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EricaAlt
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Immature 6th grader
Maybe bc my son really hasn't been in middle school much or bc he's a boy, but he seems sooo immature for his age.
He's the older brother so he has learned more from some of his friends who have older siblings. My younger son is in 4th and sometimes seems to know more than my older son.
Still watches cartoons on Nick like Loud House and his sense of humor is silly.
Again, it could be normal, but sometimes I feel he's still too silly. He does have a lot of friends, somewhat athletic (meaning he can keep up and enjoys playing) and gets really good grades. Most of his closest friends are really into sports so he learns a lot playing with them.
Maybe I'm overthinking it bc he is happy.
Just the other day he asked about how babies get in the mom's belly. I guess I thought he knew. Ugh! Now I have to have the talk with him. LOL Just seems too old to not know or maybe I'm wrong. LOL
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LittleDiva
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Immature 6th grader
I’ve noticed there are two extremes when it comes to that age. There are overly mature kids and more immature kids. It’s a weird time. I’d rather my child be more innocent (immature I guess) than what I’ve heard and seen from some of these more mature kids.
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| Posted 1/28/21 2:33 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Immature 6th grader
Posted by LittleDiva
I’ve noticed there are two extremes when it comes to that age. There are overly mature kids and more immature kids. It’s a weird time. I’d rather my child be more innocent (immature I guess) than what I’ve heard and seen from some of these more mature kids.
Thanks! That's what I was thinking. I speak with friends who's boys are so into girls and the flirting. My son has friends that are girls, but does NOT know how to flirt. I hear him talk to his friends (bc they all have to be on speaker Facetime  ) and his friends will talk about girls and my son always picks our neighbor bc they grew up together. I know he doesn't have feelings for her, but just tries to join in on the convo. LOL
Yes, he really is so innocent.
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NervousNell
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Re: Immature 6th grader
I feel like kids grow up way too fast these days, so I'd be happy to have a child who is more on the innocent side. It won't last forever, so just enjoy it.
I used to feel like my DD was definitely more immature for her age, and in some ways she still is, but now, in the middle of 5th grade, I notice her becoming more mature.
But the bottom line is, kids mature at their own pace so as long as he is happy, can socialize with other kids his age, etc, I wouldn't worry too much about it.
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| Posted 1/28/21 2:42 PM |
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nycbuslady
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Immature 6th grader
Yeah, I agree with everyone else. Everyone matures at a different pace. As long as he's socializing with friends and is happy, that's what matters.
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JME78
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Immature 6th grader
If he's social and keeps up with schoolwork I wouldn't worry about it.
There are worse things than for kids to like cartoons and have a silly sense of humor.
My mother always said that my brother was immature in elementary - but once he got to 7th he was fine.
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PitterPatter11
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Immature 6th grader
I have 9th graders who fit the description of your son and they seem well adjusted - have friends, play sports, do well in school - so I wouldn't be concerned.
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seaside
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Re: Immature 6th grader
From what I can tell, this kind of "immaturity" is often more of a sweetness and innocence, and the kids who possess it can be surprisingly mature when it comes to emotional intelligence, kindness, and academics.
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| Posted 1/28/21 2:51 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Immature 6th grader
Ok, thanks all!!
Yes.. has a lot of friends and some are def more mature than him and his best friend is just as silly.
He's doing great in school and his teachers love him.
I just keep telling him to try and be the example being the older brother where he goes down to his brother's level... and not being in school doesn't help either. LOL
Hasn't fully experienced middle school yet.
Plus he's on the short side, which doesn't effect him, but he does get a lot of people thinking he's younger than he is.
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LittleDiva
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Re: Immature 6th grader
Posted by EricaAlt
Ok, thanks all!!
Yes.. has a lot of friends and some are def more mature than him and his best friend is just as silly.
He's doing great in school and his teachers love him.
I just keep telling him to try and be the example being the older brother where he goes down to his brother's level... and not being in school doesn't help either. LOL
Hasn't fully experienced middle school yet.
Plus he's on the short side, which doesn't effect him, but he does get a lot of people thinking he's younger than he is.
He’s the oldest? I definitely find in most cases the older child matures slower and the kids who are overly mature tend to have older siblings.
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| Posted 1/28/21 2:53 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Immature 6th grader
Posted by LittleDiva
Posted by EricaAlt
Ok, thanks all!!
Yes.. has a lot of friends and some are def more mature than him and his best friend is just as silly.
He's doing great in school and his teachers love him.
I just keep telling him to try and be the example being the older brother where he goes down to his brother's level... and not being in school doesn't help either. LOL
Hasn't fully experienced middle school yet.
Plus he's on the short side, which doesn't effect him, but he does get a lot of people thinking he's younger than he is.
He’s the oldest? I definitely find in most cases the older child matures slower and the kids who are overly mature tend to have older siblings.
Yes! But funny thing is his group of "boys" he hangs with most all have older siblings. He's the only one who has a younger one.
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Re: Immature 6th grader
I feel like I was pretty immature up until 5th/6th grade and then sometime in 6th grade and definitely 7th grade- everyone had moved on from toys to boys and I ran to catch up.  It didn't take long, I wouldn't worry!
ETA: I'm the oldest, too!
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seaside
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Re: Immature 6th grader
Posted by EricaAlt
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Posted by EricaAlt
Ok, thanks all!!
Yes.. has a lot of friends and some are def more mature than him and his best friend is just as silly.
He's doing great in school and his teachers love him.
I just keep telling him to try and be the example being the older brother where he goes down to his brother's level... and not being in school doesn't help either. LOL
Hasn't fully experienced middle school yet.
Plus he's on the short side, which doesn't effect him, but he does get a lot of people thinking he's younger than he is.
He’s the oldest? I definitely find in most cases the older child matures slower and the kids who are overly mature tend to have older siblings.
Yes! But funny thing is his group of "boys" he hangs with most all have older siblings. He's the only one who has a younger one.
See- I think it's just the opposite. The oldest is the pioneer-the first baby--stays innocent longer--has less to jade/educate him and more of the parents' uncertainty and unsteadiness moving forward. By the time you get to the baby of the family, they're usually precocious beyond words and raising themselves. (JK--but you know what I mean). The oldest ones get to have that more delayed loss of innocence.
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KarenK122
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Immature 6th grader
This age the boys are really split in two - half try to act more mature than they are and the other half act silly. Girls are just awful lol. I think middle school/jr high years are the worst for kids as everyone is developing at their own rate. As long as he is doing fine at school and has a good friend group, I wouldn't worry at all : ).
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Adri
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Re: Immature 6th grader
Posted by LittleDiva
I’ve noticed there are two extremes when it comes to that age. There are overly mature kids and more immature kids. It’s a weird time. I’d rather my child be more innocent (immature I guess) than what I’ve heard and seen from some of these more mature kids.
I agree. DS was this way. He also has always been on the young side. His friends were the same way, and they were called the nerd herds (all of them were smart, athletic kids and very innocent), and the other group was the popular boys. In 7th grade, some of the popular boys started vaping and in 8th grade drinking and doing more stuff. So yes, I was happy with my boy being innocent and immature.
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ali120206
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Immature 6th grader
My son is 11 and is in 5th but I don't think he knows how babies get in bellies yet (he missed out on the "talk" at school last year because of covid).
He watches cartoons, has a lot of friends, plays sports, plays a wide array of video games, watches a lot of shows that maybe some younger kids like, but still believes in Santa. But he's not in a position where anyone would call him out for being immature... I think it's normal at that age to be a mix of both.
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GoldenRod
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Re: Immature 6th grader
Hey! There's nothing wrong with watching Loud House! 
DW and I will watch Teen Titans Go! without DC around (they're 14 and 17, so they've mostly outgrown it, but I haven't  )
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NervousNell
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Re: Immature 6th grader
Posted by ali120206
My son is 11 and is in 5th but I don't think he knows how babies get in bellies yet (he missed out on the "talk" at school last year because of covid).
He watches cartoons, has a lot of friends, plays sports, plays a wide array of video games, watches a lot of shows that maybe some younger kids like, but still believes in Santa. But he's not in a position where anyone would call him out for being immature... I think it's normal at that age to be a mix of both.
I don't think they had the how babies are conceived talk at my DD's school yet and she's in 5th now.
They did that in 4th at your school?
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jlm2008
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Re: Immature 6th grader
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by ali120206
My son is 11 and is in 5th but I don't think he knows how babies get in bellies yet (he missed out on the "talk" at school last year because of covid).
He watches cartoons, has a lot of friends, plays sports, plays a wide array of video games, watches a lot of shows that maybe some younger kids like, but still believes in Santa. But he's not in a position where anyone would call him out for being immature... I think it's normal at that age to be a mix of both.
I don't think they had the how babies are conceived talk at my DD's school yet and she's in 5th now.
They did that in 4th at your school?
I don't know what year they do it now, but we did this in 3rd grade. And that was in a Catholic school.
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NervousNell
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Re: Immature 6th grader
Posted by jlm2008
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Posted by ali120206
My son is 11 and is in 5th but I don't think he knows how babies get in bellies yet (he missed out on the "talk" at school last year because of covid).
He watches cartoons, has a lot of friends, plays sports, plays a wide array of video games, watches a lot of shows that maybe some younger kids like, but still believes in Santa. But he's not in a position where anyone would call him out for being immature... I think it's normal at that age to be a mix of both.
I don't think they had the how babies are conceived talk at my DD's school yet and she's in 5th now.
They did that in 4th at your school?
I don't know what year they do it now, but we did this in 3rd grade. And that was in a Catholic school.
I remember we had the period talk in like 4th grade when I went to school- I don't remember much else.
But my daughter's school has not yet.
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EricaAlt
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Re: Immature 6th grader
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by ali120206
My son is 11 and is in 5th but I don't think he knows how babies get in bellies yet (he missed out on the "talk" at school last year because of covid).
He watches cartoons, has a lot of friends, plays sports, plays a wide array of video games, watches a lot of shows that maybe some younger kids like, but still believes in Santa. But he's not in a position where anyone would call him out for being immature... I think it's normal at that age to be a mix of both.
I don't think they had the how babies are conceived talk at my DD's school yet and she's in 5th now.
They did that in 4th at your school?
His school was supposed to be 5th last year, but Covid they never did. The one where the separate the girls and boys. I did hear they play a video so may have to find it. LOL
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EricaAlt
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Re: Immature 6th grader
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Hey! There's nothing wrong with watching Loud House!
DW and I will watch Teen Titans Go! without DC around (they're 14 and 17, so they've mostly outgrown it, but I haven't )
I CANNOT stand Teen Titans. LOL!
Yes, they watch that one too once in a while, but those guys annoy me.
I don't mind Loud House as much and I did like Henry Danger, but NOT a fan of Danger Force.
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GoldenRod
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Re: Immature 6th grader
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by GoldenRod
Hey! There's nothing wrong with watching Loud House!
DW and I will watch Teen Titans Go! without DC around (they're 14 and 17, so they've mostly outgrown it, but I haven't )
I CANNOT stand Teen Titans. LOL!
Yes, they watch that one too once in a while, but those guys annoy me.
I don't mind Loud House as much and I did like Henry Danger, but NOT a fan of Danger Force.
Teen Titans, or Teen Titans Go!
They have the same characters, and even the same voice actors, but very different art style, and very different writing style.
I'm assuming you mean TTG, since that is the one with the bizarre, immature humor. TT is a darker anime style.
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nycbuslady
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Re: Immature 6th grader
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by ali120206
My son is 11 and is in 5th but I don't think he knows how babies get in bellies yet (he missed out on the "talk" at school last year because of covid).
He watches cartoons, has a lot of friends, plays sports, plays a wide array of video games, watches a lot of shows that maybe some younger kids like, but still believes in Santa. But he's not in a position where anyone would call him out for being immature... I think it's normal at that age to be a mix of both.
I don't think they had the how babies are conceived talk at my DD's school yet and she's in 5th now.
They did that in 4th at your school?
His school was supposed to be 5th last year, but Covid they never did. The one where the separate the girls and boys. I did hear they play a video so may have to find it. LOL
In my daughter's school they did that in 5th grade. They showed a video that explained the changes they were about to to go through. The girls and boys were separated, but both groups saw both videos. They explained that sperm and an egg unite to form a baby. But, they never explained how the sperm gets to the egg!
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LSP2005
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Re: Immature 6th grader
My kids school taught that in fifth grade. But we just had a conversation sparked by a 400 response thread on my town Facebook group about the future of sex Ed in my state. There is legislation proposed for NJ to begin discussing trans, condoms, consent, in kindergarten. I think that is way too young to talk about condoms at that age. Fifth grade includes the fact that boobs hurt before periods. You should have seen the outrage some parents had over the curriculum changes.
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