Invited to a wedding a week before due date...Would you go?

We were invited to a (local) wedding exactly 1 week before my due date. It's early yet to be deciding (wedding/EDD in June), but would you RSVP yes? It's my first, and I know everyone says you go late, but I also think I might rather say no than stick them with empty seats if I wind up going early.

It's a friend of DH's, but not a close friend. We rarely see him.

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You cannot make that decision now.

I was induced exactly 1 week before my due date, and it was decided in a matter of hours. So you can plan to go, but not make it. You have no idea how your pregnancy is going to go and how you will feel then. Some women feel great, some do not.

But I will tell you I had my shower at 37.5 weeks and felt like I was going to die of exhaustion the next day and that wasn't a wedding.

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Personally I would RSVP NO. You may go early and even if you dont, you probably wont feel up to going to a wedding. JMO

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Yeah, I'd probably decline just in case I went early or wasn't feeling up to it. It doesn't sound like he's a really close friend or a family member anyway.

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if it were someone i was incredibly close with - i'd likely talk to them about the chances of not being there, etc...

for someone that's a general, not too close friend, i'd say no. you have no idea what's going to be happening to you then... there's always the chance you could be on bed-rest, you may be doing some major BD'ing to force labor, etc.

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If it's local and you want to go , then definitely say yes. You can explain that you may be a no show if you go early, but otherwise you'll be there.
I was at a wedding 6 days before I gave birth, on the dance floor all night long having a blast. The big joke was that I was going to go into labor at the wedding.

ETA: It's definitely a personal choice, but like I said if you think you would want to go if you weren't pregnant then say yes ... the worst that happens is they have two empty seats, just give them the same gift as if you were there and it shouldn't matter if you are a no show the day of..

Message edited 12/8/2008 10:45:21 PM.

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It's really up to you. I am 2 weeks away from my due date and know the way that I feel now, I wouldn't feel up to going. But every pregnancy is different.

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I would go.

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i felt terrific right up until the day i gave birth. i would probably RSVP yes (who doesn't love a wedding? ) but if you know in advance that you can't go try to let them know a couple of weeks ahead of time, so they might not have to pay for your seats.

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I would go, but if you get updates from your doc before, them keep the couple in the loop

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If you are close to the couple, I would explain the situation and ask them what they would like you to do. If you are not close, RSVP no.

Good luck

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I wouldn't go.... of course this depends on how things are looking when the rsvp is due. I'm not sure it is a good idea to be flip-flopping on the couple at the last minute - they probably have enough to deal with.

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i'd go. dont those old wives tales say dancing helps speed up labor? but then again it all depends on how your pregnancy progresses...

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I would say no, you never know how you will be feeling at that time

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I went to a wedding exactly one week before giving birth...the bride and groom were aware that it was very close to my due date but that we would be there if we could! I had a great time and loved all of the attention I got especially when people would ask when I was due...I would tell them that "today could be their lucky day!"

I was one of those people that did not let pregnancy get in the way. I wore 3 inch silver heels and danced my arse off!!!


I would go!! Weddings are fun...and you can eat for two and no one will say sh1t!!!!

Message edited 12/9/2008 10:46:21 AM.

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I personally wouldn't go. It doesn't sound like this is a close friend since you say you rarely see him. The thing is I guess it depends on how you feel about saying yes than having to cancel if the baby comes early. DD came at 38 weeks, and I know plenty of people who went early so you can't count on the fact that since this is you first you will be late as you just never know.

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I would put in a call to the groom and explain that it's hard for you to commit since it's so far away. I had this happen with a close friend when I was preggo with DS. He wedding was almost 2 weeks after my due date and I had intentions of going. Turns out I was a week late and her wedding was the following week. Because I was BFing, I just attended the coctail hour and left, that way she didn't have to pay for my plate.

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If it was family or a close friend I would try my best to be there (since it's local). For someone that doesn't seem so close I probably wouldn't even make the attempt.

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I had a 6 day old 1 week from my due date so you definitely can't plan these things.

I would say that you would like to make it but you obviously cannot commit. If they can accept that, then great. If not, you'll have to send your regrets.

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I would RSVP no unless I was super close to the couple. In that case, I would tell them the situation so they know that there is a high chance that I would be unable to attend.

You never know when you are going to deliver and how uncomfortable you will feel.