In Laws, new baby, holidays etc

Just curious if any of you had problems early on with in laws (before you had a baby), how things have changed or stayed the same since you've had a child, and if other things have changed (like where to go for holidays etc)

I don't want to get too into it, but my in laws suck, not really a big part of our lives (thank god), DH hopes they change after baby is here (which I hope they don't), and DH hopes we can go there for some holidays....my MIL has said/done some really rude/mean things to me in the past and I'm wondering should I put it aside and try again, or just hope that we don't have to spend much time with them

luckily my mom is 5mins away, and in laws are about 2.5hrs away


Just curious to hear other's stories...(oh and this will be our first baby--due in 2 weeks)

Re: In Laws, new baby, holidays etc

fortunately i love my ILs so we try and split all holidays. luckily, there are only a few, since my family is jewish and his is catholic.

plus, we always try and see one family on the actual holiday and the other on a different day - for example, the saturday before mother's day we spent with my ILs and we were with my parents for mother's day.

Message edited 6/29/2009 1:17:30 PM.

Re: In Laws, new baby, holidays etc

I have a great relationship with my in-laws and always have so I don't have this problem.

But, I think it depends on how bad they were.

If there is anyway you can be the bigger person and get past this, I think it's important to try to do that.

Family is so important and these are your DH's parents and the grandparents of your child so for the sake of all that, I would try to move past.

However, I know that some things are insurmountable-just don't know if what happened in your past fits that.

Re: In Laws, new baby, holidays etc

Unfortunately my FIL is deceased and MIL is not well and lives in an assisted living facility...our "issue" is with BIL and that situation did get better for about a year after DS was born and BIL had a daughter but it is back to where it started. You would htink having a child would make people putt he past behind them but unfortunately it doesnt always work out like that.