Is anyone else actually dreading TTC again?

I had my miscarriage in January, got AF back in February and actively tried for a couple of months with no success. I decided not to stress it any longer, but promised myself and my DH that I would get serious again after the summer was over. So, I was at CVS today and went down the OPK aisle, stared at them for a minute, but couldn't bring myself to buy them telling myself, "Next month..."

I don't know, I'm just so anxious over the whole thing. I have two wonderful girls and before each of the pregnancies (including the m/c) I was so psyched to TTC, couldn't wait to be pregnant; I did something sort of "cute" to tell my DH each time. Now, my heart is just not in it. I want to be pregnant again, but don't want to go through "it all" again. Plus, I just never want to see the look on my DH's face when we got the bad news ever, ever again.

It seems like most of us can't wait to TTC again, but is anyone else panicked like me?

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I was feeling this way right after my most recent MC but a month and a half later I don't anymore and I don't know why... but to you. You'll know when you're ready and we're here for you when you are

ETA: we're here for you no matter what (not just if you're ready to TTC again)!

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I am very anxious to get pregnant again but Im also really scared. Im trying really hard not to focus on the fear though. I cant EVER imagine going through this again but the desire to be a mother is just so much stronger then my fear of m/c. Maybe its different for me because I have no children already.

There really is no positive way to look at a m/c. When I found out things werent looking good I thought to myself that I would totally lose faith in God if I m/c because I would never understand why God did this to me. Amazingly though, I have more faith on God then ever. I need to believe that this is all for a reason and God willing, sometime next year I will be holding that reason in my arms.

Only you can make peace with what happened and know in your heart when the right time to TTC again will be. Like Ali said, we are ll here for support

Ok, Ill get off my soap box now

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Erin:

I know how scared you must be...I had my first child in Feb 2003 and it was a text book pregnancy and delivery. I had gotten pregnant on my frist try and had no complications. My son was healthy and I could not wait to have another.

When I tried to get pregnant with my second, it took a lot longer and then when I did get pregnant, I had a m/c at 11 weeks it was awful! I took some time and waited until I was ready to try again.

I did get pregnant again and had a baby back in 2007, my baby was born with some challenges and died very unexpectedly at 5 weeks old.

I thought I would never have the strength to do this again.....I agonized for a long time and sought out counceling...I am happy to report that I had another baby back in June - a very happy and healthy baby girl.

It was not any easy decision to make and I was very nervous through out the preganancy but I am so happy I tried again.

You are alot stronger then you think, have faith and know that it will work out. It is a leap of faith..

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I am excited to try again but there will def be some anxiety. I think we are all a little panicked about the "what if's".

I do think it takes away the excitement and fun when we will get our BFP. I will be to nervous that this could happen again.

I think you will know when you are ready. I personally am trying immediately after my first period ...when the doctor said it will be ok. It is worth the anxiety and stress of TTC when I know what I will be receiving one day- a beautiful baby which will be ours.



You will know when your ready. Sometimes it helps to give yourself a few months off.
We are all here when you need to chat or just vent.

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I'm nervous about starting again. I'm terrified of having to go through this again not even sure I would be able to handle it again. BUT I despretly want a child and to be a mother. It's the one thing I always knew I wanted to be. I'm also scared that I won't be able to enjoy the BFP or even the first trimester just worrying that things will go wrong.

I know there isn't much I can do but since the MC i have been living a much healthier lifestyle. I'm doing all I can do about it and the rest is in God's hands.

You'll know when you are ready to start again. You have to find some peace within yourself.

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i'm nervous as this is our first month ttc after 2 losses but i'm trying to stay positive and keep my stress to a low. it's really hard to not think about the bad things, but when you are ready to start again you'll know it!

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