, but I wanted to let you know that we're all here if you just want to vent, ask questions, or just need to know that someone's listening out there. I can't imagine what you're going through. I'm devastated and I was only 5 weeks. You'll be in my prayers. Sending you lots of hugs!!